From time to time I see people that want to do things so they can relax, but they feel too guilty about doing it and they spend their “relaxation time” worrying about how many things they have to do or they could do in that time. I sometimes do that too because I’m still learning how to take control over my mind so I can have a better life, relaxation being one part of this.
In my opinion, relaxation is not an optional thing, but more likely a mandatory one. Imagine yourself as a giant meat spring and during the day, you encounter different situations you need to handle. All of them compresses you and sometimes when one problem goes away, two more appear. It might squeeze you so much you can hardly move. And this happens days, weeks, months and even years. How do you think you’d feel? I bet you’d feel tired all the time because you need a great amount of effort to get through the day with all that tension in you and in addition, you’d need extra effort to keep yourself together because each day it passes, it increases the chance for you to burst. You need that tension released somehow, right? This is the role of relaxation.
I think there are two big paths to get relaxed: we either do it mentally and this would relax our bodies too, or we do it physically and it will relax our minds too, but the key here is to get rid of the guilt first. You HAVE to get some relaxation time for you to function properly during the day and you also DESERVE it, otherwise you wouldn’t be tensioned in the first place (but you have to deserve it… I know that some people tend to have only relaxing time without actually doing some work).
The mental part is the hardest because all sorts of thoughts rush to go through in our conscious mind and that might cause anxiety, but it can be mastered in time. Meditation, movies, some time in nature, reading, writing and everything that implies the creative part in us can help with the relaxation process.
The physical part is easier to do because it requires moving your body, so dancing, working out at the gym, massage sessions, swimming, running, boxing and everything related to body movement can help the relaxation process, but you need to want to do it and to enjoy it, otherwise it can create more anxiety because you’ll perceive it as an obligation.
What do you do to release the tension?
Eating lol 😂
Watching movies
And clapping my dogs
Walk helps also …after a good snack 😂
A good snack always helps 😀
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Meditation, yoga and sex are my “go to” choices. I also get professional massage every other week.
If you get all of those every other week, you must be relaxed as f*ck :))
Reading, writing, occasionally getting a pedicure help me. I miss being able to go for walks – that helps a lot – and swimming!
I like this and I want to add a little bit of a different perspective. You know how people tend to guilt themselves with the concept of sin? They hold out, hold out, and then they overdo it and the guilt pushes them towards the thing again? I think something similar can happen if you say, “I shouldn’t relax.”
When you do that, you create a bottle and a cork for yourself, climb in, and then roll around inside. Of course the cork’s gonna blow at some point, it’s just how pressure works.
You’re way better off deleting the guilt and opening the bottle every so often to have some nice, refreshing coke sips. (Mike)
You’re right. Guilt can create that hold back especially if it comes with a low self esteem association and after the blow, some strong nasty addictions can be created. Thank you for your insights! It’s very helpful 😀
I enjoy working with my hands. It doesn’t matter if it’s as something as complex as building new stairs, or as simple as pulling weeds in the flower garden. It’s all good for relaxing.
These kinds of things allow you to go to a certain level of concentration and everything else just doesn’t matter, right? Concentrating on something you like or just keeping an empty mind like a meditative state can be helpful for relaxation. Thank you for sharing your method! It’s very helpful!
nice to get an alternative view, sometimes we approach relaxing with grim determination. thoughtful post
Thank you for reading! In my opinion, relaxation should have nothing grim in it 🙂