I am really not sure… Probably, because nobody likes to feel judged. I think constructive opinions give people the choice to change and if they do change, they do it to better themselves not for others; whereas destructive critiquing tears a person down, making them feel obligated to change immediately, even if such changes may not be good for them.
I believe only the person receiving the info can make that determination depending on where there head is. Personally I believe either one can be helpful if I keep an open mind and don’t take it personally.
Using the literal meaning of the words might help here. Constructive is about building up, destructive is about taking down.
Intent is important but so is content. If all you are doing is analysing what is wrong with a piece of work without giving any pointers for improvement or highlighting what has worked well then it is likely to be destructive.
Both are expected from the same personality
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Very interesting! And that personality is capable of both, but usually chooses to express only one of the two.
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I think constructive opinions can provide positive growth whereas destructive critique is just a blow to self-esteem.
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In your opinion, what makes people use the second “strategy” instead of the first?
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I am really not sure… Probably, because nobody likes to feel judged. I think constructive opinions give people the choice to change and if they do change, they do it to better themselves not for others; whereas destructive critiquing tears a person down, making them feel obligated to change immediately, even if such changes may not be good for them.
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In the mind of some, no difference. In the minds of some, an ocean of difference.
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Which of those two is more helpful?
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I believe only the person receiving the info can make that determination depending on where there head is. Personally I believe either one can be helpful if I keep an open mind and don’t take it personally.
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Some people can’t take any kind of criticism no matter how you present it, therefore neither one would be helpful to them.
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May depend on if the receiver was seeking advice in the first place and if the giver is coming from a place of true service.
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Hmm… would you say that an unwanted constructive opinion can be seen as a destructive critique?
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It just depends on where the receiver is at the moment. Sometimes people just want to be validated, and sometimes people are open to insight.
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Using the literal meaning of the words might help here. Constructive is about building up, destructive is about taking down.
Intent is important but so is content. If all you are doing is analysing what is wrong with a piece of work without giving any pointers for improvement or highlighting what has worked well then it is likely to be destructive.
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True! The thing is that those who keep analyzing what’s wrong with a piece of work probably have no idea how to make it better.
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One builds you up, the other tears you down.
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Good question
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Thank you 🙂
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Welcome
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First helps you move forward, second takes you two steps back
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