As I am not shackled to any religious, social or other ideologies, as I venture down the path, I make whatever minor adjustments needed to deal with whatever challenges, large or small, I may encounter… I am still able to follow my dream, living life, so I don’t sacrifice anything.. 🙂
“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.” William Arthur Ward
Yes, to each their own…. 🙂 it is one’s life, only that person can live it, will only get one try at it so need to live it their way… 🙂
“The one who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd. The one who walks alone, is likely to find himself in places no one has ever been.”
Albert Einstein
Writing fiction…too much of my time is taken up writing non fiction for money. Need a better balance. But I also need to spend more time practicing mindfulness…it makes me more focused and creative.
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I actually had already made a change: breaking away from social media. When you develop the shakes as if you been on a caffeine binge, or when your attitude is affected from reading and ingesting all of the negativity posted…yeah, it’s time to let it go. I’ve been able to focus on my writing and bettering my voice.
Temporary pleasure (such a spending) so my older daughter gets to and from school, and my younger daughter has pull ups and both clothes. Occasionally, I’ll pick up a bottle of wine.
I had to let go of my older children and just let them live and learn their own way. It was the hardest thing ever did as I don’t like failure and I see them do this in things they do everyday. i used to always make it go away..but now I realized that they have their own lives. I miss being around them as much though. being a mother is not the easiest job ever
No, it’s not. You can help them with advises if they ask for, but they decide if they’ll take that for granted or if they want to test and see on their own the impact
Har har. Bullshit. What life do you mean? My life? My own personal life as completely separate and selfish from another human being? Or my own life as part of a network, or (much much smaller scale) as part of my family? Because I have said again and again, I will do anything for them, I would even sacrifice my own happiness and identity for them, but it’s up to them how they choose to respond to me *doing my thing*, which has always been me *doing my thing*.
Well then, in the context that everyone else seems to have answered… I’ve sacrificed a whole fucking lot already and it’s out of my hands and up to other people now. There’s absolutely zero more I can give up. I’m in my “rest and recover” period, after the sacrifice. And all because people can’t see that my body is doing the healing, they criticise my selfishness for “not doing anything”. So.. if I’m to sacrifice AGAIN? It really depends on what’s happening at the time.. the moment influences the sacrifice.
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If sacrificing makes your life worse, don’t do it! You come first! Always! If you are strong, you can help others. But if you already gave up everything, you probably need to recover. The sacrifices have been made.
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It was all metaphorical stuff. I told my husband it’s so hard to change when I don’t know what I’m letting go of to get there. He said to me that I don’t have to know everything, I just had to start. That’s all. All my “planning and organising” couldn’t go on indefinitely. So I said ok. I said I’d go for it. And ever since then… whoosh, like a rollercoaster I could feel in my body. Excited to start and then the eventual crash and burn in my body. Physical and psychological and spiritual *burning in the flames of hell* and shit just went as they did. I kept trying to pick up the pieces, but the more I did, the worse it got. My body’s endocrine function just… Like… what do you even do? I like giving and helping. But it’s like I’m not allowed to do that anymore. Because it fucks me up. I literally have to just sit back and be selfish, and watch my husband (who has always been my rock) struggle to “clean up the mess I’ve left behind”. It fucking sucks. But I just gotta… keep on. You know?
Thank you thank you for acknowledging that I do need to recover. It’s stuff like that which “filleth my cup”
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Yeah, I know what you mean. I wish I could do more, but all I have for you right now is words 🙂
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Nah it’s all good 🙂 I’m all about the words! Haha
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Sacrifice time and expend the energy on proper exercise. Also getting my mind right on eating right. That last one could take some time.
Move out of our comfort zone.
I totally agree with that! I often say to myself that the we can do nothing in life if we don’t get out of our comfort zone.
Laziness, worries, and some comfort
Something hard to do, but possible 🙂
As I am not shackled to any religious, social or other ideologies, as I venture down the path, I make whatever minor adjustments needed to deal with whatever challenges, large or small, I may encounter… I am still able to follow my dream, living life, so I don’t sacrifice anything.. 🙂
“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.” William Arthur Ward
It’s exciting to “adjust” and just sail… But, I see pros in being each mentioned.
Yes, to each their own…. 🙂 it is one’s life, only that person can live it, will only get one try at it so need to live it their way… 🙂
“The one who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd. The one who walks alone, is likely to find himself in places no one has ever been.”
