Question of the Day – No. 179 What’s the most helpful thing you’ve done this year for yourself? Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrMoreLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailLike this:Like Loading... 75 thoughts on “Question of the Day – No. 179” Add yours Without sounding like I’m full of self wankery, the most helpful thing I did for myself was actually be honest and open with doctors about my health and mental health. Even though they didn’t actually change anything, it allowed me to be okay with.. owning up to a lot of crap inside. LikeLiked by 8 people Reply THAT is an amazeballs things to do! Difficult as hell, takes a lot of guts, and no self wanking involved. LikeLiked by 4 people Reply Thank you. 🙂 I really appreciate that. LikeLiked by 2 people I appreciate you being open about it (and beating me to saying it!). We aren’t really trained to deal with emotional health. Owning up to the inner crap is a very brave thing to do. LikeLiked by 4 people Thanks so much. It feels weird saying it as if it’s brave though. Doesn’t feel brave. LikeLiked by 2 people It is very brave. Being vulnerable takes a lot of strength, if you’re expressing it as a way to become healthier, if that makes any sense. LikeLiked by 2 people You took the responsibility for your life 🙂 LikeLiked by 4 people Reply Leaving my job 😊. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply That’s nice! How come you left your job? LikeLike Reply The main one, I am moving. LikeLiked by 1 person Where to? LikeLike Delaware LikeLiked by 1 person Nice! Have you already found a job there? LikeLike I filled out application and did the work on my end. Now all I can do is wait and see what happens 🙂 LikeLiked by 1 person Start engaging with people again. Even though most of it’s only online at the moment, it’s made me start to feel human again. LikeLiked by 6 people Reply I’m so happy you managed to do this! It is indeed a start. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Write. I really do process more when I’m able to articulate, edit and review. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply I totally agree with that! Since I start writing on this blog, I’ve noticed my mind tends to be more structured than before. My thoughts don’t mix up so bad anymore. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply Trying to think first and react second. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply Awesome! That’s what I too try to do especially when I find myself emotionally involved. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply I let go of a lot of resentment towards old “friends” and myself. Now I feel happeir and relieved! LikeLiked by 4 people Reply It’s awesome that you managed to free yourself from that! Now you can move forward easier. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Isolated myself. Proven i can only depend on myself and no one else LikeLiked by 3 people Reply You can! You’re self-sufficient 🙂 LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Thank you 🙃 LikeLiked by 1 person I took a roadtrip! It was nice to unplug from the stress of complicated relationships, etc. take in new scenery, etc. LikeLiked by 4 people Reply You changed your environment and that determined a change in your mindset. Awesome! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Disconnected with some people. Peace of mind felt by me! LikeLiked by 4 people Reply That’s great! Toxic people are not an asset for us and our lives. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Learned to say NO! LikeLiked by 4 people Reply Yes! 😀 LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Losing 10+ pounds. LikeLiked by 5 people Reply I assume it was necessary for your health to improve, right? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply It has certainly helped my twice broken back, if that is what you are asking. I am in much less pain. Another 22 pounds to go. LikeLiked by 2 people Yes, that was what I was asking. I’m glad you’re working so you can solve this issue. LikeLiked by 1 person Endeavouring to get more sleep. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply That’s when our bodies heal. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply I decided to start a new journey so I quit a job of 15yrs, sold my house and moved to NC where I know absolutely no one. My wife and kids are loving it and so am I ☺️ LikeLiked by 5 people Reply What determined you to make this huge change? LikeLike Reply Getting older and feeling the need for adventure, living in Florida for so long and wanting to show my kids the seasons, and overall need for change LikeLiked by 1 person Awesome! LikeLike For me, it’s learning English and tidying up my room! The former gives me a sense of accomplishment and broaden my horizons. The latter helps me become more efficient and focused. I start to cherish things I possess by making good use of them instead of just keeping them.😃 LikeLiked by 4 people Reply If don’t use them, we cannot really appreciate those things, can we? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Yes! I totally agree with you（｡ò ∀ ó｡） LikeLiked by 1 person Writing regularly on my blog. It has helped me grow in many ways. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Me too! This habit clears my mind. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Starting DBT LikeLiked by 2 people Reply That would be a great asset! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Thank you 😊 LikeLiked by 1 person Tried doing all the things that I had put in the back burner for the last decade. And being successful for the most part. And falling in love with myself all over again for just Trying! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply That’s awesome! LikeLike Reply I said goodbye for awhile to my old bicycle and bought a new one. (I used to old but repairing is not rational. May be sometime…) LikeLiked by 1 person Reply How often do you use your bike? LikeLike Reply Weekendly 🙂 I think that bicycle is for parks and open spaces, not for traffic roads. Just you and Mother Nature, (not saying about bicycle 🙂 ). By the by I am listening “Three men on the bummel” by Jerome (not for the first time). Good book. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Accepting myself for who I am. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply That’s great! How did you manage to do it? LikeLike Reply Amazing! Well done LikeLiked by 1 person It took a really long time. Been trying to do that for years, though only this year I realised that in order to accept myself, I need to stop trying to be someone else, stop trying to please people, stop trying to do things that I don’t like, and instead start doing things I like and spend time with people I want to, and all that stuff. Even now, sometimes I do relapse back into one of those masked people I used to be, but mostly I manage to be who I truly am. LikeLiked by 1 person Awesome! 🙂 LikeLiked by 1 person Allowing only positive, loving people in my small circle. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Awesome! How did you managed to remove negative people from your life? LikeLike Reply Not so much removed them….more didn’t invite them back into my inner circle. LikeLiked by 1 person Believe in myself. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply That’s great! What determined you to increase your belief in yourself? LikeLike Reply When I figured out that no one else believed in me. It was a rude awakening, but it awoke a fighter in me. What I found out is that courage is not something a person has when they are born. It develops over the years. I’m just starting a little late, but better late than never. “You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.” ― Bob Marley LikeLiked by 1 person Absolutely amazing! It can be so hard to believe in yourself- especially when no one else around you does. So you have achieved such a great feat that will help you in every way in life. LikeLiked by 2 people Yes! Better late than never! LikeLiked by 2 people Finally, finally start believing in myself. And loving myself. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Great! What determined the change? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply The people around me. I got rid of the toxic relationships and allowed myself to flourish into loving ones. LikeLiked by 1 person How hard was it for you to do that? LikeLiked by 1 person Quite difficult to say goodbye to some people because I loved them. But life is so much better now, it’s more than worth it. LikeLiked by 1 person Love doesn’t necessarily mean we should take in all the crap our loved ones bring. We can accept that opinion, but if we cannot detach ourselves from it and it’s affecting us badly, we need to eliminate the source. LikeLiked by 1 person Exactly. I appreciate your words so much. Thank you LikeLiked by 1 person Reply ❤ LikeLike Reply Leave a Reply Cancel reply Enter your comment here... Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Email (required) (Address never made public) Name (required) Website You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Google account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Twitter account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Facebook account. 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