35 thoughts on “Question of the Day – No. 138

    1. I assume you told that in a moment you were angry or sad, right? Even it is hard, if you really want to connect to them again, you can

      1. I’ve tried calling them; but, the person who answered told me that wasn’t their phone number anymore. I tried sending letters and posting on their social media & YouTube accounts. Nothing.

      1. Same way most people do…I just drifted through life because I thought I had plenty of time left. One day you’re 14 with a bunch of dreams you’re going to make real someday, and the next you’re 40 with more days behind you than there are ahead of you, and you finally realise that you’re on the clock and you’d better get a move on 😀

  1. Mine is a biggie. Since I post anonymously, though, I’m going to spill. When I separated from my ex, he told me he would walk out of my two teens lives and disappear from the surface of the earth so that I had no support unless I terminated a pregnancy. Feeling pushed into a corner, I complied with his demand. Biggest regret of my life. I now have a toddler with my new husband. It helps, but it’s still hard to let go of.

    1. That’s very tough. It’s one of those moral dilemmas with two f*cked up choices. Does he now want to meet the two teens?

      1. He was always in the teens lives. That was part of the dilemma. Do I allow him to walk out of their lives and mess them up, too? He’s still in their lives now that their in their twenties. What is really messed up is that the man, who said he never wanted to raise children again, now has a toddler with the new wife. She did 20 years for murder. Unbelievable.

  2. Well, briefly looking back in history, I played the cards I were dealt with at the time based on the knowledge that I had at the time…not likely I would have changed history because it helped me to become what I am today… so I guess I don’t have any regrets to let go of… the only regret I may have for the future is not being able to type faster…. 🙂

  3. Due to the nature of the incident, I can’t go into details about my biggest regret. (Nothing illegal, racist, etc. but I can’t discuss it due to privacy issues.) There was a buildup of feelings, combined with my not being sober at the time (I was also fasting, so any alcohol I had was… a bad idea), and I said some things that had the potential to have honestly ruined someone else’s life, and I have not forgiven myself for it. I have learned a great deal from the experience, but I fell into an awful depression for the first few months of 2018 as a result of what happened. It was an ordeal. The anniversary of the event is approaching, and I feel so much anxiety about it. If I could go back and change one thing about my life, it’d be that one, for sure.

    Aside from that, in general I look back on my past and wish that things had been different here and there, but when I really think about it… I wasn’t ready for those things to have happened at the time. For example, when I was in my late teens, I wish that I had gone out and dated more people. But when I was actually 17-19, I had a lot of other issues going on, so if I had dated more people, I may have ended up in unhealthy relationships. That’s just one example, but I think about things like this about my younger self a lot, and I come to the same conclusions. “If I only I had done ______ at age _____” but in retrospect, it wouldn’t have been good for me at that time. Maybe what I really regret is that I didn’t have to confidence, support, and knowledge during my youth that I have now.

    1. Yes, probably it wouldn’t have been so good to do some things at that time. I think that regret comes due to accumulating experience and info which we did no have at that point. We evolved and now we can see things from a different perspective which we couldn’t do at that point. So you probably did what you could at that point and in those conditions. Regret is a sign of evolution. 🙂

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