Failure. I understand the response, “people” also as I am a social phobic and have done a lot of work to enable a greater ease during discomfort. Breathing techniques are very helpful!
Not much in the way of heights or tornadoes (hey, I never said they were rational fears ;), though since my parents have retired to Florida, I’ve come uncomfortably close to gators a few times while visiting.
I must be afraid of success. I can’t really say I’m afraid of failure because I have failed at so many things in my life, I’m practically a professional failure.
I don’t know. Perhaps it’s all in my mind, but I feel like successful people are expected to perform at a certain level and behave a certain way all the time. Successful people live under a microscope and their every move is scrutinized for any little misstep. When a person is successful, others will look for a crack in their armor, even a small one, and then crucify them for it. You lose a certain level of anonymity when you’re successful.
I’m 50, not married, only relative near by is my 21 year old son who will marry and most likely move to a bigger city (he can’t stand out town that I love). I have a lot of church friends but even then I see the older people end up in convalescent homes with nothing to do and no one to stop by. It saddens me.
For the longest time it used to be failure, now it’s mediocrity. It’s so easy to slip into the comfortable and find yourself settling… I’m no longer afraid of failure, I’m afraid of choosing the path of least resistance.
I’m most afraid of myself, in particular, being an obstacle to myself and those I love. Especially in the sense of where my weaknesses lie, becoming a liability instead of an asset. I do not wish this feeling onto anyone, but I’m sure I am not alone. I wish you all strength in overcoming your fears.
If I’m falsed to go to a formal meeting I can slowly feel it build up, mild discomfort to irritability, so I go. But if something suddenly happens such as conflict, or aggression towards me, I flip
;osin my faith
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I hope you won’t lose it ever.
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Failure , hate and hard behaviour of my family.
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What do you mean with “hard behaviour” and why do you think it exists?
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Hard behavior means rude and rough behavior. And it does exist around me
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People.
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Why people?
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Because we are the root of all that’s wrong on this planet. Wouldn’t it be nice if we all went away? 😳😵
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For the planet, it would be the best!
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Failure. I understand the response, “people” also as I am a social phobic and have done a lot of work to enable a greater ease during discomfort. Breathing techniques are very helpful!
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How come you’re so afraid of failure?
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Good question… I really don’t know… disappointment maybe in self or from others
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Not being able to provide for the ones that depend on me. Being a failure as a father, and husband.
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That’s one of my deepest fears too. How do you deal with it?
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I’m afraid of failing. I’m truly afraid to step out on faith
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How could you step out on faith?
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Stop doubting God and just go for it
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Toss-up between heights (mainly open ledges and falling from them), tornadoes, and crocodiles.
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How many of those do you have around?
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Not much in the way of heights or tornadoes (hey, I never said they were rational fears ;), though since my parents have retired to Florida, I’ve come uncomfortably close to gators a few times while visiting.
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I must be afraid of success. I can’t really say I’m afraid of failure because I have failed at so many things in my life, I’m practically a professional failure.
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What about success makes you be afraid?
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I don’t know. Perhaps it’s all in my mind, but I feel like successful people are expected to perform at a certain level and behave a certain way all the time. Successful people live under a microscope and their every move is scrutinized for any little misstep. When a person is successful, others will look for a crack in their armor, even a small one, and then crucify them for it. You lose a certain level of anonymity when you’re successful.
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I’m most afraid of dying all alone and lonely.
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How come you think this?
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I’m 50, not married, only relative near by is my 21 year old son who will marry and most likely move to a bigger city (he can’t stand out town that I love). I have a lot of church friends but even then I see the older people end up in convalescent homes with nothing to do and no one to stop by. It saddens me.
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For the longest time it used to be failure, now it’s mediocrity. It’s so easy to slip into the comfortable and find yourself settling… I’m no longer afraid of failure, I’m afraid of choosing the path of least resistance.
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I totally agree with you! What determined you this change of fear?
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Enough failures made me realize that failing is inevitable, a part of life. So I chose to embrace it and learn from it, instead of fearing it.
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I’m most afraid of myself, in particular, being an obstacle to myself and those I love. Especially in the sense of where my weaknesses lie, becoming a liability instead of an asset. I do not wish this feeling onto anyone, but I’m sure I am not alone. I wish you all strength in overcoming your fears.
All of the best,
M.C.M.
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Can a higher level of self-understanding help you with this?
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Mind control
False perceptions
Drowning
Total anesthesia
In that order 👆🏾
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I hope you never encountered mind control!
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My mom and an empty fridge.😁😬
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In that order? :))
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Yes!😅
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The one my heart loves
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How come?
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That I May Run Out Of Ideas and Quit Blogging
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As long as you get new ideas in, you’ll never run out of it.
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I died and nobody missed me.
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Interesting! What’s the impact you think you have on other people’s life right now?
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Honestly, not for me to decide, but in general I try to be useful:)
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My self. I don’t have much self control. I get rage. but i do walk away when my adrenaline starts going mostly.
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It’s interesting because you know you get rage and you act before that completely takes over your body.
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If I’m falsed to go to a formal meeting I can slowly feel it build up, mild discomfort to irritability, so I go. But if something suddenly happens such as conflict, or aggression towards me, I flip
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Guilt and regrets .. for not doing my best and look back one day and beat myself up
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How come you think you’re not doing your best?
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Good question. I think it’s because always have been a little too hard on myself due to family upbringing
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