Today we have a pastor in tha’ house! Bishop T.D. Jakes is also an author and a filmmaker who has some motivational speeches from time to time. Just as with Eric Thomas, I love the energy he uses to transmit his message. I believe he manages to successfully combine religion with practicality because he often says how we should trust God’s plan whilst pushing through all our difficulties we face in life toget to where we want to go.
We’re only living one life at a time. I don’t know if I was something or someone else before just as I don’t know what happens after we day. Sure, we can speculate and we can believe in lots of possible scenarios, but we don’t know for sure since we haven’t experienced it yet. What we do know for sure is what we’re living right now and we can estimate how our “right now” can evolve in time based on our actions. If God has a plan for us, we need to execute upon it so it seems that it all comes to action, again.
I must say, it is interesting to see how a bishop transmits the idea we shouldn’t leave all the hard work to God so the plan gets executed, but instead we need to do that hard work because at the end of the day, it’s our life.
You can find below a video made by Evan Carmichael with his view about Top 10 Rules for Success that T.D. Jakes applies in his life.
As almost always, it’s very hard to choose. For today, I’ll go with rule #4 (Be authentic to your core) because I believe we firstly need to be in harmony with ourselves before starting any journey in life, otherwise we might end up sabotaging ourselves.
Which rule do you like the most?
As a non-believer, I strongly agree that we should put the work in ourselves. So many people expect other people, external circumstances or God to hand things to them on a plate. We have to take responsibility for our own lives and wellbeing.
Be fruitful 🙌🙌🙌🙌
Yes! We always get the results of the seeds we put in (good or bad).
Exactly mate
Thanks for sharing dis kind of post on ur wall
I like the metaphors of seeds and weeds.
It is interesting and pretty accurate I believe.
Off topic: You probably heard new ideas: let children have more rest, more freedom, more imagination and responsibility.
It means less homeworks, less children clubs and circles, less parent study control and so on.
So you can get creative self-reliant person and… get him to the bottom of the class and a man with no hobby (art or sport skill) at all.
The question: what way do you choose for you/your children: to take part in “rat races” or to be “the bottom of the class”?
I think you’ve state the extremes here (please correct me if I’m wrong). I think we need to set boundaries and live the child free in those boundaries based on their age and based on what they say they want (we use what they want as a way to guide them into developing certain skills, not to give them the freedom they want). So yeah… they can be creative and all of that in the space we “design” for them.
What boundaries are:
two foreign languages
two kinds of sports
one music art
one drawing art
and good marks at school?
What is a standard?
Have we any right to design future for our kids?
How do see this? Hey, John, you must play violin and be a good diver also you must know French in all other you are apt what you want and be free creative person? Suppose John have baseball mania and low grades. You say: “John, you are good!” or “John, don’t make a fool of yourself!”?
If John tells you that he likes drawing and if you see him doing daily, you can go and sign him up to a drawing class. I believe we have the right to offer our kids the best outcome based on what they like. You say “John, you did this good, but you can do it better by improving this thing if you want to be better at this”. Celebrating what’s good and pointing out what’s bad means guidance.
I am not trying to drive at something. I don’t know right answer. Of course there is Buddha’s golden middle – the right way of doing everything but I am an interesting in details.
You know if one makes out of his child Mozart or Rafael or Wayne Gretzky chances are he will succeed. But (modern psychologists) say this is wrong way of rising children.
So there is a dilemma: to make work for your kid, (deciding, urging, asking, controlling, advertising and so on), or just to don’t hinder him and to hope for the best?
I believe that as long as we’re no expert in the areas our children want to evolve, we cannot decide what’s good and what’s bad for them in that area. That’s the job of a mentor.
From my understanding, the question is if we can and have the right to push them in a certain area or if we should let them develop by themselves, right?
“From my understanding, the question is if we can and have the right to push them in a certain area or if we should let them develop by themselves, right?
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Yes, thats one side of the coin and other is are we ready take rough with a smooth and allow a kid be a looser in other respects? (Good sportsmen but poor in school or good musician but with weak muscles etc)
So you see the paradox. If we plan child future we are masters of his fate in some sense BUT if we don’t decide we allow him to get low in some important (or not important) things.
What should we do. Where is our responsibility lay?
I see your point. Well, I believe that our children can be “looser” in some aspects in the regards that they only need to know the basics. We, as adults, are not experts in all areas and neither should our children although we might want for them to be the best at everything. It’s important for our children to know whatever they need to have a good life, and for this they don’t need to excel at everything, but if they want to excel at something, we can support them in that area.
I have an example for showing how parents can set boundaries and still provide experiences: my wife’s parents knew that smoking might be an issue because some of my wife’s friends smoked (when she was a teenager). They decided not to forbid smoking for her, but they said to her that if she wanted to try this experience, she needs to do it at home in their presence so they can help her if she got sick. I found this to be an awesome parenting skill.
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/oct/19/homework-three-year-olds-too-young-rat-race
Suppose you want to teach kid as in Finland. Is it possible to do not being in Finland?
Can you quit “rat race” minding thats its not child’s choice but yours?
Suppose you say, “My son, don’t do this tedious homework. Be like a Finn. Don’t listen your teacher”.
Are you with a “system” or should go against it (by advice of modern psychologists) (minding you are making choice for other individual) ?
You can go with the system when it’s good for the child and go against it when it’s bad for the child. The question is: how do you decide what’s good for the child and what’s bad for the child? Well, you can learn more about children development so you can understand what’s helpful for them and what’s not. You can also seek for countries where the well-being of their people is at the highest and look for the reasons why is it the highest. If education is a reason, search more about the educational system in that country and try to apply some of their techniques at home with your child. At least, that’s how I see things right now. Does it make some sense?
All of it!! It’s good to go to God but He does want us to try to figure things out on our own. Many misconstrue what He expects of us. He’s just like an Earthly father, teaching us the guidelines but letting us figure things out on our own. And if we have questions along the way, we can most definitely ask.
Awesome perspective! 😀
i love T.D.! I’ve caught his show a few times and I love his perspective on things.
Yes, and he has a very interesting way to explain things.
I like “Pull out the weeds” for the fact that it would be the hardest one for me to do.
I think it’s the hardest for all of us. A huge step forward is knowing that those weeds exist and that pulling them off can be a huge asset.
Great work, great devotion, inspirational and encouraging. Keep up the great work
Thank you! 🙂
Most importantly, you need to know which ones are the weeds before you go pull out what actually had to be rooted. Thank Jesus for the Holy Spirit for guidance on that
Yes! And that require a great level of self assessment.