Feeling Overwhelmed? Use this Quick Tip To Get Yourself Unstuck
Confession: I have had a real rough time over the last couple weeks. I have felt completely overwhelmed and stuck as far as writing, working and mom-ing go, which is why I haven’t posted anything. I know, this can be a busy time of year and there is a lot to plan for. But the truth is, I have not done a damn thing. There has been no writing, as you already know, dear friends. But, there also has been no forward motion at all. I don’t have a single thing done for Christmas, no tree yet, no presents bought or wrapped… I haven’t even written a Christmas shopping list.
I know what you’re thinking….
What are you doing lady! Get moving, already!
Yes, I have been absolutely stuck. Mentally motionless. And it really, really sucks. I know everything I should be doing, but my problem is that I just couldn’t bring myself to start.
Which leads me to my quick mental health and forward motion tip for you all.
“How do you eat an Elephant?
You do it one bite at a time.”
This quote came to me yesterday from a very wise man… ok, it was my husband Steve, but it still clicked for me. I have ADHD, and for anyone who struggles with this as an adult, you probably know what I am going to say next. I have a very difficult time staying motivated or on task with anything that I need to do, even things I enjoy. The “H” in my version of ADHD I consider to be “Hyperfocus,” which means I also can become so zoned in on something that I lose track of time, waste hours on something that isn’t important and I am chronically late.
I became so overwhelmed because I was looking at the big picture of EVERYTHING that I wanted to do. Not only was it a to-do list, it was a list of things that in my mind I wanted to finish perfectly and immediately. Impossible, of course. Unless it is Allie’s irrational brain doing the planning. I was so stuck that instead of starting one thing, I stopped everything. I was literally mentally frozen; I couldn’t even start to think about blogging without feeling my anxiety go up.
Steve’s quote actually unlocked that feeling. I know it sounds really corny, but it was kind of an “A-ha!” moment. I was able to see that I was focusing too much on everything, and not enough on just one thing. Now, I know this is not a new thing, but I believe that if you’re reading this, then you have the same light bulb turning on over your head that I did. It was a good reminder. Sometimes the solution really is the most obvious answer.
When you feel that you are getting bogged down, mentally stuck and motionless, stop looking at the big picture. Find one thing, even it is is as small as emptying the dishwasher, and do it. Dig in, get your hands dirty. And yes, congratulate and praise yourself for taking a step towards moving forward again.
Now, I have read on a lot of blogs and articles that when you write content, you should make it personal without making it too personal. No one really wants to read my diary, I get that. But, I couldn’t share this mental health tip with you without telling you my own experience. I couldn’t advise you how to become un-stuck if I was still stuck. My hope for this quick confessional is that what I shared will open up a conversation with everyone. Please comment below and share your thoughts or experiences, I love to hear from you!