Today I want to talk about something that came up a few days ago in a discussion with a friend. That something is the idea that we are all heading towards the same destination in our journey of life, no matter where we start from. Let’s materialize this a little bit.
We probably have all noticed at some point that humans are different, and many times opposite. Some people have an independent spirit while others depend on people to get by in life. Some are naturally hard-working whereas others are lazier. Some are talkative while others prefer silence.
But all are humans. This means that we must share something that makes us humans. What is it?
One answer is that our purpose in life is to hit a balance. We might have started on the ‘independence’ end of the spectrum, but we are heading towards the balance, which is ‘healthy dependence’. We might have started on the other end of the same spectrum, which is ‘extreme dependence’, but we are heading towards the same balance point. Everything we experience in life is a push towards that destination. If we started from the independent end, we will experience cases where we really need people. Maybe sickness, or a school problem we are unable to solve. Or we will need someone to listen to us during difficult times. This way, we will see that we need people. If we started from the dependent end, we will meet people who we thought were dependable but left us. This will show us that we need some independence because we may not have someone at all times.
If we are too hard-working, we are heading towards a healthy working schedule. If we are lazy, we are forced by life events to do things. This forces us to get out of our lazy nature. If we are too talkative, we will notice people not listening to us anymore and will feel the need to get into silence at times. If we are too silent, we will experience events in which we are forced to talk. Maybe someone will experience injustice and this will not sit well with us and we will speak to support this person.
Wherever we start, we will end up in a more balanced point: do when it is necessary, not more not less. Human experience then is this journey where we all set out from different villages and meet in the village at the center because this village at the center is the most festive. There, we can enjoy ourselves more than anywhere else. There we can live together harmoniously because everyone is harmonious within themselves. If harmony is inside, it will be outside. We mirror ourselves onto the world around us.
One point to keep in mind: when we are going towards that village, we should not forget that some of us may be slower walkers and so arrive later. Some others may have overslept and started later. So, there is no point in getting angry at anyone. Everyone’s journey has the same patterns but different specifics. We should be patient with ourselves and others.
Do you agree that all humans are heading towards the same direction? What is your understanding of human nature and journey? Is there anything else that unites us as humans? Let’s talk!