Albert Einstein
Best life! 🙂
Time. I need to devote more time to the things that will make a difference.
Things like…?
Writing fiction…too much of my time is taken up writing non fiction for money. Need a better balance. But I also need to spend more time practicing mindfulness…it makes me more focused and creative.
Makes sense.
I actually had already made a change: breaking away from social media. When you develop the shakes as if you been on a caffeine binge, or when your attitude is affected from reading and ingesting all of the negativity posted…yeah, it’s time to let it go. I’ve been able to focus on my writing and bettering my voice.
I get that. And it’s interesting to see that the negative things drive more attention than the positive ones.
My head. Overthinking.
Overthinking can be a curse, but it can be an asset as well.
Temporary pleasure (such a spending) so my older daughter gets to and from school, and my younger daughter has pull ups and both clothes. Occasionally, I’ll pick up a bottle of wine.
Sounds like a plan!
Separating needs vs wants, pushing past what I don’t feel like doing, time management… There’s more but that’s the main things
If these are the main things, you can start working on them and others will be easier to deal with.
The need to always be right.
Tough one! We got used to feel good when we’re right so it’s hard to let go that good feeling.
Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “If you have the choice to be right or kind, choose kind.” I try to do that. Maybe it’s time to stop trying and just do it. 😊
Holding on and control. Release resistance so I can float down the stream without reaching out to cling on every passing rock along the shore 🙂
How do you think you can do that?
I had to let go of my older children and just let them live and learn their own way. It was the hardest thing ever did as I don’t like failure and I see them do this in things they do everyday. i used to always make it go away..but now I realized that they have their own lives. I miss being around them as much though. being a mother is not the easiest job ever
No, it’s not. You can help them with advises if they ask for, but they decide if they’ll take that for granted or if they want to test and see on their own the impact
Har har. Bullshit. What life do you mean? My life? My own personal life as completely separate and selfish from another human being? Or my own life as part of a network, or (much much smaller scale) as part of my family? Because I have said again and again, I will do anything for them, I would even sacrifice my own happiness and identity for them, but it’s up to them how they choose to respond to me *doing my thing*, which has always been me *doing my thing*.
Whatever you consider being “your life”.
Well then, in the context that everyone else seems to have answered… I’ve sacrificed a whole fucking lot already and it’s out of my hands and up to other people now. There’s absolutely zero more I can give up. I’m in my “rest and recover” period, after the sacrifice. And all because people can’t see that my body is doing the healing, they criticise my selfishness for “not doing anything”. So.. if I’m to sacrifice AGAIN? It really depends on what’s happening at the time.. the moment influences the sacrifice.
If sacrificing makes your life worse, don’t do it! You come first! Always! If you are strong, you can help others. But if you already gave up everything, you probably need to recover. The sacrifices have been made.
It was all metaphorical stuff. I told my husband it’s so hard to change when I don’t know what I’m letting go of to get there. He said to me that I don’t have to know everything, I just had to start. That’s all. All my “planning and organising” couldn’t go on indefinitely. So I said ok. I said I’d go for it. And ever since then… whoosh, like a rollercoaster I could feel in my body. Excited to start and then the eventual crash and burn in my body. Physical and psychological and spiritual *burning in the flames of hell* and shit just went as they did. I kept trying to pick up the pieces, but the more I did, the worse it got. My body’s endocrine function just… Like… what do you even do? I like giving and helping. But it’s like I’m not allowed to do that anymore. Because it fucks me up. I literally have to just sit back and be selfish, and watch my husband (who has always been my rock) struggle to “clean up the mess I’ve left behind”. It fucking sucks. But I just gotta… keep on. You know?
Thank you thank you for acknowledging that I do need to recover. It’s stuff like that which “filleth my cup”
Yeah, I know what you mean. I wish I could do more, but all I have for you right now is words 🙂
Nah it’s all good 🙂 I’m all about the words! Haha
Sacrifice time and expend the energy on proper exercise. Also getting my mind right on eating right. That last one could take some time.
I need to do that last thing as well…
My changes need to be more physical. I need to start exercising soon and reduce sugar intake…
Can you start today?
I’m sacrificing sleep in order to work more, but I try to keep 6 hours of sleep per night so my health won’t have to suffer.