Question of the Day – No. 373 How do you feel when others fail your expectations? Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrMoreLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailLike this:Like Loading... 48 thoughts on “Question of the Day – No. 373” Add yours Like I should know better than to expect things. LikeLiked by 7 people Reply I’ve felt that, too. Then I think, love is to be unconditional so that includes expectations. And yet, love is respect for the expectations and boundaries others’ have of us. I think it’s a different formula for every relationship. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Would it be better to have no expectations? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply It is one of the Four Agreements. And not a bad one, just hard to practice. LikeLiked by 1 person What expectations? LikeLiked by 4 people Reply I think it’s awesome if you have none! Was it always this way? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Yeah, I expected them to stay off my lane but now I got no brakes.. LikeLiked by 1 person I think “well I would have done that differently”, but then I realise that we’re different people and we couldn’t possibly act in the same way (and I wouldn’t want everyone in the world too either) LikeLiked by 3 people Reply Yes. And I think it shouldn`t ber ones target to please others all the time. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply That’s true, I agree! LikeLiked by 1 person True! I think it would be better to have no expectations at all in the first place due to the fact that we all are different people and we can’t possibly act in the same way. Of course, it’s harder to do it… LikeLiked by 1 person Reply No big deal if it occurs once in awhile because things happen. However, if it is an on-going occurrence then that is a judgment call you will have to make. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I love this perspective! It’s interesting to see people doing this every single day and they get angry daily because of this. I wonder if the situation is someday going to change… LikeLike Reply That I shouldn’t expect so much of people because My expectations are too high. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply And maybe those people don’t even care to do the things the way we do… they do it their way. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Of course. LikeLiked by 1 person I don’t have expectations of others… 🙂 LikeLiked by 1 person Reply That’s the best! LikeLike Reply This is a great question, for reason being it made me think. I actually haven’t had expectations for anyone other than myself in quite a while, so I guess to answer your question I feel nothing because I expect nothing LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Awesome! How did you get to this point? What determined you to remove your expectations? LikeLike Reply I guess after so many let-downs from the ones I thought were close, I just gave up on expecting, LikeLiked by 1 person At first, I get to feel disappointed. But, when I get to understand the circumstances leading up to the event, I ask myself if I would have done different? In the end, I realise no one is perfect. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply Would it be possible to have this thought process before the feeling of being disappointed? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Absolutely; it would be possible. I just tell myself no one is perfect. LikeLiked by 1 person Don’t care. I don’t want anything more than people want for themselves. Do not expect and you will feel better about yourself. 😊😊😊 LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Yes! Awesome approach! 😀 LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Depends on how much it impacts me. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply So you’re more affected when it’s more personal, right? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Yes. LikeLiked by 1 person worried a little LikeLiked by 1 person Reply How come? LikeLike Reply I always remember this quote : “I am not in this world to live up to your expectations and you are not in this world to live up to mine” – Bruce Lee LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Awesome quote! Do you manage to remember that before getting upset or angry or disappointed? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Not always. But I try to LikeLiked by 1 person Hey! I have nominated you for an award: Check this out. https://mindoriginals.wordpress.com/2019/05/05/versatile-blogger-award-nomination/ LikeLiked by 1 person Thank you for your nomination! ❤ It's an honor for me! LikeLiked by 1 person I met a narcissist. Of course, I didn’t know it for a long time. Since meeting such a person, I’ve set my expectations so low that it shouldn’t be hard for normal people not to disappoint me. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Have you ever been disappointed since then? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply The discovery is fairly recent and I haven’t let anyone new near yet. LikeLiked by 1 person Reading the comments, I actually questioned myself if I know the meaning of the word. ex·pec·ta·tion: noun 1. a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future expect: transitive verb 1a: to consider probable or certain 1b: to consider reasonable, due, or necessary 2: to anticipate or look forward to the coming or occurrence of I think it is good and necessary to have expectations towards others. On the other hand, my expectations have to be in the realm of reasonable. If someone fails my expectations, the situation has to be checked to a reference point for the disappointment to be justifiable. If I am jaywalking with my face buried into my phone and expect people not to hit me with their car, well, then I am in the wrong to have such expectation as I am failing to fulfil my responsibilities. If my friend keeps being late in every occasion, then we are both wrong, as he cannot keep his word, and I am calling someone like him a friend when he is clearly lacking any respect towards me and my time. It is nothing wrong with feeling disappointed as long as it makes me go back to my reference point and reflect on myself and adjust my life. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Thank you for this insightful comment! So expectations are either wrongly set, or they are set accordingly to our standards which others might not have. Either way, we might suffer… LikeLike Reply To be honest it doesn’t bother me as much as it would bother me if I was the one to fail the expectations. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply This is interesting… but what if those expectations have nothing to do with you as a person but more with the one setting those expectations? For example, someone might expect for you to call him/her everyday, but that won’t happen because you’re not even friends. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply That’s a good point and I’ll have to think about that. LikeLiked by 1 person Disappointed LikeLiked by 1 person Reply How often does it happen for others to fail your expectations? LikeLike Reply I feel like I should have known better than to have expectations LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Yes. If we think about it, most of our negative feelings come from reality not matching our expectations. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Leave a Reply Cancel reply Enter your comment here... Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Email (required) (Address never made public) Name (required) Website You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Google account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Twitter account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Facebook account. ( Log Out / Change ) Cancel Connecting to %s Notify me of new comments via email. 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