Question of the Day – No. 323 What circumstances create the most anxiety for you? Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrMoreLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailLike this:Like Loading... 50 thoughts on “Question of the Day – No. 323” Add yours When I have to be around family members I don’t care for and vice versa LikeLiked by 5 people Reply I know that feeling… how do you deal with that? I usually stay quiet or I slowly use sarcasm to get myself out of the situation. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply I stay quiet, focus on my kids, and try to remember to breathe LikeLiked by 1 person Socializing with people who are not my friends, family or loved-ones, physically. I am good with one-on-one interaction, maybe even with two people, or via social media… but if there are a lot of people, it causes me unnecessary stress. I am always worried that I might offend them and that I may give off a bad vibe even if I don’t mean anything negative. LikeLiked by 6 people Reply I understand that. The thing is that people have their own beliefs so no matter how careful you are, someone can still get offended just because he/she had some crazy idea or impression created by his/hers own demons… LikeLiked by 1 person Reply True. I always tell this to myself to and try to move on. Sometimes this still affects me. LikeLiked by 1 person The dentist chair. LikeLiked by 6 people Reply Oh yeah! That makes me anxious too. Thank God the dentist is ok… LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Watching my girlfriend flirting LikeLiked by 4 people Reply Have you talked to her about this? LikeLike Reply Walking alone at night through a parking lot LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Your surviving instinct is strong. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Thank you! I’ve had a few close encounters so I must say that statement is true ❤ LikeLiked by 1 person Leaving my cabin, or listening to the news on the radio. The worlds problems are so big, and I feel as if it is all on my shoulders. Even as a hermit, I feel threatened by the worlds insanity. (I like answering your questions, it’s cathartic. Thanks for taking the time.) LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Thank you very much for reading and for answering to them! In my opinion, most of the world’s problems are not as big as media tries to show them. The bigger they seem, the more attention they draw, and in these days, attention = money. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Family parties 😬 LikeLiked by 3 people Reply I hope there are not so many in the course of an year… LikeLike Reply Instability and people (crowds over three people) LikeLiked by 2 people Reply What about crowds make you feel anxious? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Randomness…not knowing what they’re thinking. Crowded LikeLiked by 1 person When you are misunderstood LikeLiked by 3 people Reply Oh yeah! I deeply relate to that! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Going to work every day and wondering what Coworker X is going to find wrong with my work today. I am always on edge because this person goes out of her way to find fault with everything I do. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply Does she do that with others as well? LikeLike Reply To some extent yes. She likes to control everything, but it seems she really does not like me so I get it the worst. It has been noticed by the bosses and I believe they are dealing with it behind the scenes. LikeLiked by 1 person When I get apprehensive of facing the consequences of a blunder I have committed. On Mon, Mar 11, 2019, 20:05 Pointless Overthinking wrote: > Bogdan (DM) posted: “What circumstances create the most anxiety for you? ” > LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Well, each blunder is a lesson 🙂 LikeLike Reply Yes. And helps us avoid a similar blunder in the future. LikeLiked by 1 person It’ mostly work-related. I took so much stress on me when I have been “obliged” to do my job and also other’s one, that now I go deeply anxious when I am asked to deal with stuff which is not technically “mine”, related to my role, to the things I can handle and I am fond of. I hate it -.- LikeLiked by 1 person Reply It seems that people trust you do a great job and that you are better at many things, not only your job. Yes, it’s not fair, but it’s an opportunity to show more of your skills 🙂 LikeLike Reply Feeling that my life is not under my control, that other people can do to me whatever they want. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Where does that feeling come from? LikeLike Reply SOmetimes you just want people to want/like you so do whatever it takes. Then, paradoxically, they value you less, since you are ‘cheap’. This is a big mistake because you place the core of your life OUTSIDE yourself (in others) and this makes you weak, sort of an object. After some time in this predicament, you lose track of yourself and all becomes fuzzy; you are a leave dancing in the storm and this is extremely stressful. We need to go back inside ourselves, rebuild ourselves from the inside, focus on what is important FOR US, REALLY. LikeLiked by 3 people I TOTALLY get this. Guilty of doing the same. LikeLiked by 1 person Mostly, having to confront anything. The top confrontations: crowd of people, social blunder, being misunderstood, sticking up for injustice (I try for everyone, but actions against my children or myself are usually top concerns- I have worthiness issues), the door bell ringing. I wish my body would stop trying to save me from literally everything. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Would you say it’s related to a low self-esteem? LikeLike Reply Honestly Bogdan, almost every issue in my life right now is related to poor self esteem or not addressing something because of it. I have been terrible since I was put on bed rest while I was pregnant (2016) and gained too much weight. Even after I have lost most of the weight, I am struggling. Postpartum is a bitch. LikeLiked by 1 person It is… Were there any moments when it didn’t manifested? Can you think about such moments? LikeLike Social interaction in general and any aspect that involves it. Just the thought of attempting to talk to someone I don’t know or I don’t know well makes me want to hide and cry. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply In your opinion, where is this coming from? LikeLike Reply I believe my fear of doing the wrong thing and upsetting people is what caused my social anxiety. I was always bullied in elementary school and middle school because I was different and because I was way too sensitive when it came to my own emotional feelings. So because of that, I rarely ever show my emotions and I’m afraid that if I try and interact with someone I don’t know, I’m going to go through the same pain I went through when I was younger. LikeLiked by 1 person Stepping out of my comfort zone, being somewhere new, meeting new people and but the killer is going to the dentist! LikeLiked by 2 people Reply How do you deal with it? Do you try to confront it or you try to avoid it? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Depending on my mood, I can either avoid at all costs but then I feel like I’m being a wuss. I normally try to talk myself into pushing my comfort zone and look for the positives each encounter brings. I use it as a mean of personal growth. As for the dentist, it’s been a phobia since I was a child. I know after 20 mins I’ll be ok and be going home but no matter what, I gotta be numbed and I push my body as hard into the chair as possible, my nails dig into my hands and I shake. Once I get to my car, I cry and let it out and then go home for a cuppa and breathe. LikeLiked by 1 person Work. I have a friend who always says, “it’s not the work, it’s the people.” On some level, I agree with him. However, there are also circumstances beyond my control, that are creating a great deal of anxiety. For example, and don’t ask me to explain how they legally get away with it, but, even though I work 45 to 50 hours a week, the company I work for only pays me for 37.5 hours a week. This creates further money issues down the road as I try to pay my bills and take care of my home. I’m am looking for a different job, I don’t even know if I want to be a journalist anymore, but so far nothing has really panned out. I’ve had a lot of interviews, but no offers. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply So it’s not the work, it’s the sh*tty company. I hope you’ll receive an offer soon enough… LikeLike Reply Taking my kids out in public anywhere, specifically my daughter. Her sperm donor made it very clear that one day he’s going to take her from me and I’ll never know when it happens. I’m just so hyper aware of my surroundings all the time. Every new car that parks in our apartment parking lot, every new neighbor, any new person that I meet is a possible abductor. I used to let it control me, but now it’s just motivation to make sure that my kids are as safe as possible. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply It is very tough to be hyper aware all the time. Can he do that from a legal perspective? LikeLike Reply He is someone who tries to get around the law, and thinks he is above the law. But if I came after him legally in any way he would fold quicker than a house of cards. He’s a coward, who manipulates to get what he wants, but if confronted crumbles. LikeLiked by 1 person That’s good to know. Use it to keep him away from you! LikeLiked by 1 person Leave a Reply Cancel reply Enter your comment here... 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