Maybe that person states an opinion to another person , but if that person states a different opinion that the first person disagrees to, he or she will disapprove.
In my opinion people get angry when they lose control of other people, situation and so on. The intensity of the anger felt depends on the extent of the ‘loss’.
Anger is a very normal human emotion, we all feel it from time to time. But how each person deals with it says the most about what is in the individuals heart. A person not in control of their own spirit or actions are often the ones lash out in anger. At the end of the day, only we as individuals are in control of our own actions and no one else’s. That really pisses many people off.
Feelings are what control us as humans ,same time we can control them but it requires mastery of mind . there are underlying feelings of anger in everyone and what springs that up is words . the place a person speak from can spring up the anger in us . one can speak from a ignorant place with a harsh tone and it could actually spring up the anger of the listener . words actually makes us angry
I think so. It’s either that, or we get sad. From personal experience, for example, I get over a relationship faster when I get angry, rather than when I am sad. Which is sad.
There a multitude of reasons why people would become angry or feel anger. It is a natural emotion built into us. Does one let that specific emotion run rampant? I.e., flying off the handle, losing our cool, wishing ill upon another person, etc. That, in my opinion, isn’t a healthy way of utilizing it, and can be quite damaging to both the self and others. If we can see it as a tool to shape our purpose, show us the things we wish to see changed, and respond to it in a way that holds value, perhaps we’d be better off. Letting anger present to us the things we dislike isn’t all that bad. From my perspective, bullying, racism, bringing others down, hatred are just a few of things that would make me angry. Not at all a negative if I choose to make the world a better place based off my dislike on those things that are discouragingly negative and toxic. How do we use our anger, that is the important question.
Yes, I totally agree with you that how we use anger is the most important question. Actually, if you approve it, I will make it one of the Question of the Day.
Yeah maybe likewise , like we all don’t want unwanted situation in our life and wen dey come ,it create a mess sometimes and that is where whole stuff is !!
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I think that starts with a challenge. If we challenge someone, at a minimum they will get defensive and possibly annoyed. From there it’s a matter of degrees.
Yes. Agree
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I think it is often down to feeling inadequate, that maybe you have done something wrong, not done enough, especially if it to someone you love. I think this can often tap into childhood in many ways but often ways where we felt let down, or rejected……just some of my thoughts and one take on it.
I think that if it’s something we did, we can somehow “fix” it by apologizing in a nice way or by taking some corrective actions. If it comes from others, we can only change the way we see things…
Expectations (too many and too high), lack of self-awareness, tendency to complain, selfishness. Then there’s also the 20% of situations in which it is totally right to get angry, because you don’t tolerate injustice, because something unfair happened to you, etc.
Frustration, I think is a huge trigger of anger. Whether it’s another’s action or the result of things not going “as planned” – frustration taps anger hard. It can be used to motivate, if one is willing. There’s also the “O’d rather be mad than sad” mindset. Sometimes it’s less painful to be angry than be hurt.
People get angry when someone hurt their feelings. It could be therapeutic but not hurt someone that is important. It is also important to express your anger. Don’t hide it because it could be lethal.
I believe there are universal boundaries/personal spaces, including our own God given ownership of our own hearts and minds, and that these limits are set by God — in Christian terms it’s sometimes called ‘Free Will’. It’s also been said that God is a gentleman, He ‘stands at the door and knocks’ and even He is careful to not enter where He is not invited. So, I think we can ‘know’ intuitively when someone is being invasive, often times a telltale sign that someone has crossed, or attempted to cross, into the territory of mind control or other personal affronts– is a flare of anger inside over the injustice of that. It isn’t just about us-it’s about others experience such injustice as well.
For instance, I feel that flare of anger inside when witnessing a parent publicly berating a child, in a verbally abusive or emotionally abusive tone. The key is not in never feeling that anger–that would be sad to become that numb. I think it is about figuring out how to channel the energy of that anger into something beneficial for God and humanity.
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I look at anger from 3 different angles
Anger towards others
Anger towards Self
Misplaced anger
All three reflect “self control”
People have places to go, things to do, people to see quote from my husband’s driver ed teacher about why everybody is in a hurry. People get most angry in the library when they are in a rush and for whatever reason I can’t meet the rush. We have five things that need to happen at my library to print. Not good for a rush situation especially ten minutes before the library shuts down. Personally when I talk so fast people don’t understand me or hear me and I get annoyed. Not their fault
Maybe that person states an opinion to another person , but if that person states a different opinion that the first person disagrees to, he or she will disapprove.
Hmm… so anger comes from a difference of opinions?
As they are sick of themselves
So they need to be sick of others too…
Yep
Karena mereka muak dengan hidup mereka
Being sick of their own life is probably one of the strongest reasons…
Terimakasi
Anger is a survival skill, and it is part of the human experience. Anger can be channeled for good purposes or bad purposes.
In your opinion, what helps people decide in which direction they should channel their anger?
In my opinion people get angry when they lose control of other people, situation and so on. The intensity of the anger felt depends on the extent of the ‘loss’.
I think you’re right. I noticed that people get scared when they lose control and that creates anger and therefore, angry reactions.
Because it’s easier to hate than it is to love.
Would you say that it’s more natural to us to hate than it is to love?
Anger is a very normal human emotion, we all feel it from time to time. But how each person deals with it says the most about what is in the individuals heart. A person not in control of their own spirit or actions are often the ones lash out in anger. At the end of the day, only we as individuals are in control of our own actions and no one else’s. That really pisses many people off.
