But what is that reason and what influences it? Where all that power comes from? Is indeed a power or we just see like it because it’s easier to blame everything on destiny instead taking responsibility for whatever happened?
I like how Tai Lopez says that yes, everything happens for a reason, even the bad things, but most of the time the reason is ourselves. We f*cked up and that’s why we have the life we have right now.
All those quotes like “If it’s meant to be, it will happen” create hope, but in the same time it takes the responsibility from us and it places it to the destiny. Is that fair? Should we rely on destiny for whatever happens? Even when we don’t get what we really want, we tend to place the blame on that destiny or worse, we blame ourselves but as a whole, not as a set of habits. For example, if someone doesn’t get the promotion that person wants, he or she will tend to blame himself/herself for that because he/she thinks that he/she is not good enough or that he/she is a bad person (the introverts out there with a low-self esteem know what I’m talking about). The loved ones around that person will try to show support saying that it wasn’t meant to be right now when the real reason is that he/she probably didn’t work hard enough for that promotion. That doesn’t mean he/she is not good enough and also it has nothing to do with the type of person he/she is. Of course, there are other situations when there are some unfair arrangements there, but that’s not on destiny, it’s on shitty people.
Yes, everything happens for a reason and that reason might have more with us than we want to admit. So my advice is: if you want that promotion, go all in for it! If you want that girl or that boy, go ask him/her out, don’t just wait around for the destiny to arrange things for you. Whatever you want in life, go for it! Maybe the destiny needs a kick in the ass to go to your direction!
How often do you refuse to take responsibility for whatever happened in your life?