Motivation Comes From Within

“Wash out this tired notion that the best is yet to come.”

– Dave Matthews

I had to remind myself this week that motivation comes from within. It certainly does not come from the expensive, fancy bike I ordered and have been waiting for the past 7 weeks. It was supposed to be delivered next week. I cancelled the order.

I got to thinking, and asked myself this question…if I have two perfectly good feet, a pair of sneakers and a road, why aren’t I currently doing any aerobic activity? Seriously, it’s free! I kept putting off starting a regular habit of exercising, because when the fancy bike arrived I was really going to crush it and work out EVERY DAY. I could imagine it in my mind’s eye. I knew where I was going to put the bike. I had downloaded the app, and started planning out which rides I wanted to take. You get the idea. Everything was going to start as soon as that bike arrived. But what, you may ask, was I doing in the meantime to get myself in better shape? Nothing.

And still I imagined that all of a sudden I was going to change my current behaviors overnight…because of a bike.

This isn’t the only time I have put off doing something or making a change until “just the right moment,” or until “just the right circumstance.” I do it all the time. And frankly, this kind of thinking is stealing my life moment by missed moment. I know I am not alone in this, otherwise why would New Year’s Resolutions be a thing? How many of us gear up for the New Year promising ourselves that as soon as January 1st comes we are going to eat better, exercise more, drink less…fill in the blank with whatever. We start off so determined, but then too often fall right back into our old patterns of behavior.

I had ordered the bike based on this utterly nonsensical reasoning. Then the thought popped into my head, thankfully, that if I want to start a better habit or make a lifestyle change, then I am going to do it right now. Today. I am not going to wait until Monday or until the weather gets warmer/cooler. So, I cancelled the bike order. Instead, I am going to put on my sneakers and my headphones and just start walking. I am going to do that for the next several months at least 5 times a week and then, only then, will I look at that bike again. I may not even want it at that point. Who knows? But if I do get it, it will be to compliment my life, not to change it (or become a very expensive clothes rack). I am responsible for my life and the choices I make every day whether to do something or to not do something, and I am accountable for the results of those decisions.

I have been talking about exercising thus far in this post, but I also have been guilty of putting off things like leaving a bad job/boss until it was so bad that I felt compelled to leave quickly and under less than ideal conditions. I have stayed in a bad relationship out of fear of being alone. I have waited to start eating better until the holidays were over…until vacation is over…until after the party next week. The fact is there is always a reason to stay exactly where I am. I can self-sabotage my life with the best of them. Keeping myself tied to this bad situation or that bad habit because it seems easier to do.

Growth is uncomfortable and difficult. Many of us, me included, avoid or rationalize away the need for change. Except we all know the secret: once we get to the other side of a change, one of the first things we think to ourselves is, “this is so much better! I wish I had done it sooner.” It’s all good though, we all grow in our own way and on our own schedule. We will be ready when we are ready…except maybe it is OK to push ourselves to take the first step right now. And then the next step. And the next, until we are well on our way.

I am curious if there is anything you, dear reader, have been putting off. Let me know in the comments, if you are inclined to share, and maybe we can help each other find that motivation, that drive to make the changes we know we deserve on our journey to the best life we can imagine.

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.”

– Chinese proverb

Thank you for reading my post. I hope you enjoyed it! My personal blog can be accessed here.

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  1. Wise words. Slow and steady really does win the race, especially with lifestyle changes / developing habits.

    I have that fancy bike you mentioned and use it 2-3 days a week. It took me 6-7 years of other activities to get to that point. Even now, I have days where I have to really push myself to do it.

    It wasn’t until I accepted that doing anything, anything at all, was enough; that the habits formed and things gradually changed.

    Enjoy your walks. 🙂

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  2. I definitely think that sometimes we are prone to holding ourselves back from just doing the thing, or even just doing SOMEthing. That said, I do like paying for some things coz then I feel guilted into doing them even if I’m lacking the motivation more generally 🙂

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  3. I have done the same thing countless times. Probably my worst of is buying vacuum cleaners – I always had images of a spotless house if I had a better vacuum cleaner. It never worked – you have to actually use the vacuum cleaner 🙄

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  4. I have been putting off investing more time in my personal blog. I get hung up with the thought that I should be doing some “real” work (for my day job). Gotta give myself more permission to feed my soul
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  5. Great reminder to Do It Now! Great reminder to be my future self now. Look around and use whatever is around me now to be that person I am to be right now. Now is all there is. Personally, I am merging my future self into right now. I am stopping thinking of that person I intend to become, and treating myself as if I am that person RIGHT NOW.

