Hi everyone,
I hope everyone is doing good! Today’s topic is patience with personal development. It is sort of a follow-up to my post last week about forming routines.
I am patient with people. If someone is misbehaving, I don’t react (warnings aside) because I know that everyone makes mistakes on their way to better themselves. Yet, I am not patient with my own development. I want to get to the destination quickly and when I don’t, I get demotivated. Say, I have a research project. I want to achieve the analysis as soon as possible, with leaves me with little understanding of the data. I scan and skip the data-understanding stage so I can get to the next level.
And spoiler: this does not work. Everything has its own time to grow in us. Data should grow in me first, so I can have an analysis of the well-understood data set.
What does this require? Patience.
Let’s say we want to be able to read a book every week and currently we don’t read a lot. If we really fast start by reading a book for each of the first several weeks, we will likely burn out. Instead, we should start by targeting the consistency (for example, 15 minutes of reading everyday) and maybe we will finish one book in a month or two months. If we can keep to this schedule, this time will naturally increase to 20 mins, 30 mins and ultimately we will be more likely to hit our reading goal of reading one book per week.
What does this process require? Patience.
Patience will give us the best results in the long run. We will not be reading one book per week initially, so it might look like we are failing. But at the end, we will establish the habit. If we start fast, we will maybe achieve the goal for some time but it will probably not be consistent. So, it might be better to think in longer terms and just bear with initial failures. In fact, these are not failures. They are just steps towards the goal.
Do you think you are patient with yourselves? If so, were you always like that or did you learn it? If not, are you working on it? If you have established habits for yourselves, how long did it take you to establish them? Let’s talk about patience this week!
Patient I rarely be … impatient and imperfect I surely be!
Same!
This is very true and rightly said. Most times we fall victim of giving people a second, 3rd, 4th time doubt while we don’t even afford ourselves the one time comeback chance. We must remind ourselves that we cannot get there one. Only the fuel of patience will help us.
Good peice.
Thank you! We indeed do that!
I believe that we have to hold patience and impatience is a dynamic tension. I have seen people and organizations that were too patient, as if they were waiting for the rest of the universe to come and rescue them — it never happens. I can’t say that I know where to draw the line precisely, but I know that sometimes I have had to get impatient with myself, less so with others.
That is a good point! We can’t just sit around and wait for things to happen. What I had in mind was when we try something, it does not work out initially but we keep trying. That is the patience I had in mind. Maybe this is active patience.
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Great post. 🙂 I tend to be really hard on myself to set big goals and achieve them. Sometimes it stresses me out, but in the end I do meet those goals, so I think that’s a good thing.
If you don’t give up until you achieve them, that is surely a good thing. Thank you for reading and commenting!
Of course, this was a really good one I could relate to.
Words of wisdom here! Thank you for the insight. Stay blessed!
Thank you for the nice words!
oh, patience. patience. ugh. Before stumbling on this post, I was feeling very impatient with myself. It has taken me a while to learn how to work for things and not sit around waiting. But I can still do that. Sit around and wait to become the newest author or podcaster or influencer while doing nothing. There I said it- I struggle with being just mediocre. I needed to read this post, thank you. It has given me some tips on how to meet some goals of mine.
I am glad it did. I have been on different ends with this. I have been on the not-doing-anything end and I have also been on doing-too-much end. The first does not bring in anything and the second attempts an early birth. Neither is right. I am still working on balancing. We are all works in progress!
It’s nice to know I’m not alone with that exact situation. Too much or too little…..
Sounds very familiar to me. You are not alone…
I really don’t think I’m that patient with myself but I have persistence 🙂
That is a good thing! It makes you one step closer to patience☺️
Great post – I am incredibly patient with others but definitely not myself! This needs to change. I am deserving of self patience and self love (& so are you)❤️
We should say this to ourselves very often!
I love this post. I never thought about it before but I don’t think I’m as patient with myself as I could be. Definitely need to work on it more x
If you notice that in yourself, it is definitely worth looking into!
Going through this process right now! It’s so hard to give yourself the time you need to accomplish goals. Rome wasn’t built in a day👍
I know! I am still working on it too!
That situation reminds myself. And on top of it I become angry to myself and people around if don’t have quick results. Now I am working to be consistent and let things happen not as per plan. I am using concept of “I chose” instead of must or should do. It give to me filling of control and responsibilities…
That is a good way of handling it! I should try it too!
I definitely learned patience. No real success has come my way wirh our it. But it isn’t easy. We all want fast results. Focus on the pro was. That’s how you build patience. Thanks for the post.
I agree with all the points you make! Learning to be patient is hard but we can do it.
True.
Not patient with myself at all. It’s so true, we often treat ourselves in ways that we would never treat other people.
Unfortunately…
Love this post. Very true!
Thank you!
I completely agree. I can be very patient with my family and friends, yet I’ll often ream myself because I had neglected my studying for a couple of days, or because I let myself get distracted. I’ve got to be kinder to myself.
Same here:(
We can’t excel in life without patience
Right!
Patience bares fruit
omg thanks for this reminder
Thanks for reading!
my pleasure
Great post and needed. We are often want to do things in a rush, without knowing the slow process and making mistakes along the way is the part of the achievement. Thanks a lot for this reminder.
Thanks for reading and commenting!
Yes, patience is definitely needed. Thanks
Young people have much time but usually lack patience. The elderly have often learned patience but lack time.
True!
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you’ve picked on a powerful topic Betul. I think it gives one room to pause and take a stock of where we are on the patience barometer. well written. look forward to more.
Yes! Thank you for the nice comment!
Patience is definitely a great skill to have. I’ve grown it for sure over time.
Good for you! It is a really skill indeed!