If I’m being called crazy I can certainly stop putting myself on the line to answer questions here.
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There are 4 “a’s” because I’ve noticed you have a sense of humor and the “a’s” showed mine. I’m sorry if I made you feel anything else then what I intended.
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And I apologize in return if I overreacted. 😊
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No worries 🙂
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It all depends on when one encounters someone who is willing to listen… 🙂 I am not overly concerned about someone understanding me, they will or they will not.. I am more concerned about me understanding myself… 🙂
“Find out who you are and be that person. That’s what your spirit was put on this Earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth and everything else will come.” Ellen DeGeneres
If I am not willing to listen, why be part of a “pointless” conversation… 🙂 🙂
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But, I don’t consider this conversation “pointless”, if I did I wouldn’t be here… 🙂
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That’s true. Thank you for being here 🙂
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A few years ago I opened up to someone and shared my truth with them. I shared my hopes and dreams too and for the first time ever I didn’t just feel understood I felt total peace. I didn’t feel empty or lacking anymore. I felt total peace. It was such a blissful experience I couldn’t even possibly describe it.
They listened to me. I talked and they listened and they would tell me they felt the same way or they thought I was funny. It didn’t take much. No one has ever took an interest in me before and for a little while he did. I thought I had found home but then he took that away and offered it to someone else.
Because I’m complex and people barely understand themselves let alone take the time to understand me. My mother never could…
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Maybe you haven’t met the right people for this complex task just yet.
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Agreed 😌
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When my cat started yelling at me and jumped in my lap. I was having an anxiety attack while i was arguing with my mother about how you can’t just ‘get over’ depression and social anxiety. My cat understood me and my mom saw that if he, an eleven year old kitten, saw something wrong that i really really wasn’t faking it or whatever
What do you do to make sure you have the best understanding for them? Would the same strategy work for you (for others to apply so you can feel understood)?
I am an old dog. I feel as if, all we can do is not impede others experience. (sometimes to our own detriment.) Understanding others means being able to be ok with actions/views you do not agree with; or, to reserve your “understanding” for those “deemed worthy” of being understood. To many times have I claimed to understand others, while condemning them for being less enlightened in their world view. Understanding self is a life long experience. I think I would rather have people who are patient with me, over people who claim to understand me.
I know I am unorganized in my response, I tend to over think. Be awesome out there 🙂
I just need to work hard at my communication skills and start conversing more with people who have the capacity/desire to understand and I could be more patient as well
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About 2 years ago. I fall in love with this person. It felt like we were connected through souls. I could talk anything under the sun with this person. However, we are both of different religions and such circumstances didn’t allow us to unite. Both our sides are conservative. I’ve always thought that we would make the best couple, but unfortunately, because of the feelings and what not, we ended up with squabbles after squabbles.
Have you ever had a conversation with yourself? Not a normal conversation like you would with anyone else. But a conversation where everything that you could possibly want finally comes to the surface. Everything that you didn’t understood made sense and all your questions finally received answers?
These thoughts and emotions come from within. For the longest time I never felt like anyone understood me. I didn’t feel like I fit in anywhere. I’ve come to my conclusion that I’m not suppose to fit in anywhere.
I move around to different places and help those who need help and leave.
The only person who understands me is myself and I absolutely love it.
We don’t need the world to understand us because the world can’t live for us.
Yesterday. My husband and I had a friend and her Mum come over for a visit – it was pretty emotional. (Side note: this was the friend who I helped get into a mental health program.) It was a good visit, but tiring. When it was over, and I asked my husband what he wanted to do, he said “I want to know you’re on the couch, watching whatever makes you happy, and recharging.” He’s one hell of a guy.
I think it’s mostly because people don’t really listen. I’ve had several people try to tell me how I am or how I feel without requiring any input from me or even being around me.
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When my parents and sisters just listened when I finally broke down and told them about my depression and suicidal thoughts…no judgment, no advice, they just listened and gave me their full support and unconditional love
I have no more than one or two friends who, when we actually get the time to meet, unite with me in a kind of intellectual and discursive flow where our minds essentially meld into one. It is an amazing phenomenon. It is at these cherished moments I feel understood.
On the motherships
Aaaand how long ago was that?
Why were there four “a’s” in your “aaaand?”
If I’m being called crazy I can certainly stop putting myself on the line to answer questions here.
There are 4 “a’s” because I’ve noticed you have a sense of humor and the “a’s” showed mine. I’m sorry if I made you feel anything else then what I intended.
And I apologize in return if I overreacted. 😊
No worries 🙂
😌
It all depends on when one encounters someone who is willing to listen… 🙂 I am not overly concerned about someone understanding me, they will or they will not.. I am more concerned about me understanding myself… 🙂
“Find out who you are and be that person. That’s what your spirit was put on this Earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth and everything else will come.” Ellen DeGeneres
Love this!
