I think I need to limit the time I waste that keeps me from writing. I tend to focus on tasks that keep me from writing, like housework and other things, when what I need to do is sit down and write.
source is by nature unlimited, therefore establishing limits inhibits self-discovery; inhibiting self-discovery obviates development of excellence, if excellence be the aim / if such is the case, life improves by way of natures course.
I wouldn’t say that establishing limits inhibits self-discovery when the areas in which the limits are required are harmful for the self. Sure, this thing itself tells something about the self, but wouldn’t be better for the self to limit the harmful behavior and concentrate more on a helpful one?
It makes sense to view it from that perspective; it’s just that I don’t view things as good/bad; harmful/beneficial (for myself) without context. For example, I work with a nurse that works with a research doctor and for the most part, they test new drugs on pigs and then kill them after the study. During these times she can’t work with me due to her emotional state. As an outsider, it might appear her chosen vocation is harmful to her health and psyche, and surely she at times feels the same, at least this is what she has expressed to me. Point is, she believes or hopes the research will lead to advancement to assist the greater than herself. While her purpose for participation could very well be self-serving, she has still chosen to suffer for the greater than herself by not placing a limit on harm to herself. Sometimes the helpful behavior is perceived as the harmful. Suffering cannot be escaped, perhaps save the course of the Buddhist. It is not my life I am here to exalt and this may be why I don’t perceive limits; it is the behavior that serves best or loves best that is the focus. Often, very often, this will be perceived by others as harmful.
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Yes and this is the reason I mention self-limiting. Only you can realize what’s helpful/harmful for yourself.
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True – I keep my fingers crossed hoping I’m made of steel while keeping a 3rd eye out for random fires – I’ll keep going until I melt. Maybe I’m a witch and should be more concerned about water :/ Thanks for the thinking questions 🙂
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Thank you for being part of this! 😀
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I’ve got to stop thinking I need to please everyone
If you feel you need to stop pleasing everyone, maybe you need to accept this is who you are. Take a different perspective of this and just accept the things you do for others is who you are and be happy with the people that appreciate who you are. I am a people-pleaser also, but I am trying to get the mindset to focus on the people who benefit from my help and the people’s lives I can have an impact on. If you can just help one person each day, then you are doing well. Don’t beat yourself up.
I will be even happier when I succeed at limiting even more the times when I tell myself that I need more and the times that I allow negative self talk.
I set a time frame to plan for a goal, usually one month, and at the end of that month I execute working on the goal keeping in mind it is a work in progress.
I don’t tell the right thing in right place, and then I realized that I should have tell the right thing in right place…And many people misunderstood me for my talking sense, but I didn’t mean it…🙂🙂😉😊
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That’s interesting. What can you do to limit that?
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Stay silent…😉😊😄
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Your questions make me think and I learn from it a lot!! Thank you my friend!
Do it if you think it would help. Even though it doesn’t seems so, there is some freedom in a strict schedule because it switches the decision of doing things from to to the schedule. When the alarm goes off for a certain thing, you just need to respect that alarm’s “decision”. Does that make sense?
Absolutely! If I don’t have that kind of “routine”, I tend to procrastinate and I don’t stay busy, which gives me time to overthink things which gives me anxiety. Haha, an endless cycle
I think I need to limit the time I waste that keeps me from writing. I tend to focus on tasks that keep me from writing, like housework and other things, when what I need to do is sit down and write.
Maybe a schedule can help you with that?
Total adherence to the truth of love!
Love towards what?
Every. Thing.
source is by nature unlimited, therefore establishing limits inhibits self-discovery; inhibiting self-discovery obviates development of excellence, if excellence be the aim / if such is the case, life improves by way of natures course.
I wouldn’t say that establishing limits inhibits self-discovery when the areas in which the limits are required are harmful for the self. Sure, this thing itself tells something about the self, but wouldn’t be better for the self to limit the harmful behavior and concentrate more on a helpful one?
