Do you ever wonder why we do what we do? Why do we want what we want? What’s the reasoning behind this? Why from time to time our wishes change? Why sometimes we want something opposite to what we wanted some time ago? Why our wishes and our needs change? What changes them? Do we change? If so, why?
I think that asking yourself why from time to time is very useful because is some sort of self-acknowledge and a great way to spot artificial desires. We as humans want many things, not all of them are appropriate to us, but we still want them. Why? Maybe because we are bombarded every day with commercials and with the image of a successful person, not knowing ourselves what success means to us. We just accept what others have. What I’m trying to say is that the desires we have might not truly be our desires, but we internalized and we want things we don’t have just because others have it and we don’t. Do we need them? Do we truly want them? Or we just think that we’ll be more appreciated if we have those things regardless what we truly want.
I’ve noticed that most of the people don’t know what they want to do with their lives. They know what they want to have and what they don’t like, but very few people truly know what they want to do with their live. We don’t have goals that can make us fulfilled. We desire things because that’s what we think it will make us feel good and it does, but only for a few moments. After that, we’ll go for something else and we’re going to think that when we’ll have that thing we’ll be happy and so on. One problem here is that we don’t know what we want and because of that we don’t commit to something and because we don’t commit, we’ll quit at the smallest bump we encounter. And we’ll form another desire and in the best case scenario, we go for it, but most of the time we’ll find excuses for why we can’t achieve that thing.
These things happen because we don’t know what we truly want. Because if we knew what we truly want, it will be easier to keep our mind on the goal and get over every bump we have in our road. That’s why I think we should ask ourselves WHY from time to time to truly know ourselves. Why do we want that car/house/phone/laptop/person etc.? How our lives will be different if we have those things? What can we do different? How would our lives improve? Maybe we want those things just to show others what we have? Maybe having that will get us the attention we need? Maybe we think that having those things will make us successful people? If this is the case, how and why most of the people that have those things still feel miserable after a while? Maybe we use a wrong tool to measure success. What’s the right tool, then? I don’t know. That’s why we should ask ourselves the why question. Success in life is different from one to another and we have to truly know ourselves so we can set some goals that truly counts for us. Find your reason to wake up every morning.
Some time ago, I questioned why I was in my relationship, why I’m alive, why I blogged and this gave me a direction I should follow. We should always ask why to the things we do, it helps navigate us. Thanks for sharing this
Why is usually more important than What 😇
Thank you for reading! Without questions we cannot find THE PATH 🙂
Some very insightful analysis there. 🙂 Good article.
Thank you very much for reading and for your kind words!
I truly LOVE MUSIC. I would have been happy working on music all day, damn near all night. I would have been happy working for Def Jam or Universal or Bad Boy Entertainment. I would have been happy making beats/songs for rappers for their demos and enjoy the process of their ascension or non-ascension to a record deal, fortune and fame.
PROBLEM WITH ALL THAT: Regardless of what who says, LIVING IN NEW YORK AIN’T CHEAP! THERE AIN’T NO FREE RIDE THERE! LIVING ANYWHERE IS NOT FREE! SO YOU NEED MONEY! And if you’re going to work hard, rather at your passion or NOT, IT WOULD BE DAMN NICE TO GET PAID FOR IT!
WE DO WHAT WE DO TO SURVIVE! We try our passion if we’re free to do so, to try and make money at it. Or to live a semi-comfortable or HUGELY COMFORTABLE LIFE; both lifestyles TAKE EARNED EMOLUMENT! NOT ALMS!
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS “MONEY AS A NON-FACTOR!” THERE JUST ISN’T!
But, after living so long CHASING MONEY or HAVING MONEY, you realize (well I have) THAT (and I’ve said this to you before) YOUR WANTS ARE OUT IN SPACE IN “THE MATRIX” Your needs are real, and your needs rarely line up with your passion.
It’s best to be present in the moment. YOU ARE NOT FAMISHED OR PARCHED! YOU ARE WARM! YOU ARE RESTED! (that’s the key: food/water, clothing, shelter.) Follow your passion or living your life within that mantra without expectations and ego AND YOU’LL BE HAPPY!
Thank you for this insightful comment! I totally agree with you that we need money. That’s why most of us have a 9 to 5 job (including me). What we do in the rest of the time can make the difference…
“The conscious mind — the self or soul — is a spin doctor, not the commander-in-chief.”
— Stephen Pinker, “The Blank Slate.”
Awesome quote! 😀
Oh yes : Why is more important than What !! I wrote a blog last month or earlier : Why Why Why 😇
Yes, it is! Thank you very much for reading! <3
My pleasure
Being diagnosed with dementia, I know now with all my heart that I just want to enjoy life. Thinking it up as I go. Maybe I should make a bucket list 😁🌹
I think you should! Maybe it will help you enjoying life at its fullest potential! 😀
I ask myself “why” so many time yet I don’t have the answer yet. And I believe that many think they know but they have no clue. Why are we alive? That question will never be answered. We can speculate but we will never truly know.
We probably will never know, but as long as we are fulfilled by the life we have, we’re probably on the right track!
Great food for thought!
Thank you for reading! 😀
I feel like I read every single book about having a purpose in life – everything from The Purpose Driven Life to What Color is Your Parachute. What I found is the why and that I just have to do things. I have to try all the things I’m interested in. Finding the why wasn’t on purpose, but it sure cleared everything else up. It was my wake up call. Now I can just move freely doing the things I’m interested in without worrying if these things are my purpose. My purpose is to live, my why is because living is so much more interesting than constantly worrying about my purpose.
Best purpose! What helped you find it?
Thank you very much for mentioning me!
I wrote about living my why and quoted this post. Is there a way to know who the original author of the post is? https://ineedtosaythis.home.blog/2019/06/24/living-your-miserable-why-part-1/
That would also be me. I reblogged an old piece. Here is the original post https://pointlessoverthinking.com/2018/05/24/the-why-question/