37 thoughts on “Question of the Day – No. 462

    1. I feel the key word here isn’t “stuck” but rather “hopelessly.” Try to reframe the areas in your life where you feel stuck to see them in a light where you have it in yourself to make changes for the better. Also, if you do feel hopeless about important parts of your life, a mental health professional might help empower you to change your negative thought patterns.

  1. My job as well, as a sticky situation since I can’t leave at the moment. Secondly and thirdly, my studies and career path. Now that it’s in writing … it’s quite a summary.
    Stuck is stasis, we have to keep up with time because change is always afoot and we’re all subjected to it. I hope everyone here can overcome their obstacles as soon as they are able, so here’s to that.

  2. My job. I also need to become my own boss, but I feel stuck.

    Also, I would like to improve my dating life but that never seems to improve whether I try really hard or don’t try at all. I’ve tried everything.

  3. I don’t feel hopelessly stuck, but I feel stuck in a hopeless situation at work. Then again, I could put more effort into leaving now that I know I can’t change the work situation & it will just get worse over time.

  4. My weight. I know most of it is the medications I take to keep my brain chemistry balanced. The last time I went off all the medications I lost a tremendous amount of weight and looked and felt amazing – until my brain went offline. That took six months to somewhat recover from. I can eat better, I can exercise better – but I’m always going to have to choose between sanity (winner) and pride.

      1. Thanks Rebecca! I accept your hugs and return them. I guess if it were an easy road, it wouldn’t be worth the trip? But, dang – the extra weight is rough on the chassis!

      2. Yes, side effects and how to survive them. I had trouble conceiving for 5 years before I realized that my sertraline made my body think it was already pregnant! Glad to figure that one out with my own research in the medical library. Now we have one child, yay!

      3. Congratulations!! And well done, doing your homework. Sometimes you have to know more than your doctor!

  5. 𝙸 𝚊𝚖 𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚑𝚛𝚘𝚞𝚐𝚑 𝚋𝚎𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚖𝚢 𝚝𝚛𝚞𝚎, 𝚊𝚍𝚞𝚕𝚝 𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚖𝚢 𝚙𝚊𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚜. 𝙰𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚗𝚐𝚎𝚜𝚝 𝚌𝚑𝚒𝚕𝚍, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚘𝚗𝚕𝚢 𝚍𝚊𝚞𝚐𝚑𝚝𝚎𝚛, 𝙸 𝚘𝚏𝚝𝚎𝚗 𝚏𝚎𝚎𝚕 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚗𝚎𝚎𝚍 𝚝𝚘 𝚙𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚖 𝚊𝚗𝚍/𝚘𝚛 𝚖𝚊𝚒𝚗𝚝𝚊𝚒𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚒𝚖𝚊𝚐𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚢 𝚑𝚎𝚕𝚍 𝚠𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝙸 𝚕𝚒𝚟𝚎𝚍 𝚞𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚒𝚛 𝚛𝚘𝚘𝚏. 𝙸 𝚊𝚖 𝚖𝚢 𝚘𝚠𝚗 𝚙𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚘𝚗, 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚖𝚢 𝚘𝚠𝚗 𝚏𝚊𝚖𝚒𝚕𝚢 𝚝𝚘 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚗𝚞𝚛𝚝𝚞𝚛𝚎. 🕊

    1. Yeah, that’s hard. I still get crap from family from stuff that happened over 4 decades ago – and my response is usually “Really? That’s how you see me now? As a 7 year old?” Sometimes people need reminding that you are capable.

  6. Hi All

    Our jobs should not make us stuck. What is making us stuck is the fact that how the people around us react to the things we do and reward we get from them. And in this judgemental situations the efforts we make and the reward we get are driven by external factors, which are the enemy of joy and motivation.

    Turn your job into a duty, something greater than yourself, and you will do it without caring people’s judgment or expecting anything in return.

    Just magine people who are not employed now, who have children and who despite their difficulties are trying to change their conditions and that of their loved ones. If you were to compare yourself again’t them, would you feel stuck or fortunate.

    How we look at situation determines how react to them. Change your thoughts to change everything about you.

    And one more thought, Confuscious was once asked by someone who was looking for happiness “I want to be happy” How can I be?”.

    He replied “remove the “I” because it is “EGO”. Remove the “want to” because it is a “DESIRE”. What is left is “happy”. Just be happy!

    As happiness is byproduct, just get stuck in any challenge you face to be happy at the end. But don’t feel stuck.

    All the best


  7. I would say my job also, but given that I can see something called retirement in the next decade, I don’t feel as hopeless as I once did about it.

  8. “Hopelessly” I am not sure, but “stuck”… oh yeah, I have kind of a list! 1. My job. I would like to be a freelancer or, at least, to find a modern company being ok with 80% remote working. It would change my life a lot, I guess, but it’s incredibly hard. 2. My mental attitude towards things. I need to become more positive, less pessimistic and just start to see the bright side. I wish it was easy as writing it down is! 3. My body shape. I know I am too demanding and I ask myself a lot, but one way or another, no matter the exercise and clean eating, I am never where I would like to be (and I know it’s going to be like this forever, most likely). Well… we cannot be perfect, right? 😉

  9. Not yet in my life so not yet stuck but what I feel hopeless about is marriage or a lifelong partnership of the sort. So far what I have seen, I think the whole thing is hopeless, people love each other, they marry and everything changes. All of the sudden, the kindest person is violent and miserable, why would I want to have that. Why would I blindly go in for a life of hurt and hurting someone else.
    I hope by the time I have to settle down, I won’t be as hopeless otherwise solitude might be my fortress

  10. Financial area. I am a teenager and I hate being dependent on my parents to get everything I want. I want to earn by myself, and I’m working on it.

  11. Thinking deeply about this question, surprisingly I don’t feel hopelessly stuck in any area in my life, keyword “hopelessly”. When it comes to the parts I feel stuck in in life I know there’s a way out, there always has been.

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