Question of the Day – No. 376 How do you deal with difficult kin? Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrMoreLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailLike this:Like Loading... 44 thoughts on “Question of the Day – No. 376” Add yours I write them into my novels and kill them off. LikeLiked by 10 people Reply LOL!!! I’ll have to give that a try! Hahaha!! 🤣 LikeLiked by 4 people Reply 😂😂😂 🖋🔪🔪 LikeLiked by 2 people 😂 genius, why have I never thought of that?! LikeLiked by 2 people Reply I’m very wise. Now go, young grasshopper…create and decapitate! 😳 maybe I got carried away. LikeLiked by 2 people Wow! That’s a very innovative, cathartic and productive way! Congratulations for finding such a solution! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Thanks! LikeLiked by 1 person Loved this way 😂😂 LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Thanks 😂 LikeLiked by 2 people This may be your most challenging question yet. I have a lot of kin; when they’re difficult I kiss them goodbye. Seriously, I’m at a point in my life where if they give me a hard time, I let them know that I have zero tolerance for bullshit. On the flip side, I have several sincere and loving relatives. LikeLiked by 7 people Reply Total agreement here. Blood is no excuse for torment. You go, and go with your head up! LikeLiked by 2 people Reply It seems that there are not all that bad. I guess you encountered so much bullshit from them that your tolerance got to zero… LikeLike Reply Reblogging this to my readers at sister site Timeless Wisdoms LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Thank you! 😀 LikeLike Reply This is a very tough question. You have to be honest, sometimes hard, and even then it’s often not enough. At that point, as unfair as it may be, you’re the one that has to act, and maybe say goodbye. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply The thing is that many people want for the others to change… but they probably never will… LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I can accommodate a difficult child as well as the very old that are my kin but for others, I’ll not live anywhere near them. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I guess that age can make things difficult… but sometimes people are just assholes. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Don’t engage more than I have to. I am always the bigger person which I hate but I refuse to stoop to their level. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply No one deserves to be pulled down by some people’s limited beliefs… LikeLike Reply After years of trying to change them I work on changing myself and pray for radical acceptance with boundaries LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I’m glad you switched your focus from something you cannot change (their thinking) to yourself. I guess there is no other way… LikeLike Reply I avoid them. I’ve learned that it’s the best thing for everyone involved. It doesn’t do anyone any good to show up at a gathering where I know they’ll be only to get angry at them for their behavior. Things could get very ugly very quickly. I don’t see the point of putting myself in that position when I could just simply avoid it instead. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply That’s exactly true! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Don’t deal with them at all 🤷🏽♀️ LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Sometimes it’s unavoidable… LikeLiked by 1 person Reply In that case just tell them they’re being difficult LikeLiked by 1 person These reply boxes aren’t long enough to cover that one. For my family I’ve tried to remember what my parents would think of my actions and go from there in dealing with siblings. If I feel I’ve made the effort and it isn’t accepted then we just part ways. With inlaws I don’t think I make as much of an effort to fix it, if its getting broke. Usually I just back off those relationships unless I see the other party making an effort. I’m always open to fresh starts. But I also don’t forget the past. It saves getting burned again. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply A healthy approach, I think. What I find very interesting is that they don’t even realize sometimes that they crossed the line… LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Honestly? I put at least two states between me and them, and one of those states was Texas. Absence not only makes the heart grow fonder; it makes the sanity grow stronger. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Avoidance is not pretty, but it does the job 🙂 LikeLike Reply I don’t. It’s not worth the strain on my happiness. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply At what point did you get to this conclusion? LikeLike Reply When I started caring more for myself and my own beliefs than seeking approval from others. It took a long time to get here, but I like myself now. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Avoid them. If not possible, I put a buffer between myself and that person so there are minimal touchpoints. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply How do they respond to that? LikeLike Reply I do not know, not that I care :-). They are busy talking to the hand (oops buffer) LikeLiked by 1 person I don’t care what they say.. not bothering much lol.. i know it’s useless. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Well, we cannot change others if they don’t want to change… LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Exactly the point 🙂 LikeLiked by 1 person I am writing a book on the subject: “Sanity in spite of Humanity: 6 Rules to dealing with in-laws, outlaws, and dumb masses.” When I get it finished, I can let you know. The first two rules are anger is weakness and calm is contagious. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Please do! It sounds like a very interesting read! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I don’t. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply What if you have to? LikeLike Reply Leave a Reply Cancel reply Enter your comment here... 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