I let those moments play over and over in my head in a never ending loop. Then when I’m exhausted and I have had enough, I reason with myself and return to feeling more confident and at peace. Over the years the insecurities have diminished and I agonize less; probably has something to do with age and caring less about what others think.
Moments? I’d say I have moments of confidence amid days of insecurity. Fake flamenco means persevering despite discomfort. I show up, I keep writing, and I continue to believe I will be published. -Rebecca
I’m insecure most of the time unfortunately. I’ve noticed that I become stand offish and slightly defensive when approached, which is probably not the right way to handle these types of situations.
I think about the options and assign each to sides of a mental coin, then I flip the coin and as I imagine it in the air, I know exactly what my decision is — the one I want the coin to yield.
I remind myself I am not the person I was. I’m stronger, I have more emotional support, I’m healthier, the situation may be uncomfortable, but I’ve survived such things. I will also practice some meditative breathing to calm down.
Know the person I want to be. If this will help me get there then it’s worth the insecurity. If it won’t then I don’t find much value in that experience.
I let those moments play over and over in my head in a never ending loop. Then when I’m exhausted and I have had enough, I reason with myself and return to feeling more confident and at peace. Over the years the insecurities have diminished and I agonize less; probably has something to do with age and caring less about what others think.
Dang this was a good answer. Lol This is basically what I do too
This… Literally… The loop NEVER ENDS… In one now… It hurts ☹️
wear something i feel good in! x
Moments? I’d say I have moments of confidence amid days of insecurity. Fake flamenco means persevering despite discomfort. I show up, I keep writing, and I continue to believe I will be published. -Rebecca
I’m insecure most of the time unfortunately. I’ve noticed that I become stand offish and slightly defensive when approached, which is probably not the right way to handle these types of situations.
Same here…or recede so far into the background you literally become invisible
I do the same but try to be aware of it and just smile. It’s my only defense for everything.
I think about the options and assign each to sides of a mental coin, then I flip the coin and as I imagine it in the air, I know exactly what my decision is — the one I want the coin to yield.
I remind myself I am not the person I was. I’m stronger, I have more emotional support, I’m healthier, the situation may be uncomfortable, but I’ve survived such things. I will also practice some meditative breathing to calm down.
Know the person I want to be. If this will help me get there then it’s worth the insecurity. If it won’t then I don’t find much value in that experience.