Yes, that’s what I’ve found so far. Also the ability for a therapist to then develop a chain of thought or give you a different opinion is invaluable (to me anyway)
True. Let me rephrase. “Tje illusion that this person would give a rat’s ass about you or even know you exist were you not continuing to pay them generously for their little allotments of carefully limited interaction.”
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The most helpful part helps us to move from where we are stuck to where we want to be.
The benefit is twofold: First is the safe environment fostered between doctor and patient. Second would be the implementing of a firm structure and support system.
No, I don’t mean that. I don’t know what you mean here by ‘therapy’. When I am ill, my mother cares for me a lot and that feels so good.
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With therapy I meant a session with a psychotherapist.
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The relationship, the commitment to turn up every week and work with your system. Time, acceptance, reliability, trust.
I have had 7 years of Internal Family Systems therapy with an amazing therapist. It has changed my life.
Thanks, I’m in the UK so it was via the NHS. Sadly, long term therapy for developmental trauma will be phased out next year. I’ve been blessed to have received it. I’m now working to be able to pass what I’ve learnt on to others . Check my blog snakewomangirl.com
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Never been to therapy (yet!), but I’d like my (future?) therapist to point out things I may miss or avoid and to not drag me into endless conversations. That’s what I think would be the best part of mental therapy. If we are talking other kinds of therapy, then I just want my doctor to know what they are doing.
It allows me to have a voice when often in society I am not heard. That i am heard and acknowledged for what I share in a safe environment. That what i say has value and that I wont here things like, that didnt happen or you are so stupid or you are just imagining it. For once in my life i had some one believe in me and what had happened to me.
Yes! And usually that perspective doesn’t even come from the therapist… it comes from within ourselves thanks to the right questions asked by the therapist.
Yeahhh2.. very much especially when you are much of a listener like 95% of the time.
Let me share with you a story. I mean a real life story. I have a good friend. So apparently she sensed that I was not fine. Hence she dropped me a message and asked if I was alright. Obviously I was touched and told her that I wasn’t that okay and etc. etc. And she insisted that we should meet despite my day ending really late and all. I didnt know why, but I asked we could meet for ice cream. – Guess that was to advantage for me. I’ll tell you why shortly.
So we met around 8ish?? We settled down at my fav ice cream place and stayed till it closes. Say about 10ish?? So in between this 2 hours, she spoke about 1 hour 45 mins ?? And I spoke about 15 mins. And that too, that was supposed to be a “starter” . So this is why ice cream cake in handy. I felt better cos it was the ice cream that made me better. But ended up going back feeling rather heavier(mentally) than “supposedly” lighter ?
So sometimes it makes me wonder, is it me ??? 🤷🏽♀️… Is it an advantage or disadvantage to be a good listener ?? Despite having so many friends, I still feel like I have none ?
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I believe it’s an advantage to be a good listener. But what you do with that information, it’s another thing. I think you need to find someone like you so you can talk for 1 hour and 45 minutes from time to time.
Going to it.
Have you ever felt the need to go to it?
No, but I’ve read a lot about it, and that was the thing that stood out most, alongside admitting you needed it.
outside objective
Like what?
Just having an outside perspective
the healing
Yes, the outcome. But what about the process? Are there any parts that stand out?
its been 4-5 decades since therapy but I guess the dance of trust going through the meetings that happens
The offloading of thoughts
True. I guess the human part is what makes the difference between a journal and a therapist.
Yes, that’s what I’ve found so far. Also the ability for a therapist to then develop a chain of thought or give you a different opinion is invaluable (to me anyway)
The illusion that someone cares.
Why do you think it’s just an illusion? A good therapist does care about ones wellbeing.
True. Let me rephrase. “Tje illusion that this person would give a rat’s ass about you or even know you exist were you not continuing to pay them generously for their little allotments of carefully limited interaction.”
Talking to someone who listens without judging.
I would like to do this daily… it’s sad we need a therapist to listen without judging. All people are capable of it with some effort.
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The most helpful part helps us to move from where we are stuck to where we want to be.
That’s true. Counselors and life Coaches can help with that too.
Accepting the reality
True. Sometimes the reality can be overwhelming…
The benefit is twofold: First is the safe environment fostered between doctor and patient. Second would be the implementing of a firm structure and support system.
Yes! And they are both required for a great therapy!
Hearing yourself speak in a safe and nonjudgmental environment.
Can this environment be found in other circumstances as well?
Definitely
Having to pay the bill …
😂😂Is it helpful ?
Yeah… it eases your pocket 🙂
Knowing that there is someone who cares for you.
How do you know that others don’t care about you?
No, I don’t mean that. I don’t know what you mean here by ‘therapy’. When I am ill, my mother cares for me a lot and that feels so good.
With therapy I meant a session with a psychotherapist.
The relationship, the commitment to turn up every week and work with your system. Time, acceptance, reliability, trust.
I have had 7 years of Internal Family Systems therapy with an amazing therapist. It has changed my life.
I’m so happy that you found an amazing therapist that helped you improve your life!
Thanks, I’m in the UK so it was via the NHS. Sadly, long term therapy for developmental trauma will be phased out next year. I’ve been blessed to have received it. I’m now working to be able to pass what I’ve learnt on to others . Check my blog snakewomangirl.com
Never been to therapy (yet!), but I’d like my (future?) therapist to point out things I may miss or avoid and to not drag me into endless conversations. That’s what I think would be the best part of mental therapy. If we are talking other kinds of therapy, then I just want my doctor to know what they are doing.
It allows me to have a voice when often in society I am not heard. That i am heard and acknowledged for what I share in a safe environment. That what i say has value and that I wont here things like, that didnt happen or you are so stupid or you are just imagining it. For once in my life i had some one believe in me and what had happened to me.
So the feeling of being listened to was the most useful part of the therapy.
Omg question over question I don’t know dear
For me, it’s a daily exercise 🙂
An honest perspective, it can be difficult to get that from the people who normally surround us.
Yes! And usually that perspective doesn’t even come from the therapist… it comes from within ourselves thanks to the right questions asked by the therapist.
Someone who is finally “LISTENING TO ME”
It seems that people able to do that are harder to find these days…
Yeahhh2.. very much especially when you are much of a listener like 95% of the time.
Let me share with you a story. I mean a real life story. I have a good friend. So apparently she sensed that I was not fine. Hence she dropped me a message and asked if I was alright. Obviously I was touched and told her that I wasn’t that okay and etc. etc. And she insisted that we should meet despite my day ending really late and all. I didnt know why, but I asked we could meet for ice cream. – Guess that was to advantage for me. I’ll tell you why shortly.
So we met around 8ish?? We settled down at my fav ice cream place and stayed till it closes. Say about 10ish?? So in between this 2 hours, she spoke about 1 hour 45 mins ?? And I spoke about 15 mins. And that too, that was supposed to be a “starter” . So this is why ice cream cake in handy. I felt better cos it was the ice cream that made me better. But ended up going back feeling rather heavier(mentally) than “supposedly” lighter ?
So sometimes it makes me wonder, is it me ??? 🤷🏽♀️… Is it an advantage or disadvantage to be a good listener ?? Despite having so many friends, I still feel like I have none ?
I believe it’s an advantage to be a good listener. But what you do with that information, it’s another thing. I think you need to find someone like you so you can talk for 1 hour and 45 minutes from time to time.