Question of the Day – No. 211 Are the words you choose bringing out the best or worst in the people you care about most? proposed by temperate5cat Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrMoreLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailLike this:Like Loading... 20 thoughts on “Question of the Day – No. 211” Add yours Been married for 14 years now and my words are just normal as anything else for my family members. We all are chilled and relaxed with each other’s mannerisms and behavior now. 😃🙂 LikeLiked by 2 people Reply That sounds like an awesome environment! I’m really happy you managed to create it! Congratulations! 😀 LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Ignorance is bliss😃😃 LikeLiked by 1 person Uuuugggghhhhhh. I don’t know. Because with the people I love the most, they get the unadulterated version of me. I’m supposed to be able to express myself freely with them, rather than mince my words to placate their feelings. I would like to assume they know me better than that. But! We are all human and subject to emotions and the whim of the momentary tone of the words. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply So what emotions do your words trigger most of the time? LikeLike Reply Well. It is more my tone perhaps? I dunno. When I speak, not write, I am quite “flighty” and revert to sound effects, onomatopoeia, gestures, and whatever. Lol I am living a pantomime. Haha. So it is my energy that people respond to If I am excited I literally bounce up and down and clap my hands and squeal “yay!”. Whatever emotion I experience, if I communicate it at all, people feel I am directing that energy towards them and they reciprocate or retaliate I kind. And I am like “uuhh I’m sorry! I’m just emoting! Why can’t I just express myself? It’s not about you!” (Thats when I’m feeling upset. I’m trying to tell them I’m just pissed, not pissed at them! Or even if I am, it’s only temporary! I’ll get over it. They should get over it too) LikeLiked by 2 people It depends on the words and who they’re being said to….what kind of words are they “tough love” where you say something to motivate a person to do more or are the words condescending to bring them down and make them feel stupid because of your insecurities? I give words based on what’s given to me. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply From my understanding, you try to balance what you get with what you give when it comes to words. Actually, maybe it’s about the feelings those words trigger, not the words themselves. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Should I always choose to speak in a helpful way? Yep. Do I? Nope. It seems those we love most get the worst of our words, especially in anger. I’ve had to apologize for some pretty brutal honesty-as my husband has as well. However, overall we should all be working on the Golden Rule. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply I hope that in the end, there is understanding about where those words come from and why. I believe it is more important than the words themselves. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply It always matters what we say. I def think it’s important to “tame the tongue”…words can either build up or break down someone. Even when we are angry or frustrated, we should express our emotions and thoughts in a way that we won’t regret how it comes out…but the right words and tone can be meant for good. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Yeah, but the problem is that when we’re “possessed” by some sort of emotion, we hardly find the “right” words to express ourselves… LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I definitely agree. I week ago, I found myself in an awkward situation where I was accused of something falsely. Anyway to protect my friends privacy I remained quiet with the person accusing me…instead I vented to a guy friend who didn’t respond the way I hoped…. we never swear or say unkind words to each other but I was “possessed” by nagging.. I guess in this situation it matters how we respond .. ? LikeLiked by 1 person It does… maybe the words used when venting were not the proper ones for that guy to understand your point of view… LikeLiked by 1 person I’m trying really hard to put what I want to express in a positive context by avoiding words with n’t at the end of them. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply How do you manage to stop yourself from reacting out of the emotion you feel in that moment? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply It’s really hard. I try to use STOP (Stop, Take a step back, Observe, Proceed). LikeLiked by 1 person You will have to ask those that I have spoken/written to… 🙂 “The life I touch for good or ill will touch another life, and that in turn another, until who knows where the trembling stops or in what far place my touch will be felt.” Frederick Buechner LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Sooo you have no insights about the impact you have on other people’s lives? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Nope… 🙂 “When a friend is in trouble, don’t annoy the friend by asking if there is anything you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it.” E. W. Howe LikeLiked by 1 person Leave a Reply Cancel reply Enter your comment here... Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Email (required) (Address never made public) Name (required) Website You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Google account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Twitter account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Facebook account. ( Log Out / Change ) Cancel Connecting to %s Notify me of new comments via email. Notify me of new posts via email.