I think that’s the second stage of removing the strangers in people after knowing their names.
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So many things . I want to check their believe system and know how they view the world if its in line with me . I ask question about life ,marriage , relationship etc . controversial questions so I can know their response. This would determine if we can be friends or not
What’s your take on women and leadership?
How would you run your home when it comes to domestic chores? I’m so particular about this one cause some men feel its a woman’s job to clean and cook and theirs to provide for the house. So I ask to clear up the air and know where I stand so I won’t be a victim of a bad marriage or relationship
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I’m not really that curious about people. I just see a new person to download information into. It’s a very bad habit I have.
Take your time getting to know them. Listen closely. I hope!
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Depending on where I’m initially meeting them (at work, recovery meeting, family function, out on the town, etc), I will cater my questions appropriately.
Also, I like to think most people warm up pretty quickly to me, but I won’t ask anything too deep if s/he seems hesitant to share.
Not a very specific answer, eh? 🤓
Exactly! I don’t filter myself during this. I just want people to feel as comfortable as they can.
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This may sound selfish, or insecure or whatever, but I’m usually most curious about what that person thinks of me-namely, will they want to get to know me or not…
This is the tricky part…I trust my gut. I take a risk. I try my best to read their body language…the biggest indicator for me is eye contact. And I’m not always right, but more times than not, it’s worth being brace…something I couldn’t have done before my midlife unraveling
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You mean, you meet somebody in a social setting and you ask if they want to get to know you? How would they know if they want to get to know you?
Read above…but it’s not so much an action, as a feeling…do I feel comfortable with this person? Do they seem comfortable with me?
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When I replied the rest of what you call ‘read above’ was not above. So you serially look for friends or dates that respond to you. You don’t try to get to know someone just for who they are even if they have nothing to offer you?
That’s not what I mean at all…what I mean is that if I don’t feel like there is or could be a connection, I don’t invest in that relationship…and by relationship, I’m not talking about dating, I’m talking professional, friendship, or peer group.
I just think if someone is meant to be in your life, in any capacity, you won’t have to look for anything, it’ll just come naturally by way of connection and chemistry, still not talking about dating.
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(My other reply that you didn’t see). This is the tricky part…I trust my gut. I take a risk. I try my best to read their body language…the biggest indicator for me is eye contact. And I’m not always right, but more times than not, it’s worth being brave…something I couldn’t have done before my midlife unraveling
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I’m sorry, but I think you are incredibly selfish. Everyone is worthy of some of my time.
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I think I’ve been misunderstood, but I can only take responsibility for myself. Sorry if I offended you.
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I’m sorry I have appeared to misunderstand. I am not offended at all.
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and maybe I am a bit selfish…I’m at a point in my life where I have to come first after caring for others for so long…I poured so much of myself into others that I fell apart…
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And I don’t look for people to respond to me, not serially or otherwise,
It varies widely on the circumstances of the meeting for me as far as what I’ll be most curious about, but let’s just say its your typical runin at the office.
I’d say my biggest curiosity is how friendly the person is and what we have in common. I’m a social butterfly.
I ask simple questions to start. Then I will get increasingly more in-depth and specific. If they know what they’re talking about it’ll shine through. If they don’t, they will be exposed.
I’m a big fan of long conversations, and most con artists or bull-shitters can only keep a charade going for maybe 15-20 minutes. If they can hold a conversation for more than 40 minutes, their truth will be revealed.
I will have a million and one questions but I find a few key ones and they’ll spill the beans while I listen intently. I will always know more about them than vice versa.
I am worse one in this case. I don’t expect anything and I never ask anything unless they want to share. I don’t like lengthy conversation. So I say,” come to the point”.
If I know the person by face or if we have a common friend circle or work group, I’ll try to talk to them about common topics to see if they actually give all information or stay shut in matters which do not pertain to them.
If it’s an unknown person, I try to talk on general topics like – hobbies, likes and dislikes, personality, interests etc. A person gives himself away through their body language, expressions, personality and gesture. You can learn a few things about them in five seconds if you are keen enough.
