What have come to understand about friendship is that it is birthed from a place of love . its not birthed from a place of entitlement , I give to you , you give me back . its birthed from I care about you and all I do is because I love you and I want the best for you . putting others into consideration , being there for people whenever they need you . its not about who calls the most or how many times you check up on each other . its about being there whenever I need you . no matter how long I don’t talk to you , when I say hello , I expect the same fire we used to ignite to flame up again .
A relationship that has understanding without judgement. A willingness to sacrifice out of love to help that person without expecting anything in return.
Unfortunately I don’t have anyone anymore. My best friend past away and my other close friend that I grew up with is so far gone into drugs that I had to let her go. I miss having a connection like that though. Maybe one day.
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A true friendship is to be there for each other through thick and thin. True friendship also give and take, not one draining the other.
Someone you can trust not to flee when they see your broken or vulnerable side, someone who trusts you in the same way, a mutual appreciation society, if you will.
I have dear, dear friends that I may only talk to once every few years, but we pick up right where we dropped off. I have other friends that daily check ins and “Hey, I know this is a silly thing, but can you weigh in on_____?” Either way, I’m blessed with people in my life that are, as one person put it “My first family. You’re bulletproof.” That kind of love is powerful.
Friendship is something I truly value. Having a friend(s), brings a certain intimacy that’s lacking with parents. You want to be close with your parents but you don’t want to disclose every aspect of your life. If you have great friend(s), you should be able to share your intimate self without feeling judged.
Someone who can stick with you through thick and thin, good times and bad. Is very understanding, caring and sometimes meet together to hang out and just do something that we both enjoy.
I’m not sure why exactly, but that feels like a particularly tough one to answer. I think it has to have something to do with being deeply connected to another person, forming close bonds which allow us to understand each other’s behaviours, thoughts, and so forth, more intimately, at least prospectively, than most other people. It doesn’t have to be that we have something strongly in common, shared experience and existential concerns can be enough, but whether there is a single marker of how this is crystallised is another matter.
I’m honestly not sure, I think I have a few times. I’m certainly not one to talk about superficial matters or create artifice around myself. If I want to speak to a person, I want to connect with them, not exchange meaningless symbols and token gestures. I understand that not everyone wants to be so deeply connected, but I certainly start by always being honest as deeply as I can, on a completely human level. I’ve probably not articulated this very well. How about yourself?
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Besides my wife, I only have one person which left the city so I’m wondering how our relationship will go.
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Acceptance of most of my shenanigans. We can often understand behavior, knowing we don’t have to adopt it, or even fully condone it. They aren’t always there for me. But they are if I really need them. I love ‘em.
It would be more the day to day moments. I’m independent…on my own. I can go for weeks without a contact, or months. I believe it to be societal. My friends are at an age where their children have left home. So in the progression of things, they are buckling down for the last push through their careers before they retire. Many of them are paying for their children’s college, which is outrageously expensive. To think people will just lay down their extensive plans for me is self centered on my part. We I do meet with people now and then, by my or their suggestion. It’s nearly impossible to schedule jam sessions with the band I’m in because people are so booked.
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That someone is actually there for you when you need them.
There is a saying in my culture that true friends can be seen when we face some difficulties. Everybody can be there for you when everything’s good, but that doesn’t apply when hell broke loose.
Oh, I definitely know that all too well. Over the years I’ve drastically lowered my number of friends due to many of them not being there when I truly needed them. Friendship is a two-way street.
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cant form any friendships, i get close then distant lol, im a nightmare.
True friendship means they don’t repeat the things you say, or talk behind your back. They will provide support and kindness. A true friend will love you even when they disagree with you .
I love this part -> “A true friend will love you even when they disagree with you .” And in addition, a true friend will tell you his/her opinion, but he/she will still support you if that’s the case.
A relation where you can be yourself. You can express yourself fully. A friend should stop you from doing wrong, not following you blindly. Being supportive and no ill will against each other.
Most importantly, being with you in your bad times.
I think it takes time to develop relationships like this. I’m meeting new people all the time, and at the same time strengthening connections with those I already know too
True friendship is rare. It comes from people that love you and want to share their lives with you. It’s manifested when an individual actually listens to you. It’s doesn’t waver over time.
