Is there a connection between the two? I was actually amazed once I started to observe and analyze what happens when people cuss (me included). In my culture, people tend to judge the ones who cuss as being rude or uneducated. However, it has nothing to do with that. Yes, an educated person will keep an eye on his/her surroundings and he/she will cuss only if the situation allows that. Uneducated people will cuss anytime.
Cussing is a venting tool
Yes, that’s right! Think about the moments you catch yourself cussing. Does it happen when you’re excited or it happens when you feel some form of frustration, anger or sadness? Sometimes the feeling is so intense that the only way to express it is to drop a little f bomb so you won’t punch someone or something.
Cussing words come easier
When we’re possessed by strong reactive emotions, we are basically unable to create essays or stories. We get the urge to express what we feel in a short brutal way. Can an essay do that? No, but breaking a dish can. And when there are no dishes around, a simple “F*ck you!!!!” does the trick. It’s simple and efficient.
Cussing words have huge energy
People don’t cuss when they’re tired. They cuss when they have energy created by those emotions. A “f*cuk” carries much more energy than a “hello” because it is directly linked and powered by a strong emotion. That’s why we feel a little better and our level of energy decreases a little bet after we cuss something or someone. That energy is released through the words.
In the end, it’s all about releasing that energy or channeling it to something productive. If we hold it in and we do nothing about it, it will push us further more into the fight or flight mode, which is hurtful long-term. Just as we can release unwanted energy through movement, we can release some through cussing. It’s not nice nor elegant, but it’s effective.
What was the most inappropriate moment when you dropped an f bomb?
I’m trying to do better but I still drop the f-bomb a lot. When I’m really upset or angry it just flows right out of my mouth. It does get the point across very well though, course as it may be.
Does that happen in any other conditions? Or only when you’re really upset or angry?
The f-bomb only comes out when I’m angry or feel threatened. I don’t know why. I don’t say it any other time.
I hate people who seem to think that cursing often relates to your level of intelligence…I’m from jersey! It’s like the accent almost! 😆
I guess you’re relaxed as f*ck!
That literally made crack the “eff” up! 😆
Perfect response! Hahaha!
Cool piece. I tend to cuss when I’m really comfortable or too uncomfortable. I think this has to do with that energy level you speak of here. I’m definitely a ‘situational sailor’.
“Situational sailor” lol Loved it!
Goodness… I tend to swear like a sailor… most specially in stressful circumstances.
It seems that stress gets “the best” of us.
Hmmmmm I don’t know if I agree or not. I’ve cursed before, sure. But I lose respect and understanding for ANYONE that curses all day every day. There is ALWAYS another word. Choices! Choices is what it all comes down to.
I started cursing about 7 years ago because I thought…. well, Life is short, everyone’s doing it, I’m feeling superior to my friends by not cursing when they curse and are actual real-life high achievers etc.
Initially it felt like speaking an alien tongue but now it just slips right out 😂
Fudge just doesn’t have the punch that f**k has (😂)
I guess that people who cuss all day know no other way to handle the frustration. Or they’re too lazy to use it.
Dropping one right now ….. F**K!
Who would’ve thought! Great article 😊
Sh*t! I didn’t expect it! Thanks for the compliment! 😀
I fell off the monkey bars when I was 8 years old and said FUCK really loud. Ate a bar of soap that day.
Have you ever said Fuck again? :))
And cussing can be perceived as a weakness from lack of self control
Yes, it can be. Awesome point! Thank you for sharing!
I’ve heard cursing described as passion, which seems to fit. Passion + frustration or anger.
Hmm… it might be. Do you think passion is required for a cuss to “happen”? Or frustration or anger is enough?
I don’t know about you, but I usually passionately frustrated or angry. The cuss jumps out when I hit a certain threshold of passion.
𝙸 𝚜𝚊𝚢 𝚌𝚞𝚛𝚜𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚒𝚜 𝚊 𝚛𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝 𝚘𝚏 𝚊𝚍𝚞𝚕𝚝𝚑𝚘𝚘𝚍. 𝙸 𝚊𝚐𝚛𝚎𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚜𝚑𝚘𝚞𝚕𝚍 𝚋𝚎 𝚊𝚠𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚊𝚞𝚍𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚌𝚎, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚜𝚙𝚎𝚊𝚔 𝚊𝚙𝚙𝚛𝚘𝚙𝚛𝚒𝚊𝚝𝚎𝚕𝚢. 𝙱𝚞𝚝 𝙸 𝚛𝚎𝚏𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚌𝚎𝚗𝚜𝚘𝚛 𝚖𝚢𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏 𝚊𝚛𝚘𝚞𝚗𝚍 𝚝𝚑𝚘𝚜𝚎 𝚌𝚕𝚘𝚜𝚎𝚜𝚝 𝚝𝚘 𝚖𝚎. 𝙿𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 𝚌𝚊𝚗 𝚋𝚎 𝚓𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚊𝚜 𝚘𝚏𝚏𝚎𝚗𝚜𝚒𝚟𝚎 (𝚘𝚛 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚜𝚘) 𝚋𝚢 𝚜𝚙𝚎𝚊𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚒𝚗 𝚗𝚘𝚗-𝚌𝚞𝚛𝚜𝚎 𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚍𝚜. 𝚃𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚔 𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚒𝚝.
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Of course they can. Actually, that’s passive-aggressive speaking and it’s even more offensive.
I have a total potty mouth but it seems to be lessening a bit as I get older. A bit. I still crack up when I think about the day my mother released a very loud f-bomb under her breath – not- as we left a drug store, leaving the teenage cashier and another customer in fits of giggles. She’s a very refined, sophisticated looking 77 year old woman so it was a bit shocking I think. I read a study that said people who swear more are more intelligent, so I’m standing by that. 😏
That sounds like a very interesting study! Do you remember the theory behind that? How come people who swear are more intelligent than others?
Haha, no I just grabbed on to that fact and didn’t worry about the theory. Not super intelligent – ha!
Another funny story – I was doing an exercise with my grade one class about bullying, so I asked what some of the mean things they’d heard on the playground. I got the usual ‘you can’t play’, ‘you’re stupid’, ‘I don’t want to be your friend’. Then, the littlest mite in the class raises her hand and her big brown eyes and says in an unusually loud voice, ‘you’re an A**HOLE’ 😳 Moving on, moving on… 🤣
The most difficult line I had to tread was when I was living with an Army Private and teaching grade school Spanish. Damn hard to keep my vocabulary straight per my audience. -Rebecca
Well, what would have happened if an f bomb dropped now and then?
Ha ha, at the Catholic school where I taught? Probably a firing offense! -Rebecca
Mark Twain supposedly said, “Under certain circumstances, profanity provides a relief denied even to prayer.”