What is the ideal me¿ Some kind of intellectual monster lurking in the shadows ready to give wisdom to those merely willing to seek? I have no idea what I am now but I’m not that.
The difference between me and my ideal self, is one factor. 2018 has been a Great Year and I am solid on my path, it took me a lot longer to get here than I wanted too but I understand why that time was needed. My ideal and self and me are pretty much aligned and I am grateful, that one factor is working itself out and by 2019, I am trusting we both will be aligned.
If had to pinpoint a start date it would be 3 years ago, I do the work on the alignment daily. Every step I push towards focus, passion, and purpose creates towards the alignment. As mentioned time was needed to realize the ideal me and me are only one factor away, and that’s because I spent the majority of my time holding on to what I thought I should be doing instead of living what I am created to do. And as I mentioned in a previous writing Chase and Worry became a past of my life for two decades.
I had so many dreams, and ideas given to me when I was youth. Most of my graduating class signed in my yearbook somethings they saw I should do in my Future that aligned “more” with my path. The “road” I decided to take was the one my family choose, and that was not my path. Were all my choices created by a family decision , NO, but going in that direction I searched for along time aiming to fill a void that only lead to some not so smart choices, Was everything that happened from those choices bad, No, but somethings, yes, I would do over again. Walk in more confidence, courage, self-esteem, these are the factors that hinder ideal self.
Once I accepted and embraced my path in a short period of time things began to change. So now I know, ideal me and me will soon align and by 2019, as long as I stay in this direction things will only get better. And that perfection I have aimed for, for so long was there all along just needed the mind, heart, and Character to not only see it, but live it to the best of my ability each day granted.
My screen is not showing a reply button to your last question so I hope this comment follows.
I would like to say pain is a cocoon to shape a better version of ourselves when we aim to find Truth, Love, and Healing. If we go inside that cocoon to seek answers and healing I believe we come out better, as I have many analogies comparing our trails to that of a butterfly.
But if we go inside with bitterness and resentment the pain only creates hurt as I witness many who are miserable and only aim to hurt others but let them tell it everything is fine.
I’ve read many articles and books that basically stating when you hit rock bottom the only way is up. But I also know lyrics to a song “I see you down when are you going to get up?” I am grateful to say my pain caused me to go up. Confidence, Courage, Prayer and Focus helps me to stay up and continue to raise higher. Along with my lovely 3 children who keep me encouraged and on my toes.
That’s incredibly loaded because everything is so inter-tangled together that to isolate and identify any particular thing (for even hypothetical examination) basically causes grief elsewhere. So maybe what I need is someone who is patient enough to help my dredge through my own mental sewerage. lol
there are none; perceived ideals are often revealed when self accepts the role of mid-wife. it’s the birth of ‘true’ self that hangs in the perceived void of ‘difference’.
My ideal self is a wise person, enjoying everything completely, dancing, loving, laughing and most of the time sitting quit and doing nothing.
I am on the way and journey seems long
My ideal is coming. To once again be confident in all I do. Success in love,career and health. Most of all learn from all previous relationships the tells of cheating.
After the lesson you’ve learned, it will be hard to get there, at least, at first. But I’m sure you can get there because you’ve been there at one point in your life 🙂
which thing are you trying to be good enough for? Perhaps we can find someone who can help you improve in this regard, or maybe you’re already good enough only time will tell.
Good enough for everyone makes no sense, some of us have very very low standards. Remember, there were people who loved Hitler, you’re better than that right?
I wish you the best of luck with being good enough for you, but have you considered segmenting it categorically, like maybe you’re not up to standards in one regards but maybe you’re punctual enough for your standards?
I must remember myself all the time to breathe and to let go. Especially when I am right with something, especially when I have truth on my side. The only truth that counts is the truth in our hearts, not the one in our minds.
What is the ideal me¿ Some kind of intellectual monster lurking in the shadows ready to give wisdom to those merely willing to seek? I have no idea what I am now but I’m not that.
ECHO ECHO
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Well, in my opinion, you’re an intellectual person that gives wisdom. I guess you need to work on the monster part.
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Thanks I’ll get right on that!
ECHO ECHO
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Thank you so much for your reblog!
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I like this question- also what is the difference of what you see versus what others see…?
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Thank you! I guess that in order to answer your question we would need to know what others see 🙂
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Yes… which can be good and also a bit daunting. To ask the question I mean. Family, friends and foes. 🙏🏻😌
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Yes, very true!
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The difference between me and my ideal self, is one factor. 2018 has been a Great Year and I am solid on my path, it took me a lot longer to get here than I wanted too but I understand why that time was needed. My ideal and self and me are pretty much aligned and I am grateful, that one factor is working itself out and by 2019, I am trusting we both will be aligned.
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AMEN TO THAT!
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That is just awesome! Since when do you work on this alignment?
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If had to pinpoint a start date it would be 3 years ago, I do the work on the alignment daily. Every step I push towards focus, passion, and purpose creates towards the alignment. As mentioned time was needed to realize the ideal me and me are only one factor away, and that’s because I spent the majority of my time holding on to what I thought I should be doing instead of living what I am created to do. And as I mentioned in a previous writing Chase and Worry became a past of my life for two decades.
I had so many dreams, and ideas given to me when I was youth. Most of my graduating class signed in my yearbook somethings they saw I should do in my Future that aligned “more” with my path. The “road” I decided to take was the one my family choose, and that was not my path. Were all my choices created by a family decision , NO, but going in that direction I searched for along time aiming to fill a void that only lead to some not so smart choices, Was everything that happened from those choices bad, No, but somethings, yes, I would do over again. Walk in more confidence, courage, self-esteem, these are the factors that hinder ideal self.