Yes I have. My wife, two of my brother-in-laws, and my cousin would all fall into the realm of true friendship. We can pick up a conversation at any time and never does it feel like there’s been lost time. These four people are the ones I can truly count on if and when I need something, and vice-versa.
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Someone who is always willing to listen to what’s going on in your life and has seen you at your worst without judging you. 🙂
So far, no one. I haven’t had anyone I’ve considered a close friend in a long time. :/
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This question really got me thinking. I am not a pessimist, just a realist – I believe that humans are not capable of true friendship. The true real friendship I envision is like the one I have with God. Omnipresent, always listening, helping, nurturing, caring – I could go on. I have never come across anyone like that, so my views are a bit biased 🙂
Giving, with no expectation of receiving; but still knowing the other person would do the same for you in a heartbeat; the ability to go a long time without seeing each other and just fall back into easy banter; loyalty, being happy for the other person’s successes and sticking with them through thick and thin.
When one is aligned (mind, emotions and body existing and working in tandem) that’s when one is true
A true one will attract true relationships
A person projecting an image (ego) will attract from his/shadow subconscious and walk more into lessons and not relationships
Very true! So in order to get true friendship we need to be true to ourselves first.
No clue. Never had one.
Was there any point in your life when you thought you had one?
There were times.
What changed?
Agoraphobia.
What have come to understand about friendship is that it is birthed from a place of love . its not birthed from a place of entitlement , I give to you , you give me back . its birthed from I care about you and all I do is because I love you and I want the best for you . putting others into consideration , being there for people whenever they need you . its not about who calls the most or how many times you check up on each other . its about being there whenever I need you . no matter how long I don’t talk to you , when I say hello , I expect the same fire we used to ignite to flame up again .
I really love this.
Thank you
Awesome description! I totally agree with you. Once we start counting who did more of what, the friendship might be dying…
When someone who gets up at 3am to bail you out of jail…priceless! Not that I’ve been to jail but you get my point.
Yes, I get your point. A person who will do anything for you at any hour is a true friend. 🙂
A relationship that has understanding without judgement. A willingness to sacrifice out of love to help that person without expecting anything in return.
How many relationships like this do you have (excluding family)? I think I only have one…
Unfortunately I don’t have anyone anymore. My best friend past away and my other close friend that I grew up with is so far gone into drugs that I had to let her go. I miss having a connection like that though. Maybe one day.
A true friendship is to be there for each other through thick and thin. True friendship also give and take, not one draining the other.
Totally agree with this, especially with the “not one draining the other”. These “friendships” are hard to handle…
Someone you can trust not to flee when they see your broken or vulnerable side, someone who trusts you in the same way, a mutual appreciation society, if you will.
I have dear, dear friends that I may only talk to once every few years, but we pick up right where we dropped off. I have other friends that daily check ins and “Hey, I know this is a silly thing, but can you weigh in on_____?” Either way, I’m blessed with people in my life that are, as one person put it “My first family. You’re bulletproof.” That kind of love is powerful.
Yes, that kind of love is powerful and it seems you have so much love around. No wonder you can go through everything.
A true friend is always at your side whatever.
Yes, it is. How many true friends do you have?
You can usually count them on the fingers of one hand.
True friendship is unconditional love, when being with someone is as effortless as being with yourself because you are truly yourself with them.
So a true friendship is when the two can really be themselves effortless… nice point of view!
Friendship is something I truly value. Having a friend(s), brings a certain intimacy that’s lacking with parents. You want to be close with your parents but you don’t want to disclose every aspect of your life. If you have great friend(s), you should be able to share your intimate self without feeling judged.
I totally agree with the idea that true friendship “requires” no judgement… it might be the only way true understanding can exist.
Someone who can stick with you through thick and thin, good times and bad. Is very understanding, caring and sometimes meet together to hang out and just do something that we both enjoy.
Great description! I think these friends are very hard to find…
I’m not sure why exactly, but that feels like a particularly tough one to answer. I think it has to have something to do with being deeply connected to another person, forming close bonds which allow us to understand each other’s behaviours, thoughts, and so forth, more intimately, at least prospectively, than most other people. It doesn’t have to be that we have something strongly in common, shared experience and existential concerns can be enough, but whether there is a single marker of how this is crystallised is another matter.
