Hi everyone! How are you all doing?
I had some interesting experiences recently with some people and that brought to my mind the question of how we should see the people who walk into our lives.
I tend to think that anything we experience is ultimately good. Some are just good. Some are good by their resultant state. For example, I had a hard year last year in terms of my mental health. But this year has been a blessing because of last year. I just learnt that I absolutely have to value my mental health over anything else and this year, I did not let anything to put me down too much. If it was not for last year, I would still be prioritizing the wrong things.
Same goes for people. Some people are just good for us. Some others may seemingly do harm. For example, we might meet a new friend who always tells us about her achievements, to the extent that we want to close our ears and we run away from her whenever we see her. What this teaches us is that we just don’t like these kinds of people and we should choose our friends accordingly. Or maybe, we discover that someone we consider a close friend has been lying to us and we see the lies now in retrospect. Now, we know what the clues for lies are and we will not fall for it next time. So, we actually learn from these people.
Given this, I tend to think that anyone who walks to our lives has a purpose to serve and we can learn something from them. What we should do is to try to discover what it is that we are supposed to learn from them. What this whole perception also tells is that we should not consider anyone who walks into our lives as bad, because they all come in to serve some good to us eventually. I think it is better to exclude extreme manipulation and harm from this picture, but I believe this applies in the general case.
What do you think? Do you consider everyone in your life, good or bad, as a source of learning? Did you learn anything this way? Let me know what you think!