Oh my! This is a question. Of course, I would want to change multiple aspects of my past. Yet without my past, I would not be where I am today or the person I am today.
I’ve thought countless times of what to change…be more serious anout schooling or my art or skating…but without those choices I likely wouldn’t be in the great place I am now.
absolutely, since choice is nil and end predictive. i’d skip over trauma, heartache, and pain and head straight to
bird status. in other words, the moment changed would be that at conception, wherein it would be rewritten that my soul had repaid all karma, having no need to return to this realm in ‘human’ form; yet onward we go, in constant changing of the guard(ed) heart, flowing with the seasons and holding tight to the lamp of love till meeting expiry date.
Yes, if I had the chance I would go back in time and say goodbye to my dad as I didn’t get the chance to before he died. This regret haunts me everyday since his death and I wish I could change that and the fact that I did not spend much time with him at the end of his life. For the rest, I agree with people above, the past, the experiences and even the mistakes, awkward moments, are things who made me who I am today.
My Dad died in 1977. It was unexpected and I didn’t get a chance to say goodbye as I expected the doctors would revive him. For a long time I was in denial that he was dead.
I eventually came to terms with not being able to say goodbye to him.
Mom died unexpectedly in 1997. Again, I didn’t get to say goodbye. I think Dad dying helped me to accept not getting to say goodbye to Mom.
Sorry to hear both your parents died unexpectedly. I do hope however I will get to say goodbye to my mother before she dies (let’s hope in a long time, not too soon! I still haven’t recovered from losing my dad 9 years ago, I wouldn’t survive losing my mother too), but who knows maybe I’ll accept my dad’s death someday, or maybe I’ll just live with this regret all my life. But even if we have to live with it, life goes on!
I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t know if we get the chance to say goodbye… we can only do it symbolically by writing a letter to that person with whatever we want to tell and then burn it.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Try writing a letter to him with everything you wished you have said. Then burn that letter so the words can go into the universe. What do you think about this?
When I look back on my years, there are some real forks in the road that I did not recognize at the time. For example, this past summer, I was asked a question, and my response determined a whole host of bad results. I think if I could change one thing, it’d be RECOGNIZING the forks in the road as significant, instead of glossing over them like I might do.
I wonder if it’s like the film sliding doors, & no matter what happens we continue to the same destiny… in which case yes, I would change things. There are easier ways to get to my destination. On the other hand, who knows what differences a minor change would cascade, & I like where I am right now.
at the moment, although what if I changed things & had an even better future? That way madness lies. I think I have to believe that I would change nothing, to avoid going down that rabbit hole…
Bad situations, a ton of mistakes, would make me want to say yes. However, changing any of those could change the positives I have in my life currently, so no, I wouldn’t change a thing.
I’m sure it’s possible. I don’t think I’d take that risk though. I’m a strong believer that changing even the smallest detail, has the ability to change the rest of the course.
Great question:
I decided to quit a job because I was being pushed out and I wanted to save face and leave with my head held high. I wish that I had gone up against my superior instead of resigning. I would have collected the severance owed to me and I would have retained my pride. I had a self-righteous moment that cost me thousands of dollars.
To tell you the truth, I’m not really sure. I like my life, but it’s something I have often wondered about. I might not have moved to Maine for example.
While it is so very difficult sometimes to see it in the moment, everything that we go through is to help us be who and what God wishes. To go back and change even one thing would lend us to not being able to serve God in the way he desires.
For example I was abused as a child, that helps me understand abuse in ways some one who wasnt can.
I find it very interesting how we learn the fact that our past difficulties have a great influence in the end. But yes, as long as we learn something about our past (and we always do), it’s probably for the best that we cannot change it.
The only thing that can make me “better” is money. I am so proud of my family and the woman I am. Every bad moment shaped me into this articulate woman I am today.
Yeah:) First because I dont remember anything. Second, I made a lot of mistakes, like everyone. But I dont think I could have done better about these situations at the mental stage I was at. I see them as mistakes now, but they were the right thing back then
I think there was a time I was distracted and self-involved about something that wasn’t even that important, and because of it I didn’t notice that someone close to me was in trouble. I would change that.
Possibly not because that one moment could change everything and I would not be who I am now. Absent and unknown to my children and husband. Nonononono.
