There are people that talk too much, but how relevant are the things they say? We all know that communication isn’t just about the talking, but what if we’re expressing some ideas other people find obvious (like the water being wet)? Is that helpful or harmful?
In theory, I think it’s helpful because it brings some awareness about how similar the two people are. But what if the second person gets offended because he/she has been told something so obvious? What if he/she thinks that only stupid people and children need to be told such things? If our core belief is that someone thinks bad about us, even a heads up can be seen as an offense.
I like to tell obvious things because I’m making sure I’m on the same page with the people I’m communicating. Sometimes this is interpreted in a negative way. Should we stop saying obvious things? I’m not going to stop because assumptions can do more harm. I rather be seen as an idiot that says obvious things than someone who doesn’t say what it needs to be said. This will always be an issue because people are different so there will be some that would want to be told everything whilst others will get offended if everything is told.
Of course, this depends of the topic and also of the goal of that communication process. Something like the water is wet or it’s cold in winter is indeed seen as an offense. But something like you can imagine how I felt in that situation requires some deep diving to fully and truly understand that point of view.
These days, people get offended very easy. Everything can be seen as an offense because people think they know what other people think, which is stupid. But people get stuck in their own heads and they refuse to see other perspectives. Can communication or over-communication solve this problem? Will it do more harm?
What is your view about over-communication?