Today my mind wanted to wonder about the limitation a human being has. Of course, this is not about our physical limitations, but more about our mental limitations, which seem to guide our behavior. With this in mind, we might say that our behavior is limited by our mind, right?
If you think that some things are put there by others (e.g. parents, society, laws and so on), you’re right. However, it is our decision to respect them or to ignore them, and that’s ok, that’s normal. The thing that sparked my interest is the idea that we sometimes expect others to behave based on our own limitations. In other words, we have some behavioral patterns and we expect others to have those patterns too, so we set some expectations.
But when those expectations are not met by others, we feel bad. And we continue to feel bad on and on and on especially when we cannot understand that others have different boxes, different limitations.
So we set our own limits of what we can achieve in life (based on what we’re willing to act upon) and then we expect others to do the same. And they do, but based on their own limitations. And it has the potential of making us sad or angry.
The conclusion? We’re building a box in which we live and we expect others to do the same, but sometimes we expect them to live in a box similar to ours, which rarely happens. So we feel bad that others don’t follow our own rules and that’s because they don’t play our game. They have their own thing going on and they probably also feel bad if we don’t follow their rules.
How often does your own box make you feel sad because of other people’s behavior?