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  6. So much of this resonates with me 👌 I recently let something go too far at work then quickly tried to change jobs and realised I was jumping into a fry pan! Thanks for a great read.

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  7. Any form of exercise is great for the mind…walking is great! And anyway people are going crazy over bikes….my advise…of you find yourself training/walking/running in the winter, then get a bike.
    The majority of ppl will pack their bikes away as soon as droplets of rain or the wind picks up…then snap them up second hand.

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  8. Ohh! My comments disappeared by mistake! Well l say your best is yet to come in the name of Jesus! How do I know? 🥱😷You just spoke into your life but you still want to deny your prophetic voice! Yeess! You see a future of great health with less issues in your heart, mind, body, and soul! Praying all your walks will lead to those little talks with your Creator! Amen sister💕

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  9. Great post – it is so true. We can self motivate, or choose to stay right where we are. Whatever it is we are happy with. But if you’re not happy with right now, make a change inside you. I love your quote around the bike “complimenting” what you are already doing. This is a great outlook to have. Thank you for sharing.

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  10. Hi, I enjoyed your post, it feels like ideas that resonate with most of us. I have always wanted a nice garden, but have never really succeeded. When the “C” word started and I found myself with lots of time, each time I visited the supermarket , I bought some plants, compost etc. At the time, I felt guilty because of the only essential shopping rules, but justified it by convincing myself it was to promote good mental health. It did! 😎 After only 12ish weeks, I have a beautiful cottage garden, full of flowers and frequented by lots of wildlife. It’s been a Renaissance for me! My mother always said no time like the present…. She was right! 😘 Have a lovely weekend folks and thanks for sharing your post x

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  11. Motivation is a like a fire. But the fire isn’t enough. Imagine you want to cook a meal and you light up the fire, the meal won’t automatically get cooked because you lit the fire. You have to actually get the ingredients, put a pot on the fire and then the meal will be Cooked. So when we have motivation, it’s a fire but we have to do something(action). Most times we’re just lazy or we don’t want to stress ourselves that’s why we make excuses all the time forgetting that if we need to do something to get results.
    Nice post💚

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    1. I’m currently writing a fantasy book. I’m most of the way through writing the first draft, and have the plan for the last few chapters, but I’m stalling a bit. I’m also recording a three track EP, and I’m about halfway through that. I don’t know what I’m waiting for, but when I get stuck in, I know I’m right where I’m supposed to be, doing what I’m meant to.

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  12. Hi Dave – very interesting read indeed! And thank you for helping me to get motivated and get out there and go for more walks! I have just recently started a blog to try and share with folks that might be struggling with life. And I am just now noticing, that I better help myself first. That is the golden rule right? It is definitely a habit of mine that when I start something new, I tend to let it consume me and everything else gets put to the side. You reminded me that everything can be done in moderation. I would start right now and get out and go for a walk but it is 1:20 am here lol. So I am not putting it off, and I will make sure tomorrow will contain a refreshing and envitalizing walk – rain or not. Thanks again Dave Matthews!

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    1. Haha! 1:20am is a bit early for anyone to get started I imagine! Dave Matthews is the person I quoted, my name is actually Danielle. I am so grateful that you enjoyed the post and I am wishing you the absolute best with your blog!

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      1. Thanks Danielle and sorry I called you Dave. When you mentioned that you had contributors to your site, I thought that Dave was one of them. lol

        Anyway, I went for a walk the next day and today and I plan on keeping it up so thanks again – you are making a positive difference, onward and upward!

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  13. I guess I have been lacking motivation of wanting something better in my life, and being held back by my fear. Like the fear of wondering if this next adventure is going to be for the best, and better me. I feel that way the most in when it comes to finding a new job. I would leave a job that clearly makes me unhappy, to find something else, only for it to be a total waste of my time, because the new job doesn’t provide me with many or any hours at all. To having to return back to the place of my unhappiness because bills needed to get paid. But honestly, I am so ready for the next step for something better. Fear and sometimes thinking of what others are going to think of me as, is what holds me back in life. But I really want to move all of this and move onward for something better, as I deserve.

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    1. Fear is such a big barrier for all of us, me too. You do deserve something better and I believe, as long as you keep reaching for it, you will get it. I am so grateful you shared with me. Thank you for being part of my journey and reading my post!

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