That is actually great! I admire people who can achieve the goal of being able to live independent. I aimed for expecting nothing for a long time. But at the end, I realized that subconsciously I expect things.
Acceptance. That some days my brain or body aren’t up to being out and about. I also expect them to trust me not to judge their choices, but be a good friend and listen.
It’s an attitude that has developed over the years as I’m learning that people are less inclined these days to keep their word. Other than my family, I can probably count on one hand the number of reliable friends I have.
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I wish nothing but unfortunately I expect too much…acceptance, respect, love, appreciation…but I hope one day I’ll have no more expectations.
I am disappointed almost daily. Which frustrates me a lot but mostly with myself because I know that I should not have expectations. I’m aware that I am in charge only of my actions but I suppose that probably with time I will finally understand that my happiness does not depend on others.
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Honesty. It takes a certain type of person to give you honest thoughts/opinions. So many people (rightly or wrongly) bend the truth or outright lie for whatever reason or end. I have been lied to too many times to not wish to be told the truth always. Regardless of whether it isn’t what I want/need to hear. I appreciate my health isn’t brilliant, but having someone lie to me in an effort to protect me isn’t going to help me in the long run.
This is a big one! I noticed that people want to take credit for the good situations, but they want to pass on when shit goes down. Being responsible for both good and bad and acting accordingly is the way to help us and our society.
From the ones I truly love, and who are really close to me (I guess I can count 5), I expect a lot… Unconditional love, support, understanding. I expect what I give, basically! From the rest of the planet, literally nothing. I learnt how to low my expectations to zero!!!!
Because of too many disappointments. I just automatically learnt to expect nothing because I was aware of what had happened before…
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I think it depends on the nature of the relationship. “People around you” could be the postman, a friend, the spouse or the kid. My expectation levels are highly fluctuating in nature. 🙂 ( “from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.” LK12:48)
What I give them without a second thought (love, kindness), I expect in return
Does that happen?
All the people who are still in my life, we do this for one another.
Awesome!
General respect
I hope you live in an environment where people around you have general respect one for each other.
For the most part….
Nothing…😊😊😊😊😊🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎
That is actually great! I admire people who can achieve the goal of being able to live independent. I aimed for expecting nothing for a long time. But at the end, I realized that subconsciously I expect things.
Why nothing?
Because I don’t need it..🤩😃😊😉
Since my life doesn’t center around the people around me, I just assume and expect the people will be whoever they are and think however they do… 🙂
“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realize how seldom they do”.. Eleanor Roosevelt
That is a great approach.
So you expect for people to be… people 🙂
In a word, yes… 🙂
Not much anymore..
How come?
Acceptance. That some days my brain or body aren’t up to being out and about. I also expect them to trust me not to judge their choices, but be a good friend and listen.
This relies so much on empathy and kindness… I hope it will spread like a cute cats video and everybody will be “infected”with empathy and kindness.
Very little actually. It saves me from being disappointed later.
Very true and I appreciate you for having this perspective! Have you always had this view about the people around you?
It’s an attitude that has developed over the years as I’m learning that people are less inclined these days to keep their word. Other than my family, I can probably count on one hand the number of reliable friends I have.
I wish nothing but unfortunately I expect too much…acceptance, respect, love, appreciation…but I hope one day I’ll have no more expectations.
How are these expectations affecting your life?
I am disappointed almost daily. Which frustrates me a lot but mostly with myself because I know that I should not have expectations. I’m aware that I am in charge only of my actions but I suppose that probably with time I will finally understand that my happiness does not depend on others.
Honesty. It takes a certain type of person to give you honest thoughts/opinions. So many people (rightly or wrongly) bend the truth or outright lie for whatever reason or end. I have been lied to too many times to not wish to be told the truth always. Regardless of whether it isn’t what I want/need to hear. I appreciate my health isn’t brilliant, but having someone lie to me in an effort to protect me isn’t going to help me in the long run.
That’s true! But people usually don;t think about the long run. They thing and want immediate outcome. It became very hard to be patient these days.
Expectation is the root of all heartache – Shakespeare
Yes, it is. I would add that it’s the root of all frustrations too.
To remember that we are all human and mistakes happen. People are so quick to judge these days.
Yes! People tend to forget that we all are humans and mistakes are normal…
Understanding.
On Sun, Feb 24, 2019, 19:01 Pointless Overthinking wrote:
> Bogdan (DM) posted: “What do you expect the most from the people around > you? ” >
How often did it happen to not find that?
Almost always.
I would expect them to be similar to me, but i would like some diversity and hope they are different in a unique way!!! Nice Question <3 (SUPER LATE)
Very interesting! In which areas you would like them to be similar to you? Similar how?
I would pick somewhere i can access easily that i like and hope they are similar to me as in my character.
Thoughtfulness
In your opinion, why people are sometimes not thoughtful?
Selfishness I think
Be truthful. Don’t give false emotions
I would love to see that in the people around us, but wearing different “masks” is a thing now,..
Yeah
Listening, empathy, help when needed.
Do people around you show that?
For the most part, yes. 🙂
Responsibility
This is a big one! I noticed that people want to take credit for the good situations, but they want to pass on when shit goes down. Being responsible for both good and bad and acting accordingly is the way to help us and our society.
kindness, generosity, mirth
Nice! How many people around you are like that?
More now than ever. : )
From the ones I truly love, and who are really close to me (I guess I can count 5), I expect a lot… Unconditional love, support, understanding. I expect what I give, basically! From the rest of the planet, literally nothing. I learnt how to low my expectations to zero!!!!
Awesome! How did you learn to lower your expectations?
Because of too many disappointments. I just automatically learnt to expect nothing because I was aware of what had happened before…
I think it depends on the nature of the relationship. “People around you” could be the postman, a friend, the spouse or the kid. My expectation levels are highly fluctuating in nature. 🙂 ( “from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.” LK12:48)
That’s true. My expectations dropped in time for most people. There is only one person from which I have high expectations (my wife).