Absolutely not. I have no control over what happens if I change one little thing in the past and I have no idea if it would end up worse or better. I like my life right now. Sure, it could be better but things can ALWAYS be better. No matter what you change.
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As I was answering questions from this blog site, I came across this intriguing question and thought of just blogging about it. If given a chance to change from your past, would you & why?
Yes indefinitely. As much as I don’t want to have any regrets, I mean who wants it right??? But that particular incident was a very regretful incident in my life.
As I was reading some comments and answers for this question, I envied some, especially when they grew from their unpleasant incident.
As for me, I was finding myself from growing apart from it.
Oh my! This is a question. Of course, I would want to change multiple aspects of my past. Yet without my past, I would not be where I am today or the person I am today.
Thanks for the intriguing thoughts!
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So what would you change and why?
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As the person above me says, my past molded me into who I am currently. I wouldn’t change it.
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So you would change nothing about it?
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Nope. Nothing.
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I’ve thought countless times of what to change…be more serious anout schooling or my art or skating…but without those choices I likely wouldn’t be in the great place I am now.
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True! So you would change nothing about your past?
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If it wouldn’t affect my life right now I would’ve pursued skating more seriously.
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I had an embarrassing moment buying lunch one day with friends… I wish to delete that day from my life lol
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Was it that bad?
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It wasn’t awful, just stupid on my part. In short, I got confused at the checkout and my friends never let me live it down.
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I would change nothing from my past. My past made me who I am today and I am thankful for every lesson I’ve learned.
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That’s great! Without our past, we wouldn’t be who we are today.
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I don’t want to change my past… Because I could learn something new from my mistake…😊😉😃🤩And I still learning…😊😉😁😃😄
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Sooo you often think about your past?
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Yeah!😁😉😊😄😃🤩
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absolutely, since choice is nil and end predictive. i’d skip over trauma, heartache, and pain and head straight to
bird status. in other words, the moment changed would be that at conception, wherein it would be rewritten that my soul had repaid all karma, having no need to return to this realm in ‘human’ form; yet onward we go, in constant changing of the guard(ed) heart, flowing with the seasons and holding tight to the lamp of love till meeting expiry date.
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Would you like to be a bird instead of a human?
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Yup ☀️🦅 However, I’d want to take a class in Icarus Safety Prevention first 😎
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Yes, if I had the chance I would go back in time and say goodbye to my dad as I didn’t get the chance to before he died. This regret haunts me everyday since his death and I wish I could change that and the fact that I did not spend much time with him at the end of his life. For the rest, I agree with people above, the past, the experiences and even the mistakes, awkward moments, are things who made me who I am today.
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My Dad died in 1977. It was unexpected and I didn’t get a chance to say goodbye as I expected the doctors would revive him. For a long time I was in denial that he was dead.
I eventually came to terms with not being able to say goodbye to him.
Mom died unexpectedly in 1997. Again, I didn’t get to say goodbye. I think Dad dying helped me to accept not getting to say goodbye to Mom.
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Sorry to hear both your parents died unexpectedly. I do hope however I will get to say goodbye to my mother before she dies (let’s hope in a long time, not too soon! I still haven’t recovered from losing my dad 9 years ago, I wouldn’t survive losing my mother too), but who knows maybe I’ll accept my dad’s death someday, or maybe I’ll just live with this regret all my life. But even if we have to live with it, life goes on!
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I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t know if we get the chance to say goodbye… we can only do it symbolically by writing a letter to that person with whatever we want to tell and then burn it.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. Try writing a letter to him with everything you wished you have said. Then burn that letter so the words can go into the universe. What do you think about this?
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Thank you, and I had never thought about this. It could be a good idea, don’t know if it will work but it is worth to try!
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honestly, I wouldn’t change one thing from my past, because it makes me the strong women I am becoming every day.
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Awesome!
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I’m not sure because then I wouldn’t be who I am today. But I would definitely change my recent past rather than distant.
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Is it that bad? What happened?
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Well it’s easier to back track recent steps and determine projected outcomes with greater accuracy than to predict any long term prognosis
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When I look back on my years, there are some real forks in the road that I did not recognize at the time. For example, this past summer, I was asked a question, and my response determined a whole host of bad results. I think if I could change one thing, it’d be RECOGNIZING the forks in the road as significant, instead of glossing over them like I might do.
