(I am sure that others will have their very own view….and most probably can live your face well in contrast to you)
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My perfectionism. I love that in many ways it drives me to be the best version of myself — to live my best life. But it can also be somewhat of a hindrance because you can always do better, which can make things difficult. That’s why sometimes I have a hard time accepting it.
In my view, striving for improvement and continuous learning is great but just if it is not driven by the fear to fail or not to be good enough etc.
In this event, perfectionism is just a desperate attempt to compensate low self confidence.
I t is also not healthy if you cannot enjoy your achievements because you think, that you have could it done even better….This stress can poison your life and you will arrive nowhere…because one achievement has to be followed by next one to fill your inner void.
Interesting point of view! For me, perfectionism is a side effect of my confidence actually. I have always been a confident person, which is why when I put my mind to something, I expect the best — because I know I can deliver (not to sound conceited though). But when I am done, I am never quite satisfied. My struggle is to find a balance between a job well done and going the extra mile. Ultimately I do conclude my projects and move on to the next one. 😄
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…so you keep yourself busy.
What do you think will happens if your slowed down or even stopped completely?
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I believe nothing can be exactly perfect, though at times I find my behaviour as that of a perfectionist. This seems a conflict in my belief and behaviour. Actually it is not, as I have never felt this clash. Reason is probably that it is the will to excel without the fear of failure – to be clear, if my capacity to understand is only 70% then I would like to perfect the task only 70% and simply not bother about 30% as it’s beyond me – in short, “to try my level best and spare the rest.”
I pondered this for a moment and then realized that most my answers were in fact things other’s have a hard time accepting and understanding and I have been accepting their projection of that unto me. I have a hard time understanding why I just cannot seem to dance in front of people, despite loving to dance.
I dont dance in front of folks either but love to. If the illusion is created that no one is watching(like being at a crowded club), I cut several rugs
The unkind, angry side of myself. I guess I have this image of myself as a kind, stable, wise person who never makes mistakes….buuuut I definitely flipped somebody off in traffic yesterday for a mistake I made just because I was annoyed 😛 Not something I do….ever but I guess it’s in me just like in everyone else.
I’ve been working on setting boundaries with other people and myself. I’m a giver and will do anything to make people happy but that entails putting myself on the back burner. It causes me to hold the little things down deep until they grow into a vicious monster. Thankful I have a partner that understands and encourages me to challenge my own self.
The way I’ve acclimated to my past trauma. I did to survive, but the way I did has limited my attempts at a truly successful life.
Hard work never ends, but neither will the reward!
My Face….
Why?
May be you might get an idea if you really see it
What do YOU see in your face?
(I am sure that others will have their very own view….and most probably can live your face well in contrast to you)
😊
🙂
My perfectionism. I love that in many ways it drives me to be the best version of myself — to live my best life. But it can also be somewhat of a hindrance because you can always do better, which can make things difficult. That’s why sometimes I have a hard time accepting it.
In my view, striving for improvement and continuous learning is great but just if it is not driven by the fear to fail or not to be good enough etc.
In this event, perfectionism is just a desperate attempt to compensate low self confidence.
I t is also not healthy if you cannot enjoy your achievements because you think, that you have could it done even better….This stress can poison your life and you will arrive nowhere…because one achievement has to be followed by next one to fill your inner void.
Interesting point of view! For me, perfectionism is a side effect of my confidence actually. I have always been a confident person, which is why when I put my mind to something, I expect the best — because I know I can deliver (not to sound conceited though). But when I am done, I am never quite satisfied. My struggle is to find a balance between a job well done and going the extra mile. Ultimately I do conclude my projects and move on to the next one. 😄
…so you keep yourself busy.
What do you think will happens if your slowed down or even stopped completely?
I believe nothing can be exactly perfect, though at times I find my behaviour as that of a perfectionist. This seems a conflict in my belief and behaviour. Actually it is not, as I have never felt this clash. Reason is probably that it is the will to excel without the fear of failure – to be clear, if my capacity to understand is only 70% then I would like to perfect the task only 70% and simply not bother about 30% as it’s beyond me – in short, “to try my level best and spare the rest.”
