Provided by WSB from Livin On
The need to be happy is a need that consumes many, if not all people. We all want to be happy, More specifically we all want to be in a constant state of happiness.
We love and fear happiness. We love happiness because it’s uplifting and takes us out of the sadness that many of us live in, and we fear it because we often find that it doesn’t last. In many cases happiness leaves as fast as it comes, leaving us desperate, and willing to do anything to achieve it.
The search for happiness is like a drug, and we’re always in constant pursuit of it, with nothing to show for it when we’re done. In many cases, we have moments where we’re happy, then the high leaves and we’re transported back to reality. Some of us even feel silly for having pursued it in the first place.
But what if happiness isn’t meant to be a constant state? What if happiness only exists in brief moments? Teasing us as it comes, and leaving us yearning for more. What if happiness can only exist in short bursts of time?
We find happiness in events that don’t have a long shelf life. For example the happiness felt when getting your dream job, can only last as long as it can. The happiness you felt when finally seeing your loved one after a year can only last so long and so on.
I ask you to think of moments when you were truly happy. What made you happy and could that happiness have lasted longer based on the event?
The same theory should be applied to sadness. Sadness can only last so long, though we tend to think it overstays its visit, sadness cannot reign in our hearts forever because there are other emotions to experience. We cannot be defined by one emotion, which is why we have to calm our hearts by reminding ourselves that the storm will pass, and that life will get better.
Accepting the fact that happiness is fickle, and comes and goes as it pleases may help us come to terms with the fact that not everyone is happy all the time. It may also help us better appreciate the moments when we find that we are actually filled with joy and a smile exists in our hearts, because though it may not last, it exists and it is there, and it is possible.
When’s the last time you were truly happy?
Do you think you have trouble believing that not everyone is happy all the time? If you do believe this saying do your actions reflect this belief?
Tips and tricks- in times of sadness remind yourself that the storm will indeed pass.