All day everyday. People aren’t happy with themselves, and need to talk about someone else to feel good about themselves, when it’s themselves they need to be talking about. That’s “Truth!”
Too much! In fact, it got to be so much so a few months ago that I had to take a step back and look more objectively at how people might be viewing me. If I could stop “mind-reading,” that would be awesome.
I love what you try to do about it. We can do the best we can for others, but it’s their responsibility to take it. We cannot decide how they receive information…
Soory for the late reply. No, I did not always think this way. I tended to try to please others by being non-confrontational, follow the rules etc., always worrying about what others thought of me. It was a stressful way to live so I gave it up. Now I don’t give too many thoughts about what people think of me.
it happens with age. You begin to not care what others think and start thinking of your own future without regards to theres than those close to you. its not rude. its time
I used to do that a lot. I was very much concerned about how other people see me. But I am happy to say that I’m starting to change the way I think about this. It’s still hard, but I am trying my best not to think about what others think. I just focus on myself and my happiness. Others’s opinion of me is none of my business… 🙂
I used to, now not anymore. Even if I see someone whispering in front of me and most probably ABOUT me, I give them the space of a 5 minutes thought in my head, then I wipe them out. I don’t want to care at all. There’s already too much to be worried about.
A couple of times within a year, though it’s getting rarer and rarer. I may have this sudden nagging guilty feeling but I don’t know who I wronged, or what I did to them. When that happens, I usually reach some people I’m close to and apologize.
That iam a weak stupid,idiotic funny foolish and mad girl. Sometimes people also think that i am arrogant, selfish attitude one but iam not.
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How come you think they think that?
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I don’t know.
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Too flipping much
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Have you ever tested those assumptions?
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Yes-and they’re not always correct
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Constantly. I’m working on the whole “What other people think of me is none of my business” aspect.
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My thoughts exactly Liz! Xx
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Oh yes! And I hope that’s helping you!
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It is.
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All day everyday. People aren’t happy with themselves, and need to talk about someone else to feel good about themselves, when it’s themselves they need to be talking about. That’s “Truth!”
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They do it so very much! And I think most of the time it has nothing to do with the person they’re talking about. It’s all about themselves…
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Very often
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Have you ever tried limiting that?
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Yes, I’m working on that nowadays and i see some improvements 🙌🏼🙌🏼
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Waaaaaaay too often.
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And how is that affecting your behavior?
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Too much! In fact, it got to be so much so a few months ago that I had to take a step back and look more objectively at how people might be viewing me. If I could stop “mind-reading,” that would be awesome.
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Have you ever tried to gather information about those assumptions? To test them?
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More often then I should.
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What can you do about it?
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Lot’s of things, but at the end of the day, it’s about convincing my mind to stop overreacting.
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Too much…even at my house with my family. Figure that out. I’m trying to ignore those voices in my head, but it’s incredibly hard.
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It is… if you think about it, how did those voices developed in the first place?
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𝙸 𝚝𝚘𝚘, 𝚍𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚘𝚏𝚝𝚎𝚗. 𝙸𝚝 𝚒𝚜 𝚜𝚘 𝚖𝚞𝚌𝚑 𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚒𝚎𝚛 𝚜𝚊𝚒𝚍 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚗 𝚍𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚝𝚛𝚞𝚕𝚢 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚌𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛 𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚔 𝚘𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞. 𝙴𝚜𝚙𝚎𝚌𝚒𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚢 𝚊𝚜 𝚊𝚗 𝚎𝚖𝚙𝚊𝚝𝚑, 𝙸 𝚏𝚎𝚎𝚕 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚜’ 𝚙𝚊𝚒𝚗. 𝙰𝚗𝚍 𝚒𝚏 𝙸 𝚊𝚖 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚌𝚊𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚙𝚊𝚒𝚗 (𝚘𝚛 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛 𝚗𝚎𝚐𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚎 𝚎𝚖𝚘𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗) 𝚒𝚝 𝚝𝚛𝚞𝚕𝚢 𝚋𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚔𝚜 𝚖𝚢 𝚜𝚙𝚒𝚛𝚒𝚝.
𝚂𝚘 𝙸 𝚊𝚖 𝚝𝚛𝚢𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚛𝚎𝚖𝚒𝚗𝚍 𝚖𝚢𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚠𝚑𝚒𝚕𝚎 𝙸 𝚌𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛 𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎, 𝙸 𝚊𝚖 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚛𝚎𝚜𝚙𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚒𝚋𝚕𝚎 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚒𝚛 𝚑𝚊𝚙𝚙𝚒𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜.
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I love what you try to do about it. We can do the best we can for others, but it’s their responsibility to take it. We cannot decide how they receive information…
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Probably more than I should to the point of feeling like a narcissist.
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How is that influencing your life?
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What others think about me is none of my business!
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That’s right! Have you always thought this way?
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Soory for the late reply. No, I did not always think this way. I tended to try to please others by being non-confrontational, follow the rules etc., always worrying about what others thought of me. It was a stressful way to live so I gave it up. Now I don’t give too many thoughts about what people think of me.
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Most often. But, I have realized that what I think about myself is more important that what others think about me.
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Oh, this is a perspective I can get behind. Well said!
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I’m glad you came to this conclusion. What helped you get here?
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I am not able to put my finger on one thing Bogdan; but , I think it’s my experience and the advice I get from my family and friends.
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Rarely anymore. Now I question what they might be thinking. But that took decades to get to.
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Wow! That’s awesome! How come you got here?
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it happens with age. You begin to not care what others think and start thinking of your own future without regards to theres than those close to you. its not rude. its time
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Everyday
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How does it make you feel?
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Honestly? Drained..growing up I was only ever told bad things of what people thought of me so it’s a force of habit now
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I used to do that a lot. I was very much concerned about how other people see me. But I am happy to say that I’m starting to change the way I think about this. It’s still hard, but I am trying my best not to think about what others think. I just focus on myself and my happiness. Others’s opinion of me is none of my business… 🙂
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No, it’s not! You are your business 🙂
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Very less
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That’s awesome! Was it always like this?
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Yep always.. i just don’t bother lol
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I used to, now not anymore. Even if I see someone whispering in front of me and most probably ABOUT me, I give them the space of a 5 minutes thought in my head, then I wipe them out. I don’t want to care at all. There’s already too much to be worried about.
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Yeah… we don’t need to be worried about other people’s thoughts… we have our own.
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A couple of times within a year, though it’s getting rarer and rarer. I may have this sudden nagging guilty feeling but I don’t know who I wronged, or what I did to them. When that happens, I usually reach some people I’m close to and apologize.
And they would be confused and dumbfounded.
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This is interesting! In your opinion, why they get confused and dumbfounded?
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I guess because they don’t expect that or simply because they don’t know what I mean or how should they react?
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More than I should.
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How is that affecting you?
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Not as much as I used to! I’ve learned assumptions are pointless!
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Only when awake. 100% negative.
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Wayyy too much.
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