Without sounding like I’m full of self wankery, the most helpful thing I did for myself was actually be honest and open with doctors about my health and mental health. Even though they didn’t actually change anything, it allowed me to be okay with.. owning up to a lot of crap inside.
I appreciate you being open about it (and beating me to saying it!). We aren’t really trained to deal with emotional health. Owning up to the inner crap is a very brave thing to do.
I totally agree with that! Since I start writing on this blog, I’ve noticed my mind tends to be more structured than before. My thoughts don’t mix up so bad anymore.
I decided to start a new journey so I quit a job of 15yrs, sold my house and moved to NC where I know absolutely no one. My wife and kids are loving it and so am I ☺️
For me, it’s learning English and tidying up my room! The former gives me a sense of accomplishment and broaden my horizons. The latter helps me become more efficient and focused. I start to cherish things I possess by making good use of them instead of just keeping them.😃
Tried doing all the things that I had put in the back burner for the last decade. And being successful for the most part. And falling in love with myself all over again for just Trying!
It took a really long time. Been trying to do that for years, though only this year I realised that in order to accept myself, I need to stop trying to be someone else, stop trying to please people, stop trying to do things that I don’t like, and instead start doing things I like and spend time with people I want to, and all that stuff. Even now, sometimes I do relapse back into one of those masked people I used to be, but mostly I manage to be who I truly am.
When I figured out that no one else believed in me. It was a rude awakening, but it awoke a fighter in me. What I found out is that courage is not something a person has when they are born. It develops over the years. I’m just starting a little late, but better late than never.
“You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.”
― Bob Marley
Absolutely amazing! It can be so hard to believe in yourself- especially when no one else around you does. So you have achieved such a great feat that will help you in every way in life.
Love doesn’t necessarily mean we should take in all the crap our loved ones bring. We can accept that opinion, but if we cannot detach ourselves from it and it’s affecting us badly, we need to eliminate the source.
Without sounding like I’m full of self wankery, the most helpful thing I did for myself was actually be honest and open with doctors about my health and mental health. Even though they didn’t actually change anything, it allowed me to be okay with.. owning up to a lot of crap inside.
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THAT is an amazeballs things to do! Difficult as hell, takes a lot of guts, and no self wanking involved.
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Thank you. 🙂 I really appreciate that.
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I appreciate you being open about it (and beating me to saying it!). We aren’t really trained to deal with emotional health. Owning up to the inner crap is a very brave thing to do.
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Thanks so much. It feels weird saying it as if it’s brave though. Doesn’t feel brave.
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It is very brave. Being vulnerable takes a lot of strength, if you’re expressing it as a way to become healthier, if that makes any sense.
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You took the responsibility for your life 🙂
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Leaving my job 😊.
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That’s nice! How come you left your job?
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The main one, I am moving.
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Where to?
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Delaware
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Nice! Have you already found a job there?
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I filled out application and did the work on my end. Now all I can do is wait and see what happens 🙂
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Start engaging with people again. Even though most of it’s only online at the moment, it’s made me start to feel human again.
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I’m so happy you managed to do this! It is indeed a start.
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Write. I really do process more when I’m able to articulate, edit and review.
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I totally agree with that! Since I start writing on this blog, I’ve noticed my mind tends to be more structured than before. My thoughts don’t mix up so bad anymore.
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Trying to think first and react second.
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Awesome! That’s what I too try to do especially when I find myself emotionally involved.
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I let go of a lot of resentment towards old “friends” and myself. Now I feel happeir and relieved!
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It’s awesome that you managed to free yourself from that! Now you can move forward easier.
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Isolated myself. Proven i can only depend on myself and no one else
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You can! You’re self-sufficient 🙂
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Thank you 🙃
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I took a roadtrip! It was nice to unplug from the stress of complicated relationships, etc. take in new scenery, etc.
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You changed your environment and that determined a change in your mindset. Awesome!
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Disconnected with some people. Peace of mind felt by me!
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That’s great! Toxic people are not an asset for us and our lives.
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Learned to say NO!
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Yes! 😀
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Losing 10+ pounds.
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I assume it was necessary for your health to improve, right?
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It has certainly helped my twice broken back, if that is what you are asking. I am in much less pain. Another 22 pounds to go.
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Yes, that was what I was asking. I’m glad you’re working so you can solve this issue.
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Endeavouring to get more sleep.
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That’s when our bodies heal.
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I decided to start a new journey so I quit a job of 15yrs, sold my house and moved to NC where I know absolutely no one. My wife and kids are loving it and so am I ☺️
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What determined you to make this huge change?
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Getting older and feeling the need for adventure, living in Florida for so long and wanting to show my kids the seasons, and overall need for change
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Awesome!
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For me, it’s learning English and tidying up my room! The former gives me a sense of accomplishment and broaden my horizons. The latter helps me become more efficient and focused. I start to cherish things I possess by making good use of them instead of just keeping them.😃
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If don’t use them, we cannot really appreciate those things, can we?
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Yes! I totally agree with you（｡ò ∀ ó｡）
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Writing regularly on my blog. It has helped me grow in many ways.
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Me too! This habit clears my mind.
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Starting DBT
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That would be a great asset!
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Thank you 😊
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Tried doing all the things that I had put in the back burner for the last decade. And being successful for the most part. And falling in love with myself all over again for just Trying!
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That’s awesome!
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I said goodbye for awhile to my old bicycle and bought a new one. (I used to old but repairing is not rational. May be sometime…)
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How often do you use your bike?
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Weekendly 🙂
I think that bicycle is for parks and open spaces, not for traffic roads.
Just you and Mother Nature, (not saying about bicycle 🙂 ).
By the by I am listening “Three men on the bummel” by Jerome (not for the first time).
Good book.
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Accepting myself for who I am.
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That’s great! How did you manage to do it?
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Amazing! Well done
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It took a really long time. Been trying to do that for years, though only this year I realised that in order to accept myself, I need to stop trying to be someone else, stop trying to please people, stop trying to do things that I don’t like, and instead start doing things I like and spend time with people I want to, and all that stuff. Even now, sometimes I do relapse back into one of those masked people I used to be, but mostly I manage to be who I truly am.
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Awesome! 🙂
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Allowing only positive, loving people in my small circle.
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Awesome! How did you managed to remove negative people from your life?
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Not so much removed them….more didn’t invite them back into my inner circle.
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Believe in myself.
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That’s great! What determined you to increase your belief in yourself?
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When I figured out that no one else believed in me. It was a rude awakening, but it awoke a fighter in me. What I found out is that courage is not something a person has when they are born. It develops over the years. I’m just starting a little late, but better late than never.
“You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.”
― Bob Marley
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Absolutely amazing! It can be so hard to believe in yourself- especially when no one else around you does. So you have achieved such a great feat that will help you in every way in life.
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Yes! Better late than never!
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Finally, finally start believing in myself. And loving myself.
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Great! What determined the change?
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The people around me. I got rid of the toxic relationships and allowed myself to flourish into loving ones.
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How hard was it for you to do that?
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Quite difficult to say goodbye to some people because I loved them. But life is so much better now, it’s more than worth it.
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Love doesn’t necessarily mean we should take in all the crap our loved ones bring. We can accept that opinion, but if we cannot detach ourselves from it and it’s affecting us badly, we need to eliminate the source.
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Exactly. I appreciate your words so much. Thank you
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