As you may or may not know, a limiting belief is any belief of yourself where you believe you cannot do or achieve something.
I can’t do well at at this project because of my boss hating me.
I can never start a successful business because my family has always failed at starting their own business.
I won’t go to the gym, because I’ll look like an fat old slob and people will laugh at me.
You get the point. Most, if not, all of us have had these beliefs before.
And the annoying thing about them is that they simply hold us back from something we secretly want to do, sometimes even dream of doing, and always sort make us suppress our desires. Terrible.
So what can you do about them?
I’ll give you two pieces of advice. Two pieces that have helped me breakthrough limiting beliefs.
#1 Stop overthinking
Most limiting beliefs begin to manifest themselves after overthinking something. With overthinking comes doubt, and with doubt comes an inhibition to take action.
So start asking yourself some thought-provoking questions like ‘How is this belief absolutely ridiculous?’ or ‘Was the person I learned the belief from worth modeling in this area?’ or ‘What will it ultimately cost me emotionally/financially if I don’t let go of this belief?’.
#2 Manage your past
I know, whatever happened can’t be changed. Unfortunately though, the origins of 90% of the limiting beliefs we have, come from events that occurred in our past.
In this respect, the trick is to start accepting that your past does not equal your future. This may be tough to manage as our psyche tends to categorize new experiences into so-called ‘schemas’. These are pre-determined categories that have formed from past experiences. Ever met someone new and caught yourself thinking ‘Oh yeah, he’s just like one of my other friends!’ I’m sure you have. So all you do is categorize that new person you met into an existing ‘file’ or ‘schema’ in your head. In psychology, this is referred to as a ‘cognitive short-cut’, simply because our brain is too lazy to create a new ‘file’ for the new person we met. Even though our psyche may find it difficult to accept, you need to start working on incorporating the fact that your past doesn’t equal your future.
It doesn’t! And never will! Get that thought into your head!
What are your limiting beliefs? Do you make efforts to overcome them?
Let me know 🙂