Once I accepted and embraced my path in a short period of time things began to change. So now I know, ideal me and me will soon align and by 2019, as long as I stay in this direction things will only get better. And that perfection I have aimed for, for so long was there all along just needed the mind, heart, and Character to not only see it, but live it to the best of my ability each day granted.
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What a tough past! But again, pain got you here. Would you say that pain us just a cocoon for us to shape a better version of ourselves?
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Chase and Worry became A PART of my life for two decades
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My screen is not showing a reply button to your last question so I hope this comment follows.
I would like to say pain is a cocoon to shape a better version of ourselves when we aim to find Truth, Love, and Healing. If we go inside that cocoon to seek answers and healing I believe we come out better, as I have many analogies comparing our trails to that of a butterfly.
But if we go inside with bitterness and resentment the pain only creates hurt as I witness many who are miserable and only aim to hurt others but let them tell it everything is fine.
I’ve read many articles and books that basically stating when you hit rock bottom the only way is up. But I also know lyrics to a song “I see you down when are you going to get up?” I am grateful to say my pain caused me to go up. Confidence, Courage, Prayer and Focus helps me to stay up and continue to raise higher. Along with my lovely 3 children who keep me encouraged and on my toes.
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Lots of wisdom in this comment. Thank you!
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There is no “me” so there can be no difference.
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If there is no you, what is it?
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Same as you.
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My ideal self is someone who’s braver and can take on more risk
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What do you do daily to get to your ideal self?
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Discipline
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So your ideal self is more disciplined and it has a purpose?
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Yes
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Purpose
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Self motivation and discipline.
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I’m going with this.
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You plus decline? Insanity.
ECHO ECHO
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I know that your emotions are messing up with your discipline, but what more do you need in order to be able to motivate yourself more?
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That’s incredibly loaded because everything is so inter-tangled together that to isolate and identify any particular thing (for even hypothetical examination) basically causes grief elsewhere. So maybe what I need is someone who is patient enough to help my dredge through my own mental sewerage. lol
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You definitely need that 🙂
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Success
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How would you define success? In what area/areas is your ideal self successful?
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Mainly writing.
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there are none; perceived ideals are often revealed when self accepts the role of mid-wife. it’s the birth of ‘true’ self that hangs in the perceived void of ‘difference’.
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In your opinion, what is true self?
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inner alliteration of g-d expressed as outward resonance.
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Nice question! My ideal self is already successful in many areas. I’m trying to get there one at a time realistically though
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Awesome! In what areas you’re not there yet?
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Nursing career and writing. Both will happen in time but can’t feel I wasted time in the past.
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I know that feeling. At least you’re aware of it and now you know you can do something about it. Sure, it’s hard, but I’m also sure it is worth it.
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My ideal self is a wise person, enjoying everything completely, dancing, loving, laughing and most of the time sitting quit and doing nothing.
I am on the way and journey seems long
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It wouldn’t be that great if the journey would be short, don’t you think?
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I don’t know
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I don’t want to accept it too early I want to see every possible corner of life I could
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Love.
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But really it would be nice
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My ideal is coming. To once again be confident in all I do. Success in love,career and health. Most of all learn from all previous relationships the tells of cheating.
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After the lesson you’ve learned, it will be hard to get there, at least, at first. But I’m sure you can get there because you’ve been there at one point in your life 🙂
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Many times, I only grow.
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My ideal self is confident, empathetic, poised, living in Paris, speaks French, and he’s about 35 years younger.
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The age thing is tough to deal with, but the rest is doable 🙂
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Sure thing!
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Effort and dedication.
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It seems you have the right tools to get there 🙂
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And some time I feel being my ideal is not my destination but it’s only journey. Hahahah
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There is a massive difference
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What can you do to diminish the difference?
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I think I sleep More…😥😨😨
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You sleep more than your ideal self would?
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😅
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For me, it’s how I perceive myself. Right now, its in a mostly negative light.
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Where does this negative “light” comes from?
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A feeling of never being good enough, which goes back as far as I can remember in my childhood
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which thing are you trying to be good enough for? Perhaps we can find someone who can help you improve in this regard, or maybe you’re already good enough only time will tell.
ECHO ECHO
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for everyone, I suppose. Or myself; I have very high expectations of myself
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Good enough for everyone makes no sense, some of us have very very low standards. Remember, there were people who loved Hitler, you’re better than that right?
ECHO ECHO
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Good point!
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I wish you the best of luck with being good enough for you, but have you considered segmenting it categorically, like maybe you’re not up to standards in one regards but maybe you’re punctual enough for your standards?
ECHO ECHO
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Do you have any idea what put this negative light in you in your childhood?
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Not really. There is no trauma from my childhood, except for parents divorcing when I was 6 or 7
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Maybe it is somehow related. It depends on how you interpreted that back then.
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My ideal self is self-assured, confident, able to focus, and has no pain.
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How close are you to that?
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Miles to go…:(
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I believe in you.
ECHO ECHO
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Thank you! I believe in you too 🙂
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my work-in-progress ability to express love
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What can you do to get there?
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I must remember myself all the time to breathe and to let go. Especially when I am right with something, especially when I have truth on my side. The only truth that counts is the truth in our hearts, not the one in our minds.
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