I’ve had a lot of difficult moments, enough to make at least ten Lifetime movies. The worst moment for me was when the love of my life walked away. I thought we were on the same page and wanted the same things but then he didn’t. I spent a lot of time trying to figure out what I did wrong. His loss hurt more than my mother’s death or my dad’s abuse. Living in darkness was my norm but to finally see the light and understand what heaven is only to have it ripped away was hard to say the least.
Are you stronger or weaker than before? Simply different? How long did you take to heal?
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I found out just how tough I really am and I’m stronger now. It took a couple of years to get better and it honestly didn’t happen until I realized I had to let them dream go.
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That’s one of the worst feelings. What did he say before he walked away?
Honestly I don’t remember. He kinda told me over and over he was going to go but it didn’t make sense and one day he just stopped talking to me.
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So you don’t have a reason for this behavior?
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I couldn’t tell if they were scared and wanted their freedom or if I said or did something that ran them off. I try not to think about it anymore because wondering and worrying is why it took me so long to get over it.
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The birth of my kids. The pain was excruciating and cannot be described in words! I just don’t know how i managed though all that pain.
A lot of praying and crying. At the end of the day, that hatred led me to the job I have today.
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What job do you have today and how do you feel about it?
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I’m an English instructor now. I love it. I love that I’m helping others achieve their goals. This was something missing from my previous job.
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Living through it as I write this. 3rd month after discovering my wife, and mother of my two children, had a three year affair. And she never wanted to lose me….Advice?
What do you want out of this? Do you want to forgive her, to rebuild trust that was broken? Do you want to move on, and leave this kind of behavior behind? I can’t tell you what to do – you have to decide what you want, and work towards that. It’s going to be uphill, but you will be able to do it.
I don’t know if or what advice I can give about this. It’s very important to know the reason for this affair. Why she did this? If she never wanted to lose you, I believe she wanted to grow old with you, so why did she cheat? Was it because she wanted to f*ck? If it was a three years affair I don’t think that’s the reason. Did she like the attention? Did she like the adrenaline from the fact she did something forbidden? I can understand how you feel and you know her better so if you want to talk more about this, you can contact me on Facebook, Twitter or Email.
I don’t know how to answer that. There have been some really horrible and painful events, but I can’t really tag any of them as the “worst” or “most painful”. They were unpleasant and hellish, and yet… Here I am, a little bit smarter, and lot stronger.
So far, the most difficult moment of my life, as I think, is me telling the person I love that I love her face to face. That is one thing I still have not been able to do. Every other thing as far as I can remember I have found the courage to do, except for this.
Yes we are. But I’m afraid that if I tell her and she refuses, she’ll loose respect for me.
And I’m also her choir master.
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I think it depends about what and how you tell her. How do you think she would react if you ask her for a date?
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I’ll try that. Thanks for the suggestion.
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No problem. If you just tell her how you feel, you might freak her out, but if you just express the desire of going out with her, she might be ok with it.
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That was two years ago when my youngest brother tried to commit suicide and I was terrified that I’d lose him forever.
he was depressed and kept everything bottled up inside until it was almost too late. My mom found him. It was the only day in my life that I never want to relive.
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I’m sure you don’t want to. Is he ok now?
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He is 20 now and doing a lot better. He still gets bad days, but he now knows how to manage it better.
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I’m glad to hear that!
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Thank you!
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Honestly, I believe it was facing my abuser in court. As a child it’s an event that traumatizes you in conjunction with the abuse. Years later, I can also say it’s one of the bravest things I’ve ever done.
I’ve had a lot of difficult moments, enough to make at least ten Lifetime movies. The worst moment for me was when the love of my life walked away. I thought we were on the same page and wanted the same things but then he didn’t. I spent a lot of time trying to figure out what I did wrong. His loss hurt more than my mother’s death or my dad’s abuse. Living in darkness was my norm but to finally see the light and understand what heaven is only to have it ripped away was hard to say the least.
I am sorry…I feel your pain…you are not alone
I’m okay now, but thank you! ☺
Are you stronger or weaker than before? Simply different? How long did you take to heal?
I found out just how tough I really am and I’m stronger now. It took a couple of years to get better and it honestly didn’t happen until I realized I had to let them dream go.
That’s one of the worst feelings. What did he say before he walked away?
Honestly I don’t remember. He kinda told me over and over he was going to go but it didn’t make sense and one day he just stopped talking to me.
So you don’t have a reason for this behavior?
I couldn’t tell if they were scared and wanted their freedom or if I said or did something that ran them off. I try not to think about it anymore because wondering and worrying is why it took me so long to get over it.
The birth of my kids. The pain was excruciating and cannot be described in words! I just don’t know how i managed though all that pain.
I think that your love for them pushed through the pain 🙂
Losing a job that I truly hated. I was forced out by jealousy and good old fashioned racism.
That must have been tough. How did you managed the situation?
A lot of praying and crying. At the end of the day, that hatred led me to the job I have today.
What job do you have today and how do you feel about it?
I’m an English instructor now. I love it. I love that I’m helping others achieve their goals. This was something missing from my previous job.
Living through it as I write this. 3rd month after discovering my wife, and mother of my two children, had a three year affair. And she never wanted to lose me….Advice?
What do you want out of this? Do you want to forgive her, to rebuild trust that was broken? Do you want to move on, and leave this kind of behavior behind? I can’t tell you what to do – you have to decide what you want, and work towards that. It’s going to be uphill, but you will be able to do it.
I don’t know if or what advice I can give about this. It’s very important to know the reason for this affair. Why she did this? If she never wanted to lose you, I believe she wanted to grow old with you, so why did she cheat? Was it because she wanted to f*ck? If it was a three years affair I don’t think that’s the reason. Did she like the attention? Did she like the adrenaline from the fact she did something forbidden? I can understand how you feel and you know her better so if you want to talk more about this, you can contact me on Facebook, Twitter or Email.
I don’t know how to answer that. There have been some really horrible and painful events, but I can’t really tag any of them as the “worst” or “most painful”. They were unpleasant and hellish, and yet… Here I am, a little bit smarter, and lot stronger.
Those moments are part life so we can only learn from them and move on. “What doesn’t kill you, it makes you stronger”.
Or in my case “Stranger” 😛
realising time escaped me , my dad died before i could tell him the truth
I’m so sorry for your loss…
So far, the most difficult moment of my life, as I think, is me telling the person I love that I love her face to face. That is one thing I still have not been able to do. Every other thing as far as I can remember I have found the courage to do, except for this.
Are you two friends? What do you think it’s stopping you to do it?
Yes we are. But I’m afraid that if I tell her and she refuses, she’ll loose respect for me.
And I’m also her choir master.
I think it depends about what and how you tell her. How do you think she would react if you ask her for a date?
I’ll try that. Thanks for the suggestion.
No problem. If you just tell her how you feel, you might freak her out, but if you just express the desire of going out with her, she might be ok with it.
That was two years ago when my youngest brother tried to commit suicide and I was terrified that I’d lose him forever.
That must have been horrible. Do you know why he tried to do it?
he was depressed and kept everything bottled up inside until it was almost too late. My mom found him. It was the only day in my life that I never want to relive.
I’m sure you don’t want to. Is he ok now?
He is 20 now and doing a lot better. He still gets bad days, but he now knows how to manage it better.
I’m glad to hear that!
Thank you!
Honestly, I believe it was facing my abuser in court. As a child it’s an event that traumatizes you in conjunction with the abuse. Years later, I can also say it’s one of the bravest things I’ve ever done.
Yes, I think it was very brave.
😊