It makes sense to view it from that perspective; it’s just that I don’t view things as good/bad; harmful/beneficial (for myself) without context. For example, I work with a nurse that works with a research doctor and for the most part, they test new drugs on pigs and then kill them after the study. During these times she can’t work with me due to her emotional state. As an outsider, it might appear her chosen vocation is harmful to her health and psyche, and surely she at times feels the same, at least this is what she has expressed to me. Point is, she believes or hopes the research will lead to advancement to assist the greater than herself. While her purpose for participation could very well be self-serving, she has still chosen to suffer for the greater than herself by not placing a limit on harm to herself. Sometimes the helpful behavior is perceived as the harmful. Suffering cannot be escaped, perhaps save the course of the Buddhist. It is not my life I am here to exalt and this may be why I don’t perceive limits; it is the behavior that serves best or loves best that is the focus. Often, very often, this will be perceived by others as harmful.
Yes and this is the reason I mention self-limiting. Only you can realize what’s helpful/harmful for yourself.
True – I keep my fingers crossed hoping I’m made of steel while keeping a 3rd eye out for random fires – I’ll keep going until I melt. Maybe I’m a witch and should be more concerned about water :/ Thanks for the thinking questions 🙂
Thank you for being part of this! 😀
I’ve got to stop thinking I need to please everyone
That is a tough limit to set especially if there is a thought pattern that automatically does that.
If you feel you need to stop pleasing everyone, maybe you need to accept this is who you are. Take a different perspective of this and just accept the things you do for others is who you are and be happy with the people that appreciate who you are. I am a people-pleaser also, but I am trying to get the mindset to focus on the people who benefit from my help and the people’s lives I can have an impact on. If you can just help one person each day, then you are doing well. Don’t beat yourself up.
Great point! ❤️
I will be even happier when I succeed at limiting even more the times when I tell myself that I need more and the times that I allow negative self talk.
Negative self talk is so destructive in the long term. I think we need to concentrate more on limiting that…
Agreed.
I set reasonable time limits and I post them on dry erase boards so that I’m reminded to work on those limits daily.
Do you use those limits only for work?
No. For life goals also!
Awesome! 😀
Limit the TV watching time. Limit time looking at smartphone.
What would you like to do with that “extra” time?
human interaction, work on my arts
I set a time frame to plan for a goal, usually one month, and at the end of that month I execute working on the goal keeping in mind it is a work in progress.
It’s awesome if you can stick to that plan until the work is done!
Listen to my own limits rather than force it on the basis of people’s expectations
That is a very important aspect! We need to stop letting other people deciding our life.
I agree. When I allow myself to get guilted into spending more time than I’d like on someone else’s project… That leaves less time for my own project.
Stop competing with everyone else and cut the distractions. That in and of itself will help.
I agree with you! And it’s so easy to give in to distractions… but those distractions don’t allow us to get things done.
Learn how to say no to people.
In your opinion, what is the best way to do that?
I think the best way is to explain why, and then say no, then walk away. If what they’re making you do is hurting you, you have to say no.
My talking sense…😪
How come?
I don’t tell the right thing in right place, and then I realized that I should have tell the right thing in right place…And many people misunderstood me for my talking sense, but I didn’t mean it…🙂🙂😉😊
That’s interesting. What can you do to limit that?
Stay silent…😉😊😄
Your questions make me think and I learn from it a lot!! Thank you my friend!
Awesome! Thank you for reading them 🙂
I need to stop overgeneralizing certain situations.
Interesting. Can you give some examples?
If one person is gossiping about me, sometimes I feel as if everyone is doing the same thing when I know it’s just that one person.
Why do you think this effect happens?
I think it’s because I’ve been in situations in the past when I was talked about by large groups of people.
I do not set limits… 🙂
That’s great 🙂
Getting on a strict schedule
Do it if you think it would help. Even though it doesn’t seems so, there is some freedom in a strict schedule because it switches the decision of doing things from to to the schedule. When the alarm goes off for a certain thing, you just need to respect that alarm’s “decision”. Does that make sense?
Absolutely! If I don’t have that kind of “routine”, I tend to procrastinate and I don’t stay busy, which gives me time to overthink things which gives me anxiety. Haha, an endless cycle