Well if it’s a cute guy I like to find out if he’s single got any children (as most people my age do have children except me 😊) what are his interests, does he read, political views, and one important thing is do they have a sense of humour.
Not that much because somewhere I just afraid of strangers face to face meeting makes me quite nervous and fear full.
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Details about name and study , so we know about age and so on … then we can communicate for long ,.. i think same age group people can communicate very well .
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Do they read?! 🤔 And what they do for a living. 😅
Nice! What’s the most interesting thing people said they do for a living?
Hmmm…..I don’t really know. Most people have regular jobs, customer service related.
Their beliefs and values
Nice! What kind of questions do you ask to find those out?
What do you think of…? Insert anything pertaining to your own beliefs.
Where are they from exactly even before their names 😳
How come you’re curious about that?
I think that’s the second stage of removing the strangers in people after knowing their names.
So many things . I want to check their believe system and know how they view the world if its in line with me . I ask question about life ,marriage , relationship etc . controversial questions so I can know their response. This would determine if we can be friends or not
Very interesting! Can you give an example of a controversial question you usually ask?
What’s your take on women and leadership?
How would you run your home when it comes to domestic chores? I’m so particular about this one cause some men feel its a woman’s job to clean and cook and theirs to provide for the house. So I ask to clear up the air and know where I stand so I won’t be a victim of a bad marriage or relationship
I’m not really that curious about people. I just see a new person to download information into. It’s a very bad habit I have.
Spend more time listening. You’d be surprised what you might learn.
It’s the forgetting I have trouble with.
Maybe bad, but very useful.
Are they being genuine?
Bingo!
How can you find that out?
Take your time getting to know them. Listen closely. I hope!
Depending on where I’m initially meeting them (at work, recovery meeting, family function, out on the town, etc), I will cater my questions appropriately.
Also, I like to think most people warm up pretty quickly to me, but I won’t ask anything too deep if s/he seems hesitant to share.
Not a very specific answer, eh? 🤓
Not specific, but very interesting. You model your behavior based on the particularities of that person and situation.
Exactly! I don’t filter myself during this. I just want people to feel as comfortable as they can.
This may sound selfish, or insecure or whatever, but I’m usually most curious about what that person thinks of me-namely, will they want to get to know me or not…
That’s normal.
What do you do to find that?
This is the tricky part…I trust my gut. I take a risk. I try my best to read their body language…the biggest indicator for me is eye contact. And I’m not always right, but more times than not, it’s worth being brace…something I couldn’t have done before my midlife unraveling
Brave
You mean, you meet somebody in a social setting and you ask if they want to get to know you? How would they know if they want to get to know you?
Read above…but it’s not so much an action, as a feeling…do I feel comfortable with this person? Do they seem comfortable with me?
When I replied the rest of what you call ‘read above’ was not above. So you serially look for friends or dates that respond to you. You don’t try to get to know someone just for who they are even if they have nothing to offer you?
That’s not what I mean at all…what I mean is that if I don’t feel like there is or could be a connection, I don’t invest in that relationship…and by relationship, I’m not talking about dating, I’m talking professional, friendship, or peer group.
I just think if someone is meant to be in your life, in any capacity, you won’t have to look for anything, it’ll just come naturally by way of connection and chemistry, still not talking about dating.
(My other reply that you didn’t see). This is the tricky part…I trust my gut. I take a risk. I try my best to read their body language…the biggest indicator for me is eye contact. And I’m not always right, but more times than not, it’s worth being brave…something I couldn’t have done before my midlife unraveling
I’m sorry, but I think you are incredibly selfish. Everyone is worthy of some of my time.
I think I’ve been misunderstood, but I can only take responsibility for myself. Sorry if I offended you.
I’m sorry I have appeared to misunderstand. I am not offended at all.
and maybe I am a bit selfish…I’m at a point in my life where I have to come first after caring for others for so long…I poured so much of myself into others that I fell apart…
And I don’t look for people to respond to me, not serially or otherwise,
What do they enjoy?
