Let me tell you a little story about how I got the conclusion that perspective is everything and it can be achieved by asking yourself questions when you see you have “wild” thoughts. As many people, I have frustrations and as many people I was not paying attention to them, that sh*t can’t harm us too much, right?
No, it’s wrong. While some frustrations can make us stronger, some makes us weak. When we’re weak, we can be very easy influenced especially by the things related to those frustrations. A few months ago I was killed by that combination. Because of that, I did some crazy things despite my true beliefs. The frustration voices in my head got so loud and I believed them, while my true inner voice was silent. Was it too shocked to react?
From time to time, that silent voice did said something like “WTF ARE YOU DOIN’?”, but I didn’t listen to it. The feeling that somehow my frustrations are satisfied was strong, too strong and my morality was down. Until a certain point where that silent voice decided to play the same game and some automatic thoughts about the outcome of my actions came. I realized I was having a problem. That was the moment I decided I needed to do something to fix my head and the first thing I did was to start this blog. Writing helped me throw out all the voices in my head while spreading everything on “paper”. I started to question everything and since I don’t have all the answers, I’ve started to search them outside… in psychology books and youtube videos and the more I learn, the more interesting everything gets and I’m trying to share as many useful things I can in an interesting way.
While is normal to have frustrations, it should also be normal to fix them somehow. Maybe the outcome is not the one expected, but the trying can make things better and when we start surrounding ourselves with “perspective”, we might get to the point of interiorizing it.
I don’t know if what I just said makes sense, but my conclusion is this: frustrations need to be acknowledged because almost every person has them and after acknowledging and naming them, we have to start working on them because we can get f*cked in so many ways we cannot even imagine. As I say with each occasion I have: our thoughts influences our emotions and our behavior without us realizing this, but if we question the thoughts we have, we might get in control of our minds.
What do you do to “fix” your frustrations?