Question of the Day – No. 400 How do you use your anger? Proposed by MAK Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrMoreLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailLike this:Like Loading... 44 thoughts on “Question of the Day – No. 400” Add yours Apologize for it by identifying the cause and try next time to object to the behavior rather than get angry. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Do you apologize to that person or to yourself? Or both? LikeLike Reply I usually make an agreement first that when we fail in our behavior we give an acceptable apology. That way when I give my apology it will have a duel purpose, to teach me a lesson, literally (as it can be quite humbling) and to ensure the receiver is also satisfied and gained some confidence that I am less likely to repeat the error, at least not to the same degree. LikeLiked by 1 person By Eating and Drinking more than What I Usually Does LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I don’t get angry generally. It’s very very rare. Iam happy going … Take it easy kind LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I’m glad you rarely do it. Otherwise it would be tough to handle all that eating and drinking. LikeLike Reply I go off unless I go to God right away. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I hope you go to God more often than you go off. LikeLike Reply I seem to write my best scenes when I’m mad! Go figure! LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Nice! You found a great way to handle that energy, LikeLike Reply Anger is my go-to emotion, though I control it fairly well. I like to use it as inspiration for my writing. Actually, anytime I feel a little emotional I use that to write. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply That’s great! And I’m sure your best pieces come from when you use emotions to write. LikeLike Reply Definitely! Some of the best segments of my writing have come when I was feeling stressed, sad, or upset. LikeLiked by 1 person Swearing helps! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Interestingly, it does! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Let it go, only provides frustration – understand why and move on LikeLiked by 1 person Reply What would you recommend to someone who claims he/she cannot let it go? LikeLike Reply Embrace it and see it through so you can release it. LikeLiked by 1 person Breathe!! Take a moment to process. And find some calm. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply True! And not act upon it! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I try not to unless something needs to be destroyed. Rarely does rational thought come from a place of anger. We are far better suited to make clear decisions when we find ourselves on a path of peace and happiness. It is that path that I strive for when I find myself in a state of anger. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply How can we pull ourselves out of that angry place? LikeLike Reply Great question. I am not a psychologist so I can only speak for myself. Sometimes, walking away from what makes me angry, even for a few minutes, will do the trick. Other times I will just distract myself with a task or if I’m really frustrated I’ll smoke a little cannabis. It always helps to calm me down. LikeLiked by 1 person I really try not to get angry anymore. If I do it’s not really anger that I feel. Normally is frustration for not communicating how I’m actually feeling. If I do let myself get to the point of seeing red, I’ll see if I can get in to see my therapist or call my parents or sister. They let me vent then we all logically look at the situation together. It helps me to have an outside opinion. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply What helps you the most? The part when they let you vent or the part when they give you opinions? LikeLike Reply Honestly, venting. Most of the time when I get to that point, I just need to verbalize my feelings. It usually comes out as a rush of words. By the time I take a deep breath, I realize how illogical it all seems and laugh. LikeLiked by 1 person I rehash memories that made me angry when I go jogging, especially if there is a hill ahead. Eventually they wear out. Cheers! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply How long does it take for them to wear out? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Some never do and they’ve become legendary in my mind. But ordinarily they flow, and I stay up to date. So, on the average about a day. Maybe two jogs. Cheers! LikeLiked by 1 person Turn into a energy LikeLiked by 2 people Reply What do you use that energy for? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I need energy to keep up with the flow of emergency room. 🙂 LikeLiked by 1 person I swear, vent it out and then let it pass. But I’m learning anger is a fleeting emotion, it’s a reaction and I don’t have to bite every time someone pushes that button because it doesn’t give me any benefit. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply How come you started to learn it’s a fleeting emotion? LikeLike Reply I don’t think we should be using anger, as anger clouds the mind and often leads to unwanted consequences. I think we should work on handling/responding to situation and encounters that make us angry. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply What helped you handle your anger? LikeLike Reply I do something about it – even if I would rather wallow in self pity about being angry. You’d be surprised at just how clean a kitchen can get when I’m well and truly ticked off! I often have to spend some time in a quiet place to figure out the source of my anger. Is it reasonable? Is it just? Is it something that’s actually linked to another issue? Then comes the challenging part, because most of the anger I’ve been feeling right now comes from feeling helpless. I can’t change how some things are now, but you can bet I’ll be voting! I can make decisions about how to spend my energy – like cleaning, or organizing. I can talk things through, and try to find out where I’m getting signals from. Anger takes a lot of work, and I’m really trying not to invest there. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Do you always succeed in managing it this way? If not, how does it manifest? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply No, it doesn’t always work, but it’s gotten me further towards being peaceful than stewing in ugliness. The latter tends to lead to headaches, depression and being a real pain in the ass to be around. I don’t like that in myself. LikeLiked by 1 person 𝙶𝚒𝚟𝚎𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝙸 𝚊𝚖 𝚖𝚘𝚜𝚝 𝚘𝚏𝚝𝚎𝚗 𝚊𝚗𝚐𝚛𝚢 𝚊𝚝 𝚜𝚝𝚞𝚙𝚒𝚍𝚒𝚝𝚢 𝚊𝚗𝚍/𝚘𝚛 𝚒𝚐𝚗𝚘𝚛𝚊𝚗𝚌𝚎, 𝙸 𝚝𝚛𝚢 𝚝𝚘 𝚝𝚞𝚛𝚗 𝚖𝚢 𝚊𝚗𝚐𝚎𝚛 𝚒𝚗𝚝𝚘 𝚎𝚗𝚎𝚛𝚐𝚢 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚒𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚕𝚕𝚒𝚐𝚎𝚗𝚌𝚎. 𝙸 𝚓𝚞𝚖𝚙 𝚒𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚌𝚊𝚛, 𝚋𝚕𝚊𝚜𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚜𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚎𝚘, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚍𝚛𝚒𝚟𝚎 𝚖𝚢𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏 𝚝𝚘 𝚊 𝚋𝚘𝚘𝚔𝚜𝚝𝚘𝚛𝚎. 𝚁𝚎𝚊𝚍𝚒𝚗𝚐, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚛𝚗𝚒𝚗𝚐, 𝚊𝚕𝚠𝚊𝚢𝚜 𝚖𝚊𝚔𝚎 𝚖𝚎 𝚏𝚎𝚎𝚕 𝚋𝚎𝚝𝚝𝚎𝚛. 🕊 𝙿𝚂: 𝙸 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚜𝚎 𝚚𝚞𝚎𝚜𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜! 💕 LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Thank you very much for answering to them! I love that you love them! So anger drives you to get better and evolve! That’s awesome! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply unfortunately I get violent. I get rage. I had my genome tested in the Netherlands and found out that I have a MAOA ‘warrior gene’ which could have something to do with it. And I was once diagnosed with disocial/antisocial PD. But now I’ve got a brand new psychiatrist and a good soliciter, I don’t have that so I’m pleased that’s gone. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply What usually makes you angry? LikeLike Reply Thick people that have a position of authority over me. Rules, social norms, being criticised, people that owe me money and go all quite on me. Conversations about the weather. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Leave a Reply to Bogdan (DM) Cancel reply Enter your comment here... Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Email (required) (Address never made public) Name (required) Website You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Google account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Twitter account. 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