How are you all doing today? Is life treating you well? I hope it is, because we will talk about it today.
Recently, I thought about an important question and was very happy with my own answer. The question was: What would I wish I was doing differently if I knew it was my last day today? Would I wish to be more hard-working? Would I wish I had a different life? Would I wish to be a different person? My answer was: I would do everything the same. And I genuinely felt that. Not because I am doing everything well, because that is not true at all. But I think I know I am doing what I can and want to do at each moment and some of these moments are just spent on meaningless things. This was my overall feeling when answering that question.
When we ask a question like this to ourselves, we can essentially assess where we are in our personal development. I believe that we can judge where we are by how satisfied we are with ourselves. Are we trying to be a different person? Are we at the mercy of other’s perception of us so we end up doing what others want and not we want? If our answer is affirmative to such questions, that means we are probably not very happy with who we are. That calls for a change. A change towards feeling more like us and less like others. When we are satisfied with who we are, then we will not want to change anything even if it is really our last day on earth.
How can we achieve this change? I think there are some crucial steps. The first step is that we need to understand ourselves better: what do we really want? So, we need to try things out and meditate. The second step is finding out ways to establish some of our findings as habits. Once we establish our own habits, that will help us be less at the mercy of others. When we establish enough habits and they become a part of us (so we can define who we are clearly), then the sense of satisfaction will find you. This step is where you feel at ease with yourself.
Have you thought about the question I asked myself? If so, what was your answer? If not, can you ask that to yourself now and tell me your answer? If you think there are things you would want to do differently, what are they? Let’s chat!