You’re right. Have you ever got to this point to someone?
I’m honestly not sure, I think I have a few times. I’m certainly not one to talk about superficial matters or create artifice around myself. If I want to speak to a person, I want to connect with them, not exchange meaningless symbols and token gestures. I understand that not everyone wants to be so deeply connected, but I certainly start by always being honest as deeply as I can, on a completely human level. I’ve probably not articulated this very well. How about yourself?
Besides my wife, I only have one person which left the city so I’m wondering how our relationship will go.
Acceptance of most of my shenanigans. We can often understand behavior, knowing we don’t have to adopt it, or even fully condone it. They aren’t always there for me. But they are if I really need them. I love ‘em.
This is interesting! Can you give some examples of when they weren’t there for you?
It would be more the day to day moments. I’m independent…on my own. I can go for weeks without a contact, or months. I believe it to be societal. My friends are at an age where their children have left home. So in the progression of things, they are buckling down for the last push through their careers before they retire. Many of them are paying for their children’s college, which is outrageously expensive. To think people will just lay down their extensive plans for me is self centered on my part. We I do meet with people now and then, by my or their suggestion. It’s nearly impossible to schedule jam sessions with the band I’m in because people are so booked.
That someone is actually there for you when you need them.
There is a saying in my culture that true friends can be seen when we face some difficulties. Everybody can be there for you when everything’s good, but that doesn’t apply when hell broke loose.
Oh, I definitely know that all too well. Over the years I’ve drastically lowered my number of friends due to many of them not being there when I truly needed them. Friendship is a two-way street.
cant form any friendships, i get close then distant lol, im a nightmare.
How come you get close and then distant?
True friendship means they don’t repeat the things you say, or talk behind your back. They will provide support and kindness. A true friend will love you even when they disagree with you .
I love this part -> “A true friend will love you even when they disagree with you .” And in addition, a true friend will tell you his/her opinion, but he/she will still support you if that’s the case.
A relation where you can be yourself. You can express yourself fully. A friend should stop you from doing wrong, not following you blindly. Being supportive and no ill will against each other.
Most importantly, being with you in your bad times.
Very true! In bad times we really need our friends’ support.
Someone you can rely on and who makes you smile
When was the first time you met a person like this and you became friends?
I think it takes time to develop relationships like this. I’m meeting new people all the time, and at the same time strengthening connections with those I already know too
Have you been reading my blog for inspiration😉
It seems we synced up pretty well on this topic! 😀
True friendship is rare. It comes from people that love you and want to share their lives with you. It’s manifested when an individual actually listens to you. It’s doesn’t waver over time.
Have you ever encountered true friendship?
Yes I have. My wife, two of my brother-in-laws, and my cousin would all fall into the realm of true friendship. We can pick up a conversation at any time and never does it feel like there’s been lost time. These four people are the ones I can truly count on if and when I need something, and vice-versa.
Someone who is always willing to listen to what’s going on in your life and has seen you at your worst without judging you. 🙂
How many people like that do you have in your life?
So far, no one. I haven’t had anyone I’ve considered a close friend in a long time. :/
This question really got me thinking. I am not a pessimist, just a realist – I believe that humans are not capable of true friendship. The true real friendship I envision is like the one I have with God. Omnipresent, always listening, helping, nurturing, caring – I could go on. I have never come across anyone like that, so my views are a bit biased 🙂
Well, when it comes to people, there always is something selfish in their behavior. Maybe more or maybe less, but it’s there…
Giving, with no expectation of receiving; but still knowing the other person would do the same for you in a heartbeat; the ability to go a long time without seeing each other and just fall back into easy banter; loyalty, being happy for the other person’s successes and sticking with them through thick and thin.
What an awesome description of what true friendship is. How many friends like this do you have?
I am not sure if I’ve experienced it, yet.
But I have an idea of how I want it to be.
No different than the friendship between me, myself and I.
Do you think you’ll ever experience it?
I guess the question is
How would I know when I do/if I do experience it. 🤦🏾♂️
True friends are hard to find, one thing that helped me figure out what a true friendship feels like is reading this article, it gives good advice on what to look for in a friend. https://www.jw.org/en/library/magazines/g201406/what-makes-good-friend/