We have to take the bad with the good. Such is life, Sometimes we learn the most from the uncomfortable “bad” things we encounter. Finding a way to accept “everything”, even what we take away from the upsetting, unsettling parts is allows to learn, grow, evolve, and gain strength
That depends so much on the individual. Some will brag about their achievements, others about what motivates them. Some only talk work or family. We probably learn as much about a person by what they don’t tell about themselves as we do from they share.
Totally agree. I also find it very interesting to notice what a person shares depending of the listener. It shows their level of comfort with that person.
Some like to tell you only about the positive things in their lives. There are a number of reasons why they would do this.
1. It could be that they’re just a positive person and choose to have a positive outlook on life. These are some of the best people you could ever know. Their positivity is addictive and can help to inspire people to live better lives.
2. On the flip side there are people that exaggerate or blatantly lie about the good things in their lives. They are usually in a state of denial or depression and use this behaviour as a form of validation and seek approval by others.
Some people only ever talk about the negative aspects of life. This gets annoying very quickly and usually steers conversations into areas that upset or frustrate others. While they may be good people at heart, I do my best to stay clear of this. They will disguise their behaviour as being a realist, but in fact they are more often than not, just plain unsatisfied with life.
I am not a psychologist but I’ve met a lot of different people throughout my life, had many in-depth conversations, and have seen this in practice on many occasions.
Very true! Unfortunately, around me are mostly people that only talk about the negative aspects of life. I think it’s a cultural thing here in Romania.
During the last few years when I was in university, I noticed that 95% of people that I came across loved saying that their uni is very hard. Sort of a humble brag I guess.
It’s interesting that people who had huge accomplishments don’t feel the need to talk about them so much compared to the people that have little accomplishments. At least; that’s what I noticed.
“I know this probably sounds like ….”
How are you able to know the actual effect of whatever ur statement is? AND preempt it? Like do people walk around with their invisible 3rd person’s perspective walking along with them? 🤷🏽♀️
They don’t typically have anymore life experience than anyone else. They’re just trying to convince themselves that they are smarter than they are. Don’t get me wrong, I could care less. We all have a roll. I just thing it sounds dumb.
They like to explain themselves but have difficulty doing so as we are all brought up with different experiences/views etc.
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And besides those different experiences/views, there might be some communication barriers like language and the ability to put thoughts into words…
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I’ve experienced that many people actually have a difficult time explaining themselves, or that they only see the negative within themselves.
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Yes! And people also love to talk about the negative around themselves…
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They only love to say about themselves and not interested in others. I mean they are interested in only the negative in others and positive in themselves.
Hit this….
https://amogha-varsha.com/2019/06/19/walk-the-talk-talk-the-walk/
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Yes, some people are like that and I think it’s because they feel good about themselves when they can see bad things in others.
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Their achievements. People are always proud and confident of their achievements.
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Yes, they are! And they expect to be applauded for those.
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EVERYTHING!
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Everything? Even the not so good parts?
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We have to take the bad with the good. Such is life, Sometimes we learn the most from the uncomfortable “bad” things we encounter. Finding a way to accept “everything”, even what we take away from the upsetting, unsettling parts is allows to learn, grow, evolve, and gain strength
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…that they are tolerant and liberal…followed by a “but”….🤔
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And the most important things come after that “but”.
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That depends so much on the individual. Some will brag about their achievements, others about what motivates them. Some only talk work or family. We probably learn as much about a person by what they don’t tell about themselves as we do from they share.
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Totally agree. I also find it very interesting to notice what a person shares depending of the listener. It shows their level of comfort with that person.
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It depends on the person and their state of mind.
Some like to tell you only about the positive things in their lives. There are a number of reasons why they would do this.
1. It could be that they’re just a positive person and choose to have a positive outlook on life. These are some of the best people you could ever know. Their positivity is addictive and can help to inspire people to live better lives.
2. On the flip side there are people that exaggerate or blatantly lie about the good things in their lives. They are usually in a state of denial or depression and use this behaviour as a form of validation and seek approval by others.
Some people only ever talk about the negative aspects of life. This gets annoying very quickly and usually steers conversations into areas that upset or frustrate others. While they may be good people at heart, I do my best to stay clear of this. They will disguise their behaviour as being a realist, but in fact they are more often than not, just plain unsatisfied with life.
I am not a psychologist but I’ve met a lot of different people throughout my life, had many in-depth conversations, and have seen this in practice on many occasions.
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Very true! Unfortunately, around me are mostly people that only talk about the negative aspects of life. I think it’s a cultural thing here in Romania.
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I’m always the good guy/girl.
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That and also “I’m not the bad guy/girl”. It might sound like the same thing, but it’s not.
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No, I’m not thin, look at my fat ass. Gmpf she looks underfed and like a stik
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Oooohhh yeeess! I’m very familiar with this. Girls do this so much especially when talking to other girls.
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😂
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That they are great drivers.
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True! Very few people actually say they’re sucky drivers.
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During the last few years when I was in university, I noticed that 95% of people that I came across loved saying that their uni is very hard. Sort of a humble brag I guess.
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Or they use it as an excuse for their results.
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People love to talk about how hard they’ve had it.
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Well, they want to be the heroes of their lives, right?
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Anything, so long as they are the topic of conversation. People love to talk about themselves and steer all conversation around their own ego.
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Unfortunately that’s how conversations go… it’s just a turn-based game where people talk about themselves one at a time.
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Not necessarily listening, usually waiting for their turn to speak. 🤷♀️ it is what it is.
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Yes, exactly!
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My family love to comment on their own intelligence level. My father brags about his, while my mother moans about her (so she thinks) lack of it.
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Interesting. Which one of them do you consider to be more intelligent?
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My father is more book smart.
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Brag about their accomplishments.
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It’s interesting that people who had huge accomplishments don’t feel the need to talk about them so much compared to the people that have little accomplishments. At least; that’s what I noticed.
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” Trust me I ….”
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And of course we trust them :))
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and ofc we regret
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“I’m a good person”
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The need for other people’s approval is insane…
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People always like to say as if they have been hurt even when it is they who have hurted.
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People hate to admit they made a mistake. It’s easier to pretend to be a victim.
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“I know this probably sounds like ….”
How are you able to know the actual effect of whatever ur statement is? AND preempt it? Like do people walk around with their invisible 3rd person’s perspective walking along with them? 🤷🏽♀️
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I guess they use it because that’s how they see it and they project that perspective into others.
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People love to talk about their achievements in life with a little boasting.
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What would life be without a little imagination 😀
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What job and how much money they make seems to be the first thing most people tell me as though it’ll impress me ha how wrong they are.
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This is probably because that’s what impresses them 🙂
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True.
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That they have street smarts (vs book smarts).
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So they love to point out they have life experience…
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They don’t typically have anymore life experience than anyone else. They’re just trying to convince themselves that they are smarter than they are. Don’t get me wrong, I could care less. We all have a roll. I just thing it sounds dumb.
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Everything, provided someone is listening intently.
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Whatever is said, usually reflect how people want to be perceived. Sadly, what is said, usually include money, education and/or social status.
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That seems to be valued by today’s society…
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