Have you ever thought about how often you lie to yourself? Blasphemy, you might say. But is it? Whenever you say that tomorrow you’ll start something you feel a little good because you don’t need to start today, but when tomorrow comes, do you really start that thing? You’ll probably try to find some way to rationalize why you can’t do it in that day and you’ll lie to yourself saying that tomorrow you’ll do it. And so on until the deadline steps in. We all do it. But instead of going through the negative feeling of procrastination and the guilt that we didn’t do what we had to do, wouldn’t it be better to be true to ourselves and say that we’ll do it when the deadline comes?
The above is a lame example because it implies other aspects, such as the importance of the task and our likes/dislikes about it, but the idea is the same. If we make a habit by not doing what we said to ourselves that we’re going to do, it gets highly likely to apply it in other areas as well. The biggest lie we say to ourselves is when we say that we cannot do something. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING! Sure, it might not be right away. You cannot be a movie star right now, but you can start learning how to act and try getting deals and over the years you’ll get a movie star. The lack of the process doesn’t mean the lack of the ability. Yes, we might not be able to do something right now, but you can make a plan and act upon it until you get there.
Instead of saying you cannot do something, you’d better say that you don’t care enough about that thing to put in the required effort of getting there. Be true to yourself and say you don’t care enough, because you did care enough, you would find a way. Before getting there, you must go through the process. Only a goal big enough for you can justify the effort of getting through the process.
But I get it. I really do. The bed is comfy and the day is short, but instead of saying you cannot wake up whenever the alarm goes on or that you cannot have enough time. Just say that the things you need to do aren’t that important for you. It is a tough to swallow pill, but it’s probably the reality.
What lies do you tell yourself?