I feel this way too, but then I try to remind myself that no one screws up everything, and I try to refocus on what I do that is right, because those things are there; we just have to find them.
What makes you feel bad about yourslef is the things I did in the pass that I cant change because I was young and didnt have the right guide growing up as a CHILD
When people leave or ignore me, if I put myself first to replenish myself I’m treated that I’m being selfish. At 40 years of age is it not quite sad to realise that you don’t have friends, only know people. There are no phone calls or house visits, no days out with anybody other than family. It’s sucks that I put my children first to then realise nobody hung around to wait, so I must be an awful person if I’m alone. I’m not enough. So this then brings on the thoughts of being unworthy and self pity party for one. Then I get mad at myself for putting myself down.
I know most of the time it’s just life and we’re all busy and we can pick up where we left off. That’s the friends you know are genuine, but there are a few people I know that are just blanking me completely, esp online but hey, what can ye can do right? I should be used to it by now. But still I find myself questioning myself and thinking what the hell is wrong with me?
Mirrors. I don’t feel the way I look – but time doesn’t roll back. Going to the YMCA has helped – I’m dead in the middle with respect to age, weight and ability. Still – I wish I’d made some better choices.
Well, I could have plastic surgery, if I had the money or wanted to spend it that way – that’s a big NO on both counts. So, I go do my thing at the pool. I accept that laugh lines are better than frown lines. I welcome the grey (but I still prefer it indigo!)
The knowledge that I make a hack of everything I do, Makes me feel bad about me.
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Why so? Hacks come in handy
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Not that sort of hack. I mean I always screw everything up.
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I feel this way too, but then I try to remind myself that no one screws up everything, and I try to refocus on what I do that is right, because those things are there; we just have to find them.
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What about that makes you feel bad about yourself?
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How can you not feel bad, when you somehow screw everything up?
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That’s the best way to learn…
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What makes you feel bad about yourslef is the things I did in the pass that I cant change because I was young and didnt have the right guide growing up as a CHILD
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But now you know better and you can be the right guide for others 🙂
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Going to the grocery store, I’m not a great cook and do not aspire to be.
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make it fun, cook like they do on Chopped. Buy random baskets and see what you can throw together for your meal. Its great fun.
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I’ll take your word for it. I appreciate your faith and optimism, albeit misguided. 😉
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If you don’t aspire to be a great cook, how come is going to the grocery store making you feel bad about yourself?
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When I end up wallowing in self pity and overthinking to the point where I think I’m an awful person and unworthy
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What kind of thoughts bring you to that point?
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When people leave or ignore me, if I put myself first to replenish myself I’m treated that I’m being selfish. At 40 years of age is it not quite sad to realise that you don’t have friends, only know people. There are no phone calls or house visits, no days out with anybody other than family. It’s sucks that I put my children first to then realise nobody hung around to wait, so I must be an awful person if I’m alone. I’m not enough. So this then brings on the thoughts of being unworthy and self pity party for one. Then I get mad at myself for putting myself down.
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When this happens, how often do you think it’s not a problem you have, but life is just the way it is… and people live their own lives.
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I know most of the time it’s just life and we’re all busy and we can pick up where we left off. That’s the friends you know are genuine, but there are a few people I know that are just blanking me completely, esp online but hey, what can ye can do right? I should be used to it by now. But still I find myself questioning myself and thinking what the hell is wrong with me?
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Thinking about myself.
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As a whole or only some parts of yourself?
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A little of both. Those parts, at times, feel like the whole.
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When I analyze how people probably feel about me, and I make assumptions that it’s all negative.
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In your opinion, why are those assumptions all negative?
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I’m just paranoid that I’m being criticized all the time.
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If there is a promise I made to myself or someone else that I could not fulfill.
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Yes, that’s very bad feeling
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I hope that doesn’t happen too often…
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..that I am not able to change my thinking- and behavioral patterns despite of all insights and self-knowledge.
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What would you like to change?
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The only thing that makes me feel bad is failure.
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I hope it’s not so bad that it stops you…
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Mirrors. I don’t feel the way I look – but time doesn’t roll back. Going to the YMCA has helped – I’m dead in the middle with respect to age, weight and ability. Still – I wish I’d made some better choices.
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Yes, time doesn’t roll back… What else can you do about that?
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Well, I could have plastic surgery, if I had the money or wanted to spend it that way – that’s a big NO on both counts. So, I go do my thing at the pool. I accept that laugh lines are better than frown lines. I welcome the grey (but I still prefer it indigo!)
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Eating something I know I shouldn’t
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Delicious food is always a big temptation…
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I love food so it makes me feel bad that I’m not a good cook.
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Well, what stops you from becoming a good cook?
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I try to cook whenever I have the chance but it always ends up not tasting good even when I follow the exact recipe. Ha!
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That I don’t think I’m pretty or smart enough sometimes. Or can’t cook.
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I hope those are rare times…
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Not as rare as I’d like
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Nothing.
Though it never used to be that way for me, it is now. Life is too short to waste time being hard on ourselves.
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Life is indeed too short for that…
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I m getting some negative thoughts 😶
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What are those thoughts trying to tell you?
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Thank goodness i am better now! 😃 Just about leaving some people lol
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