I love that! “The will to excel without the fear of failure,” love it! Indeed, I grew up with “do your best, and forget the rest.” 😄
𝚆𝚎𝚕𝚕 𝚜𝚊𝚒𝚍! 🕊
Thank you! 😄
I pondered this for a moment and then realized that most my answers were in fact things other’s have a hard time accepting and understanding and I have been accepting their projection of that unto me. I have a hard time understanding why I just cannot seem to dance in front of people, despite loving to dance.
I dont dance in front of folks either but love to. If the illusion is created that no one is watching(like being at a crowded club), I cut several rugs
Same! Ninja dancing.
Moral judgement. I don’t know what part of the brain that is, but it is the hardest to accept and understand.
Too sensitive!
My ambiguity / permanent inner conflicts.
Impulse control.
Always feeling reserved!
The two warring sides of myself.
too kind !!! even to the ones who hv not been kind to me .
Lack of courage and self-confidence, plus the idea that if I can’t do it right the first time, I shouldn’t bother doing it at all.
𝙸 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚍𝚒𝚏𝚏𝚒𝚌𝚞𝚕𝚝𝚢 𝚊𝚌𝚌𝚎𝚙𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚖𝚢 𝚛𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝 𝚝𝚘 𝚟𝚘𝚒𝚌𝚎 𝚖𝚢 𝚘𝚙𝚒𝚗𝚒𝚘𝚗. 𝙸 𝚊𝚕𝚠𝚊𝚢𝚜 𝚝𝚛𝚢 𝚝𝚘 𝚎𝚡𝚙𝚛𝚎𝚜𝚜 𝚖𝚢 𝚟𝚒𝚎𝚠𝚜 𝚛𝚎𝚜𝚙𝚎𝚌𝚝𝚏𝚞𝚕𝚕𝚢. 𝙰𝚕𝚠𝚊𝚢𝚜. 𝙱𝚞𝚝 𝚘𝚏𝚝𝚎𝚗 𝚝𝚒𝚖𝚎𝚜 𝙸’𝚕𝚕 𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚊 𝚙𝚊𝚛𝚝𝚢, 𝚘𝚛 𝚊 𝚖𝚎𝚎𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚐, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚔, “𝙸 𝚜𝚙𝚘𝚔𝚎 𝚝𝚘𝚘 𝚖𝚞𝚌𝚑. 𝙿𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 𝚖𝚒𝚜𝚞𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚝𝚘𝚘𝚍. 𝚆𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚒𝚏 𝙸 𝚘𝚏𝚏𝚎𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚍 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚘𝚗𝚎? 𝚆𝚑𝚘 𝚊𝚖 𝙸 𝚝𝚘 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚊𝚗 𝚘𝚙𝚒𝚗𝚒𝚘𝚗?” 𝙸𝚝’𝚜 𝚊 𝚠𝚎𝚒𝚛𝚍 𝚜𝚎𝚗𝚜𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚙𝚊𝚛𝚊𝚗𝚘𝚒𝚊, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝙸’𝚖 𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚘𝚗 𝚒𝚝. 🕊
My insecurities and self doubt.
Aging. I just don’t feel like I’m more than 35 at the most. Then I look in a mirror, or feel that arthritis, and say “Oh. Rats.”
The one that gets affected by what other’s say ..
Today? All of it. Just fucking all of it.
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I ate Chinese today and my fortune cookie said I needed a vacation. I have never been so accurately pegged by a fortune cookie before.
My body becoming diseased and not functioning like my young self.
The unkind, angry side of myself. I guess I have this image of myself as a kind, stable, wise person who never makes mistakes….buuuut I definitely flipped somebody off in traffic yesterday for a mistake I made just because I was annoyed 😛 Not something I do….ever but I guess it’s in me just like in everyone else.
I’ve been working on setting boundaries with other people and myself. I’m a giver and will do anything to make people happy but that entails putting myself on the back burner. It causes me to hold the little things down deep until they grow into a vicious monster. Thankful I have a partner that understands and encourages me to challenge my own self.
My body.
The way I’ve acclimated to my past trauma. I did to survive, but the way I did has limited my attempts at a truly successful life.
Hard work never ends, but neither will the reward!