Question of the Day – No. 425 How do other people’s frustrations influence your life? Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrMoreLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailLike this:Like Loading... 28 thoughts on “Question of the Day – No. 425” Add yours If you are expected to fulfill your parents dreams and satisfy their needs, you won`t experience unconditional love. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Unfortunately this is very true! It’s strange how love is conditioned by those things… LikeLiked by 1 person Reply The feeling like a warm breeze on a cold winter night. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I’m one who experiences one and it’s opposite, simultaneously, in life. While often I’ll feel ” I don’t give a fuck” what they think, I actually very much will…at the same time. There’s a point in time when I door slam and the individual will no longer have any place in my life. LikeLike Reply I like to think that they don’t… LikeLiked by 1 person Reply How sure are you? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply 20% 😅😅😅 LikeLiked by 1 person Before I started my journey in sobriety, other peoples frustrations would affect me terribly. I’ve been in the administrative field for the last 20 years and unknowingly that qualifies you as office therapist. Ultimately, I would end up upset and frustrated myself in trying to help them. Now? I might listen, but if it doesn’t affect me directly, once they leave, I let it go. Today the only side of the street I have to keep clean is mine. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply This is great! What determined this change? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I think mainly making the honest realization that I can’t fix anyone else except myself. LikeLiked by 1 person I get tense when people are venting their frustrations. If someone is continually frustrated as a person and negative all the time… I get to where I am yelling in my head ” I can’t take this anymore.” I have worked really hard to go from being a person who dumped all her problems on everyone who would listen…to someone that deals and moves on and tries to keep focused on SOMETHING good. Being around frustrated people tends to trigger me into frustration. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply You had a great evolution if you managed to deal with your frustrations and not dump them on others. The thing is that people don’t want to take responsibility for their own life because it’s hard. Venting frustrations is easier… LikeLiked by 1 person Reply so true LikeLiked by 1 person I ask if I can do something to help. If I can, I do. If someone is frustrated and don’t want advice or decide not to follow what I recommend what I know works. I just move on. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply So either way, you try to do it your way, right? LikeLike Reply hmmm I think you got me there 🙂 Something to think about. But You missed that I first said… “I will ask if I can help and if I can, I will” so that will be their way, If it is the right thing to do as they want it, but they are unable too, and that is the cause of the frustration.I will do as they want to and fix it. Other wise seek together for a solution. Maybe I should qualify my answers to these questions of yours more. But then sometimes the dementia throws me of the tracks. Such is life. Lol on bad days, I don’t even understand your questions lmao LikeLiked by 1 person I haven’t missed what you said first 😛 If there are times when you don’t understand my questions, feel free to ask for clarifications. I don’t mind! The whole purpose for these questions is to help people. LikeLike Thank you very much. It is very kind of you. With the dementia some days are a bit difficult with the understanding lol LikeLiked by 1 person This depends on if you’re connected with that person – when people you care about are frustrated, it’s natural to empathise with them. I think the level it impacts your day depends on if it’s serious or not – if it’s an everyday frustration, best to chat, move on and not let it impact your day any further! LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I’m wondering what would happen if we’re surrounded of the same frustrations every day. Do we manage to stay strong and not get influenced by them or we slowly get “infected”? LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Good question! In my opinion I think that would depend on the individual and their level of resilience. I’d expect repeated exposure to someone’s frustrations is likely to have a negative influence on you; so if you couldn’t help them address the issue (for whatever reason) you’d need to draw a line and step away to look after your own well-being at some point. LikeLiked by 1 person It impacts how I interact with others LikeLiked by 1 person Reply It also impacts the way you interact with yourself? LikeLike Reply Not so much I don’t think LikeLiked by 1 person Whenever I’m hanging around someone who is really stressed out, it immediately makes me stressed out too. I have to get away from them for a while so I don’t start getting irritable. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply I can relate to that so much. The thing is that sometimes it’s not possible to get away… it’s a struggle. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply There are two ways to handle ourselves among those who are frustrated: 1- Act the way, you would want them to act 2- Act the same way they’re acting But only one of those ways lead to solution(s) LikeLiked by 1 person Reply True! And the other one leads to more frustration. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Leave a Reply Cancel reply Enter your comment here... Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Email (required) (Address never made public) Name (required) Website You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Google account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Twitter account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Facebook account. ( Log Out / Change ) Cancel Connecting to %s Notify me of new comments via email. Notify me of new posts via email.