Yes! We can find out great things when it comes to what others like and dislike.
And we discover what we have in common.
When I meet someone new I’m so curious! I want to know there whole life story! 🙈 but most importantly what they like to do for fun!
It varies widely on the circumstances of the meeting for me as far as what I’ll be most curious about, but let’s just say its your typical runin at the office.
I’d say my biggest curiosity is how friendly the person is and what we have in common. I’m a social butterfly.
Can they stop talking and just listen?
In my experience, most people can’t.
Exactly, but when they can, now that’s something.
If they are actually an intelligent human with interesting and original thoughts. Not just some fool that spews talking points.
What strategy do you usually use to find that out?
I ask simple questions to start. Then I will get increasingly more in-depth and specific. If they know what they’re talking about it’ll shine through. If they don’t, they will be exposed.
I’m a big fan of long conversations, and most con artists or bull-shitters can only keep a charade going for maybe 15-20 minutes. If they can hold a conversation for more than 40 minutes, their truth will be revealed.
Why does the person act the way they do?
So you try to see the reason behind their acting, right?
Exactly
I will have a million and one questions but I find a few key ones and they’ll spill the beans while I listen intently. I will always know more about them than vice versa.
Their intention with me & my friendship
Are people open to that right at the beginning?
Usually, yea, but some lie.
I am worse one in this case. I don’t expect anything and I never ask anything unless they want to share. I don’t like lengthy conversation. So I say,” come to the point”.
So you’re not really interested in meeting new people?
Just by writing only otherwise not.
What is it this person is afraid of?
This is a very interesting aspect that people tend to avoid when they first meet someone. How do you find out what they’re afraid of?
I ask.
Trust factor. I’ll try to know the person’s dependability and nature to know what I can talk about and what not.
What kind of questions do you ask to find that out?
If I know the person by face or if we have a common friend circle or work group, I’ll try to talk to them about common topics to see if they actually give all information or stay shut in matters which do not pertain to them.
If it’s an unknown person, I try to talk on general topics like – hobbies, likes and dislikes, personality, interests etc. A person gives himself away through their body language, expressions, personality and gesture. You can learn a few things about them in five seconds if you are keen enough.
I’m curious about his/her first impression of me.
How do you make sure whatever they’re saying is genuine?
I’d go with my gut feeling.
Well if it’s a cute guy I like to find out if he’s single got any children (as most people my age do have children except me 😊) what are his interests, does he read, political views, and one important thing is do they have a sense of humour.
What about other women and “unattractive” guys?
I’d still talk to them, and find some common interest
And if it’s not a cute guy?
I’d still talk to them and find a common interest, to be honest I’ll talk to anyone and everyone.
Nothing.♥♥♥
How come? You don’t like to meet new people?
Not that much because somewhere I just afraid of strangers face to face meeting makes me quite nervous and fear full.
Details about name and study , so we know about age and so on … then we can communicate for long ,.. i think same age group people can communicate very well .
What if there is an age gap?
Then i’ll ask about journey of life …because i want to learn from elders , and i’d like to hear real life stories .
I will be curious about their behaviors and emotions and try to comfort them as they are.
Very interesting! So you try to pay attention to their behavior instead of trying to figure out what to say, right?
Right.
How much they value others and themselves
How can we realize this? It would be very interesting to find it out.
I’m specially curious do they read and what’s their favorite book…
That’s a great conversation opener. People love to talk about their passions.
Right!
What are their core assumptions about things they believe in?
This is awesome! Related to that, I’d also try to find out what are those core assumptions based on…
Their hobbies
Which was the most surprising hobby you’ve encountered so far?
None.. all are so normal 😜 what are yours?
I’m usually to nervous to be curious. 🤪
I don’t know if you participate with blogger awards, but I love your questions every day 😊 and just wanted to let you know I nominated you for the Blogger Recognition Award 😊
https://pilgrimage.studio/2019/07/04/blogger-recognition/
Thank you very much! I really appreciate it! I’ll try to find some time to do it 🙂
Curious about whether that person cares for society or not