What Quarantine Taught me I could Live without

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Hi everyone,

How is your quarantine going? Let’s talk about one specific aspect of this suddenly-imposed-on-us: how things that we thought were so important and we could not live without went out of our lives.

A small change for me is cappuccino. I am not a huge coffee person. But I would want to have cappuccino every three or four days. When I wanted it, I had to have it.

Surprise. I did not have cappuccino in weeks and yet I have not craved for it yet.

I also thought I had to go out almost every day, even if a little bit. I thought I had to go out when I wanted to do it. I would stay home for a whole day one or twice a week but that was it. Now, I have been home weeks and I am not complaining.

What does this show us? It shows us that most things we base our lives on is not vital. And we are living our lives with temporary ideals and we get stuck with fleeting patterns. How much time did my obsession with going out every day cost me? A lot. Of course, we will go out at times; we need the sun. But if we say we can’t live without it, then we base our life on a false premise. It makes us dependent.

This realization now shows me that I want to search for more stable things. One thing is myself. I can lose everything but I will always with me. So, I am trying to focus on myself. I want to understand my place in this universe.  Meditation, yoga or just aimlessly resting.  I hope to find my place beyond the fleeting patterns and obsessions. Let’s see where this will take me.

Have you been noticing similar things? What did you think you could not live without but it turns out you can? What did this realization show you? Let’s discuss.

Betul

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  1. In all honesty I’m loving the LOCKDOWN season, maybe we can make it part of every year? We live near an airport, and I don’t miss the sound or pollution of jets flying over. Keeping local has been a real blessing, getting to know new paths and bridleways (on my bike).

    What can I do without? Certainly I haven’t missed work, but I would miss my colleagues if things don’t return to normal.

    In my spare time I’m reading more, both for myself and grandchildren. It’s also great fun to get out and deliver prescriptions on a voluntary basis for the housebound.

    Be careful of putting the focus on yourself, we are on this earth for a purpose, and serving others is probably one of the best keys to fulfilment.

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  2. I discovered that I have found my stride working at home full-time. I am so much happier skipping the commute and working at home full-time. The energy of my home is much more supportive. My husband and I enjoy working at home together, checking on each other now and then. I always thought it would be nice but would never happen – and then it did! Sometimes what you want is even better than we expect.

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  3. I think there is tremendous benefit in understanding that we are not our habits and preferences. And to the people who have lost jobs- we are not the identity that work (or service) gives us. There is wisdom in using this time to meditate and do yoga to discover who you are beneath these things. I applaud your instincts here.

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    1. True! We are more than our habits and jobs. Losing our job can be an intimidating experience, but hopefully it will be ok in the long run, especially if we can understand ourselves better with self-reflection. Then, we will know what we want better.

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  4. This is great! This lockdown has definitely shown me that myself and zillions of other folks have learned things about themselves that we genuinely didn’t know before! I’ve always been OK being home. I love to read, I’ve discovered that I love to write (so I started blogging consistently since the lockdown), I love spending time with my kids, and I love trying to stay positive amidst all the craziness every day too! There’s always something to be thankful for! At least, in my opinion, there is! Looking forward to more of your thoughts! Thanks for sharing!

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    1. There is indeed always something to be grateful for! Your way of handling the quarantine sounds very peaceful! Also welcome to the blogging world! How do you like it so far?

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    2. The only thing I miss is going for walks. Had to stop that due to extra risk for myself and those I care for in terms of exposure. Oh yeah and I also miss going to the store without fear that it will result in me dying later on! Can relate to your post and you did a good job!

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      1. Thank you! There are things we miss but we just need to show patience with it. Pandemics happen every 100-200 years, apparently. This is our share.

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  5. This time has given me more time for Bible study. I have gotten to know my neighbors better and we have helped each other out. I made masks and gowns on my sewing machine for the hospital nurses. I have had several picnic lunches in my garage with one friend at a time which was wonderful since I live alone. I miss traveling but I watch old YouTube videos about others travels. I’m greatful for this time. I attended a small church Sunday which was wonderful to worship together.

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  6. I can relate of this post. After several weeks I am trying to compare what I was doing before that I am not doing now and how much that was necessary. I realized I do have more than I need (or even want). Like you, my cappuccino has been on hold, and I am doing fine as well. Great post.

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  7. I think its a testament to people’s innate goodness that they are able to find the good in troubling situations. Many now have had the time to delve deeper and explore themselves on a personal level, and this is time well-spent! There is a freedom one can find in the heart during this time, but our social freedoms should not continue to be lessened in the process. There are many who have not had it easy, and it is time to get back to work. That cappuccino provided livelihoods for employees and business owners, and there is an enjoyment for you that can support a fellow citizen’s business. Nothing wrong with that! It is great to not NEED it, though, too. I feel for those industries who have been hit the hardest – especially nail salons; so many may not recover. I don’t see things returning to the way they were before, but I do think our business models may change for the better to include more work-from-home opportunities. I just pray most of these smaller “non-essential” businesses can recover.