Yes! And it pisses people off because they don’t want to take responsibility on their own actions.
Feelings are what control us as humans ,same time we can control them but it requires mastery of mind . there are underlying feelings of anger in everyone and what springs that up is words . the place a person speak from can spring up the anger in us . one can speak from a ignorant place with a harsh tone and it could actually spring up the anger of the listener . words actually makes us angry
I like the idea of words making us angry. I guess that everything translates into words even though they are only in our mind.
We get angry because we think we deserve better
So when our expectations are not met (or we think they are not met), we get angry, right?
I think so. It’s either that, or we get sad. From personal experience, for example, I get over a relationship faster when I get angry, rather than when I am sad. Which is sad.
Usually as a defense mechanism
Because we’re too “scared” to accept some parts of reality?
I believe so
There a multitude of reasons why people would become angry or feel anger. It is a natural emotion built into us. Does one let that specific emotion run rampant? I.e., flying off the handle, losing our cool, wishing ill upon another person, etc. That, in my opinion, isn’t a healthy way of utilizing it, and can be quite damaging to both the self and others. If we can see it as a tool to shape our purpose, show us the things we wish to see changed, and respond to it in a way that holds value, perhaps we’d be better off. Letting anger present to us the things we dislike isn’t all that bad. From my perspective, bullying, racism, bringing others down, hatred are just a few of things that would make me angry. Not at all a negative if I choose to make the world a better place based off my dislike on those things that are discouragingly negative and toxic. How do we use our anger, that is the important question.
There are* a multitude… 😛
Yes, I totally agree with you that how we use anger is the most important question. Actually, if you approve it, I will make it one of the Question of the Day.
Yes, please do 🙂
Thank you very much! It will be the Question of the Day no. 400. 🙂
Coz of the situation they don’t want to be in !!
This is interesting. So being in an unwanted situation creates anger…
Yeah maybe likewise , like we all don’t want unwanted situation in our life and wen dey come ,it create a mess sometimes and that is where whole stuff is !!
I think that starts with a challenge. If we challenge someone, at a minimum they will get defensive and possibly annoyed. From there it’s a matter of degrees.
Or maybe there is no challenge but we “see” one?
People get angry normally when their desires and expectations aren’t met; when they aren’t in the Now and aren’t at peace with themselves
I believe that being at peace with ourselves is one of the strongest challenges we have in life.
Yes. Agree
Meditation- Single cure for all human suffering
I think it is often down to feeling inadequate, that maybe you have done something wrong, not done enough, especially if it to someone you love. I think this can often tap into childhood in many ways but often ways where we felt let down, or rejected……just some of my thoughts and one take on it.
I think that if it’s something we did, we can somehow “fix” it by apologizing in a nice way or by taking some corrective actions. If it comes from others, we can only change the way we see things…
Expectations (too many and too high), lack of self-awareness, tendency to complain, selfishness. Then there’s also the 20% of situations in which it is totally right to get angry, because you don’t tolerate injustice, because something unfair happened to you, etc.
I agree. The question is: how often those 20% of situations really happen and how often we tend to “overreact”?
When something happens out of their way (not as they wanted)
Expectations… they are “living proof” we hurt ourselves.
Because they aren’t in control. They feel insecurities and project these into others…. like bullies
I guess that lack of control and a handful of insecurities are the perfect fuel for anger…
Frustration, I think is a huge trigger of anger. Whether it’s another’s action or the result of things not going “as planned” – frustration taps anger hard. It can be used to motivate, if one is willing. There’s also the “O’d rather be mad than sad” mindset. Sometimes it’s less painful to be angry than be hurt.
It is less painful to be angry than be hurt because being angry implies throwing the blame into others.
People get angry when someone hurt their feelings. It could be therapeutic but not hurt someone that is important. It is also important to express your anger. Don’t hide it because it could be lethal.
Which ways are useful to express anger?
When a boundary was crossed.
Boundary set by whom?
I believe there are universal boundaries/personal spaces, including our own God given ownership of our own hearts and minds, and that these limits are set by God — in Christian terms it’s sometimes called ‘Free Will’. It’s also been said that God is a gentleman, He ‘stands at the door and knocks’ and even He is careful to not enter where He is not invited. So, I think we can ‘know’ intuitively when someone is being invasive, often times a telltale sign that someone has crossed, or attempted to cross, into the territory of mind control or other personal affronts– is a flare of anger inside over the injustice of that. It isn’t just about us-it’s about others experience such injustice as well.
For instance, I feel that flare of anger inside when witnessing a parent publicly berating a child, in a verbally abusive or emotionally abusive tone. The key is not in never feeling that anger–that would be sad to become that numb. I think it is about figuring out how to channel the energy of that anger into something beneficial for God and humanity.
I look at anger from 3 different angles
Anger towards others
Anger towards Self
Misplaced anger
All three reflect “self control”
And I think that all three can be managed with self control.
Absolutely!
When someone steps on our toe
Sometimes our toe can be so big almost anyone can step on it.
Mine is small, go figure😆
Impatience
Impatience regarding what?
People have places to go, things to do, people to see quote from my husband’s driver ed teacher about why everybody is in a hurry. People get most angry in the library when they are in a rush and for whatever reason I can’t meet the rush. We have five things that need to happen at my library to print. Not good for a rush situation especially ten minutes before the library shuts down. Personally when I talk so fast people don’t understand me or hear me and I get annoyed. Not their fault