How willing are you to listen to others? 🙂
I am here, am I not?… 🙂
If I am not willing to listen, why be part of a “pointless” conversation… 🙂 🙂
But, I don’t consider this conversation “pointless”, if I did I wouldn’t be here… 🙂
That’s true. Thank you for being here 🙂
A few years ago I opened up to someone and shared my truth with them. I shared my hopes and dreams too and for the first time ever I didn’t just feel understood I felt total peace. I didn’t feel empty or lacking anymore. I felt total peace. It was such a blissful experience I couldn’t even possibly describe it.
What did that person do different that made you feel that way?
They listened to me. I talked and they listened and they would tell me they felt the same way or they thought I was funny. It didn’t take much. No one has ever took an interest in me before and for a little while he did. I thought I had found home but then he took that away and offered it to someone else.
Not sure if I have…
That’s tough. In your opinion, what’s the main reason for this?
Because I’m complex and people barely understand themselves let alone take the time to understand me. My mother never could…
Maybe you haven’t met the right people for this complex task just yet.
Agreed 😌
When my cat started yelling at me and jumped in my lap. I was having an anxiety attack while i was arguing with my mother about how you can’t just ‘get over’ depression and social anxiety. My cat understood me and my mom saw that if he, an eleven year old kitten, saw something wrong that i really really wasn’t faking it or whatever
Animals are awesome. They know you better than most.
Animals are not blocked by ‘logic’.
Very interesting! So your mother didn’t believe in the validity of your issues?
Nobody did but my cat and my best friend (who has dyslexia and was called stupid because of it)
When I got married. Hubby understands me totally.
That’s awesome! I’m glad you found the right person for you!
“Completely”…only when praying. I think those closest to me try to understand though.
And what’s the closest to that feeling?
Never! But sometimes I tell people (and I believe it, whether or not it is true) that I understand them.
What do you do to make sure you have the best understanding for them? Would the same strategy work for you (for others to apply so you can feel understood)?
I am an old dog. I feel as if, all we can do is not impede others experience. (sometimes to our own detriment.) Understanding others means being able to be ok with actions/views you do not agree with; or, to reserve your “understanding” for those “deemed worthy” of being understood. To many times have I claimed to understand others, while condemning them for being less enlightened in their world view. Understanding self is a life long experience. I think I would rather have people who are patient with me, over people who claim to understand me.
I know I am unorganized in my response, I tend to over think. Be awesome out there 🙂
Good question, it’s been a very long time
I’m very sorry to hear that… why do you think this happened?
I just need to work hard at my communication skills and start conversing more with people who have the capacity/desire to understand and I could be more patient as well
About 2 years ago. I fall in love with this person. It felt like we were connected through souls. I could talk anything under the sun with this person. However, we are both of different religions and such circumstances didn’t allow us to unite. Both our sides are conservative. I’ve always thought that we would make the best couple, but unfortunately, because of the feelings and what not, we ended up with squabbles after squabbles.
The only issue was the religious orientation?
Yes.
When I finally came to terms with my true self.
Have you ever had a conversation with yourself? Not a normal conversation like you would with anyone else. But a conversation where everything that you could possibly want finally comes to the surface. Everything that you didn’t understood made sense and all your questions finally received answers?
These thoughts and emotions come from within. For the longest time I never felt like anyone understood me. I didn’t feel like I fit in anywhere. I’ve come to my conclusion that I’m not suppose to fit in anywhere.
I move around to different places and help those who need help and leave.
The only person who understands me is myself and I absolutely love it.
We don’t need the world to understand us because the world can’t live for us.
I don’t have that as often as I’d like to. But I’m on my way to create a habit out of it.
I haven’t
What do you think is the main reason for this?
Yesterday. My husband and I had a friend and her Mum come over for a visit – it was pretty emotional. (Side note: this was the friend who I helped get into a mental health program.) It was a good visit, but tiring. When it was over, and I asked my husband what he wanted to do, he said “I want to know you’re on the couch, watching whatever makes you happy, and recharging.” He’s one hell of a guy.
He sounds like an awesome guy! I’m glad you have next to you someone who takes care of you! All people deserve that!
Agreed! I’m a very blessed woman.
Never!
How come?
I think it’s mostly because people don’t really listen. I’ve had several people try to tell me how I am or how I feel without requiring any input from me or even being around me.
When my parents and sisters just listened when I finally broke down and told them about my depression and suicidal thoughts…no judgment, no advice, they just listened and gave me their full support and unconditional love
I’m very sorry you had to go to this, but I’m glad you found support in your family. Where is that depression coming from?
I can’t remember… it must’ve been a really long time…
What do you think is the main reason for this?
I don’t think I am truly understood, I feel as if people just say they understand what I am talking about, just to shut me up.
I think that what they mean with “I understand” is in fact the idea that they hear the words…
I have no more than one or two friends who, when we actually get the time to meet, unite with me in a kind of intellectual and discursive flow where our minds essentially meld into one. It is an amazing phenomenon. It is at these cherished moments I feel understood.
That’s awesome! How often does that happen?