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    1. I know it is hard for a lot of people. I think it is early to get back to full normal yet, looking at how previous pandemics worked their way through. States should provide extra support for the non-essential businesses and the workers there until we can be at a better, less contagious phase.
      Overall, though, this has been a good time to reflect on things in life in more detail. So, that is good.

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  8. It’s an odd combination: feelings of both peace and loss.
    What I miss? Browsing – I don’t care for shopping online, so when I can’t touch and inspect and saunter through a store, I feel my purchases are a little dry. But, yes, I can live long and sound without it.
    Home is my favorite place and I freelance, so my world isn’t dramatically changing. The one thing I’ve missed most of all is my family… only 10 minutes away, but – up until now-ish – unhuggable. Stay safe, my lovelies and God’s peace…xoxox

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  9. I agree entirely. I’m actually truly enjoying lockdown. The most intensive retreat I’ve ever had! And I’m not so sure I want to go back to normal, because a lot of our ‘normal’ I didn’t like in the first place. It is also true that most of the things that seemed utterly important to me seven weeks ago show themselves to me now irrelevant, utterly as well.

    I’ve been rediscovering the park nearby, falling in love with it, my senses as a child’s, full of wonder. Of course I miss seeing the people I love in person and not through a screen, and of course there is a great deal of sadness and fear, the suffering of the world is so enormous. But I do hope that we will come out of this into a better world, being our better selves.

    As for my daily session of work at a cafe with a decaf espresso, which I thought my inalienable right, I find to my surprise that I haven’t died from abstinence! My own coffee and my own desk are good enough.

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    1. I love everything about your comment, especially the last paragraph (that you didn’t die from abstinence). This process will be hard in general, but as you say, the end will be good. Most good things come out of difficulties. We needed to be shaken off like this.
      Also, I am enjoying the quarantine as well!

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      1. You are quite right when you say that we needed to be shaken off like this. The world just couldn’t go on as it was, it had to tear somewhere. The pandemic was that tear. We really needed to stop. It is of course very hard, but I hope we will learn. We must! We actually have no choice…

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  10. Hi,

    Good to read that so many people are finding positives in lockdown.

    I’m finding lockdown good and bad. I appreciate the extra time I have through not having to travel to work. I also appreciate (now I’ve achieved it!) the way that it has pushed me to become more proficient at using videoconferencing software (e.g. Zoom) to do my work of seeing clients.

    I have missed meeting my friends, although now restrictions are being lifted slightly where I live, and coffee shops can now have customers sitting in the shop. I also miss the social nature of exercise at the gym, and aquarobics. I thought that I would read more books than I have managed to do!

    I’m lucky that I’m not alone in the house, so I do feel for people who are in that situation….

    Lisa

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    1. I have also found it hard to get social interactions out of my life, but I think I got used to it to a certain extent. That being said, I would very happily go back to the social life I had before the quarantine if restrictions were lifted and the virus died down.

      I think we just need to be patient and see what we can do in the given situation. It is temporary after all.

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  11. After nearly two months of restrained socializing and not working I now take about two hours after I get out of bed to get into my day. I read for an hour. I stretch for 20 minutes, I meditate for 30 minutes, eat mindfully and go for a walk on a nearby trail.
    Then I get into my day. I am getting concerned about giving this up when I go back to work. It would require me getting out of bed at 5 am instead of 7. Well, I guess I could do that, or quit working!

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    1. I was off work for four months a couple of years ago (when I worked as an employee in an office), and also wondered how I would cope when I had to get back into the work routine. I found that once I started, I was back in the same old routine of getting up early, and getting to work on time. I was also able to do my ‘personal stuff’ like shopping and socialising in the time available after work and at weekends.

      So, you’ll probably find that you get back into the routine easier than you think!

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      1. Really enjoyed the “Things I Can Live Without”. In particular the realization that what we based our lives on was basically unimportant. And your search for stability really resonated with me. You turned inward to yourself. Truly you are always with you. Funny sounding but true. I turned inward also but turned to my deep to find meaning in all of this. And like you I found I had been basically running in circles instead of taking the straight path. You made me think.

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  12. I still go to work everyday so lockdown hasn’t had as huge of an impact. I do have coworkers who are working from home and they sound as if they’re about to climb the walls.
    I focus on the things I can control and try to support local businesses to help them weather this storm.

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  13. I realized I’m not a frugal buyer. Quarantine helped me be more frugal because medication bills are high and freelance gigs are few and far between. I only buy what I need and spend most money on pets nowadays.

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  14. The best events that I find total satisfaction with is with the whole world almost coming to a halt Mother Nature stepped up with people seeing mountain ranges for the very first time in their towns, air pollution is way down and the oceans and the life within are teeming with life. I’m nervous that when it all goes back to whatever our new normal is will go back to the way it was before the coronavirus. Being shut-in didn’t really change for my husband and me for we are older staying home a lot as a rule. It’s defiantly been a time for reflection.

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