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Would you answer differently to that question?
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I wonder if it’s like the film sliding doors, & no matter what happens we continue to the same destiny… in which case yes, I would change things. There are easier ways to get to my destination. On the other hand, who knows what differences a minor change would cascade, & I like where I am right now.
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So you would change nothing because you like your present?
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at the moment, although what if I changed things & had an even better future? That way madness lies. I think I have to believe that I would change nothing, to avoid going down that rabbit hole…
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Bad situations, a ton of mistakes, would make me want to say yes. However, changing any of those could change the positives I have in my life currently, so no, I wouldn’t change a thing.
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Great perspective! Is there any change you could make so your life could be better than it actually is?
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I’m sure it’s possible. I don’t think I’d take that risk though. I’m a strong believer that changing even the smallest detail, has the ability to change the rest of the course.
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Nope. All good. All!
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Awesome!
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😊
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I won’t change a thing, if things were to change, they would not have happened in the first place. I’m glad where I am right now, with no regrets. 😊
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I’m glad you have no regrets! Regret is one of the biggest source of negative feelings.
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Great question:
I decided to quit a job because I was being pushed out and I wanted to save face and leave with my head held high. I wish that I had gone up against my superior instead of resigning. I would have collected the severance owed to me and I would have retained my pride. I had a self-righteous moment that cost me thousands of dollars.
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How different would your life be now if you didn’t resigned?
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To tell you the truth, I’m not really sure. I like my life, but it’s something I have often wondered about. I might not have moved to Maine for example.
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As some have said, I wouldn’t change anything. The law of unintended consequences could make a minor change lead to substantially worse consequences.
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That’s true! Maybe it’s a good in the beginning, but it’s hurtful in the long run.
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While it is so very difficult sometimes to see it in the moment, everything that we go through is to help us be who and what God wishes. To go back and change even one thing would lend us to not being able to serve God in the way he desires.
For example I was abused as a child, that helps me understand abuse in ways some one who wasnt can.
No I would change nothing in my past.
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I find it very interesting how we learn the fact that our past difficulties have a great influence in the end. But yes, as long as we learn something about our past (and we always do), it’s probably for the best that we cannot change it.
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no, because i doubt i’d be the person i am today
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What if there is a chance to be better? Would you take the risk?
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The only thing that can make me “better” is money. I am so proud of my family and the woman I am. Every bad moment shaped me into this articulate woman I am today.
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No… have a Happy New Year and hope the new year is all that you wish for it to be…. 🙂
“Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come”.
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Happy New Year, Dutchll! It was a great year for me and you are part of that greatness! Thank you!
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Probably none.
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Probably? 🙂
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Yeah:) First because I dont remember anything. Second, I made a lot of mistakes, like everyone. But I dont think I could have done better about these situations at the mental stage I was at. I see them as mistakes now, but they were the right thing back then
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Yes. Try to stop someone from committing suicide
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Do you think you can do it?
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Probably not…
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I think there was a time I was distracted and self-involved about something that wasn’t even that important, and because of it I didn’t notice that someone close to me was in trouble. I would change that.
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Was it that bad?
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Possibly not because that one moment could change everything and I would not be who I am now. Absent and unknown to my children and husband. Nonononono.
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So you wouldn’t risk whatever you have now for a chance to be better, right?
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Absolutely not. I have no control over what happens if I change one little thing in the past and I have no idea if it would end up worse or better. I like my life right now. Sure, it could be better but things can ALWAYS be better. No matter what you change.
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As much as I would love to change things, I wouldn’t. My past journey has made me who I am and I realize I continue to grow.
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Great approach! Our past is our evolutionary path.
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Reblogged this on Scribbles By Sparkling Cherry and commented:
As I was answering questions from this blog site, I came across this intriguing question and thought of just blogging about it. If given a chance to change from your past, would you & why?
Yes indefinitely. As much as I don’t want to have any regrets, I mean who wants it right??? But that particular incident was a very regretful incident in my life.
As I was reading some comments and answers for this question, I envied some, especially when they grew from their unpleasant incident.
As for me, I was finding myself from growing apart from it.
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How different would your life be without that incident?
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Actually I posted the blog before completing my story.
I would have been pretty much settled down
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