Have you ever given an advice and the person that received it did nothing with it? How did you felt when that happened?
Even though people need advices, they’re not always prepared to receive it because they’re not prepared to act upon it. Maybe they can’t or maybe they don’t want to do it, but until they do need that piece of advice, the information is lost. People want to improve their lives, but they want little to no effort or change. They want for everything to be different, but the same. They want the world to do it their way so their “plan” works out. But guess what? People are very different. Even friends and family. Maybe we are similar in some areas, but totally different in others, which is ok. What’s not ok is to expect that everybody does things your way.
The thing with advices is that sometimes an advice is not what the “receiver” would like to do with his/her life. Other times the advice is spot on, but the effort seems too big. And sometimes the advice has nothing to do with reality. Either way, I believe an advice must be kept in our tool kit so we can see if/when we can use it.
As for giving advices, some people say it’s rude to offer an advice if you are not asked to do it. Others say that it’s an additional information and that it can be useful. I believe that communication and knowledge are potential power and because of this, I try to take and give advices as much as I can because some piece of information can make the difference in someone’s life.
Which one of the advices you’ve received had the biggest impact in your life?