I let those moments play over and over in my head in a never ending loop. Then when I’m exhausted and I have had enough, I reason with myself and return to feeling more confident and at peace. Over the years the insecurities have diminished and I agonize less; probably has something to do with age and caring less about what others think.
Moments? I’d say I have moments of confidence amid days of insecurity. Fake flamenco means persevering despite discomfort. I show up, I keep writing, and I continue to believe I will be published. -Rebecca
I’m insecure most of the time unfortunately. I’ve noticed that I become stand offish and slightly defensive when approached, which is probably not the right way to handle these types of situations.
I think about the options and assign each to sides of a mental coin, then I flip the coin and as I imagine it in the air, I know exactly what my decision is — the one I want the coin to yield.
I remind myself I am not the person I was. I’m stronger, I have more emotional support, I’m healthier, the situation may be uncomfortable, but I’ve survived such things. I will also practice some meditative breathing to calm down.
Know the person I want to be. If this will help me get there then it’s worth the insecurity. If it won’t then I don’t find much value in that experience.
I let those moments play over and over in my head in a never ending loop. Then when I’m exhausted and I have had enough, I reason with myself and return to feeling more confident and at peace. Over the years the insecurities have diminished and I agonize less; probably has something to do with age and caring less about what others think.
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Dang this was a good answer. Lol This is basically what I do too
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This… Literally… The loop NEVER ENDS… In one now… It hurts ☹️
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wear something i feel good in! x
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Moments? I’d say I have moments of confidence amid days of insecurity. Fake flamenco means persevering despite discomfort. I show up, I keep writing, and I continue to believe I will be published. -Rebecca
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I’m insecure most of the time unfortunately. I’ve noticed that I become stand offish and slightly defensive when approached, which is probably not the right way to handle these types of situations.
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Same here…or recede so far into the background you literally become invisible
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I do the same but try to be aware of it and just smile. It’s my only defense for everything.
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I think about the options and assign each to sides of a mental coin, then I flip the coin and as I imagine it in the air, I know exactly what my decision is — the one I want the coin to yield.
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I remind myself I am not the person I was. I’m stronger, I have more emotional support, I’m healthier, the situation may be uncomfortable, but I’ve survived such things. I will also practice some meditative breathing to calm down.
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Know the person I want to be. If this will help me get there then it’s worth the insecurity. If it won’t then I don’t find much value in that experience.
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