Kissed For The Very First Time

Ten years ago, on April 8th, 2011, I met my wife for the first time at a dive bar in Hong Kong called Al’s diner. We immediately hit it off. The evening ended with us dancing to a number of 80’s classics.

Despite several jello shots it took me a while to work up the courage to kiss her. I knew she was special and wanted to make sure I picked the right moment. The cheesy 80’s playlist, however, didn’t exactly set the mood.

At a certain point I told myself whatever song comes up it doesn’t matter, it’s now or never. And so, as one forgettable tune ended, with my heart in my throat, I met her eyes, leaned in and kissed her. 

Just as soon as we locked lips, Madonna’s, “Like A Virgin,” came blaring from the jukebox.

“Like a virgin
Touched for the very first time 
Like a virgin
When your heart beats
Next to mine
Whoa…” 

A moment of classy romance it was not! It certainly wasn’t the song I would have chosen. Still, I had to commend the Gods on their sense of humour. We both had a good laugh about it. 

Ultimately, of course, the song didn’t matter. What really mattered was the ten years that followed. Those years have been extraordinary to say the least.

Together we’ve flown in hot air balloons, jumped out of aeroplanes, swam with whale sharks – to list just a few of our adventures. It was on a layover in Rome I realised I loved her as we cuddled while watching the sunset from the Spanish steps. (There are few moments I can think as perfect as that one.) It was on holiday in Myanmar that I proposed to her on the shores of Inle lake. 

It was 4 years ago – exactly 6 years after we met – on April 8th, 2017, that we got married at a micro brewery here in Hong Kong. We figured, “Why bring the booze to the party when you can bring the party to the booze?”

It was epic.

The song we chose for our first dance? You guessed it. Definitely not Madonna’s, “Like A Virgin.” (We have some class guys and gals, come on.)

Actually our friends orchestrated a surprise flash mob to Justin Timberlake’s, “Can’t Stop The Feeling.” It was one of the many highlights that day. That song became our first as a married couple.

Fast forward 4 more years and here we are with two ridiculous boys to our names. The youngest having just turned 3 months. (Can you do the math?)

April 8th will always be the most important day of the year for me. Symbolically it represents everything that followed when we kissed for the very first time 10 years ago. The truly beautiful life that we have made together. 

I often wonder what my life would have been like had I missed my opportunity that night. Had I not made a move because of the song that was playing. (There’s a lesson here about waiting for the perfect moment.)

I look around and imagine my boys vanishing. The apartment I live in transforming. Perhaps I wouldn’t have stayed in my current job for as long as I have? Maybe I wouldn’t even live in Hong Kong? Perhaps the picture would be markedly different? Or perhaps the picture would be similar but with different faces?

One thing is for damn sure, the picture couldn’t be any better.

As I come back to reality and realise that none of it was a dream. That my reality – my unbelievably beautiful radiant wife, the now extraordinary mother to our two gorgeous silly boys – is the dream. I realise I wouldn’t change it for the world. I realise, I wouldn’t even change that song. 

To my dear wife, when it comes to you, I regret nothing. (Although I’m not giving you anymore children!)

Happy Anniversary Gorgeous

Love Your Silly Husband X


Thanks for reading everyone. I’m curious if any of you have some good stories about the first time you met someone? Or any pivotal moments you look back at and wonder what if that hadn’t happened? I look forward to hearing from you all.

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166 thoughts on “Kissed For The Very First Time

    1. Yes it was awesome. We had no idea was happening initially. Worked wonders at getting everyone onto the dance floor!

      1. Congrats!! Very Awesome. I wish you and your partner a wonderful day and happy marriage. 🙏

  1. A delightful and heartwarming post. We need to read more stories like these….Well done and thank you for your pluck to share those intimate moments with us.

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  2. Wow, that’s awesome and happy belated anniversary! I’m happy for both of you.
    A lot of couples, I think, don’t take the time to rehearse the good times they’ve shared, and so when disappointment comes, because it does and will, instead they repeat (if only to themselves) the hard times, which over time creates distance. And even if they get through the difficult times together, how many appreciate what they survived? Rehearsing memories, good memories, strengthens the bonds we have with our partners and can keep us afloat when trouble comes.

    1. Thank you so much! That’s a very good point. Often when people break up they only ever concentrate on what was wrong, but the relationship can’t have been all bad because otherwise it would never have been in first place. We’ve made scrapbooks/photo albums and calendars of all our adventures together – they serve as a wonderful reminder of the many great times we’ve shared. Now we are in the process of making one with our kids in. Even if, god forbid, the relationship doesn’t last, I would never want to look back and regret it. I shall make a point of looking over those scrap books more regularly. Thank you for sharing your wonderful advice 🙏

  3. I met my husband at a bar a random day, August 14, 2008. On Valentine´s Day this year, we had been together for 12.5 years, and on January 18, 2022, we will have been married for 12.5 years. The Danish celebration of that is called a copper wedding.

    The first 8 years of our life together was wild, crazy, and extremely tough on both of us since we got early retired due to a truly rough life, he had to learn how to stop drinking, and I had to figure out how to cope with the diagnosis of bipolar disorder.

    But today, we live happily ever after. We have conquered our inner demons and are now as much in love as we were on the very first evening that began with a kiss.

    Best wishes.

    Henriette B. Pedersen, Denmark.

    1. Congrats to you and yours Henriette. That’s amazing! Thank you for sharing your inspiring story. Every committed relationship is a deal to help each other with their demons. My wife stood by me despite suffering from depression for many years. I’m happy to say I’m in a much better place now. She was the rock I needed to see me through. Best wishes to you too. 🙏

  4. You have a very beautiful love story And congratulations for your anniversary 💖, because of this story I knew that true love exist . It’s rare to find your soulmate but still it exist. You and your wife are both very lucky to have each other . May god bless you with unlimited joy and happiness ❤️

  5. This is the most purest thing I have heard after a very long time. Stories like these make in believe in love. Hope you have a great life ahead <3

  6. This was such an uplifting read, thank you! My hubby and I have been married for 36 years – the first 10 years were torture, but it’s come good. 😀

    1. Haha – only 6 more years for me to get through before its good then! 😂 36 years is an incredible achievement – Congrats. And thank you for your comment. I appreciate it. 🙏

  7. This is such a beautiful story. I have many stories of the first time I met someone who later became a very important part of my journey in life. I will share them someday, maybe in a book.

    I wish I would one day have a perfect moment to have a ‘first kiss’ experience too. 🤗🤗🤗

  8. This is the sweetest story! I love romance so much and you guys sound like you have a lovely one. I can’t wait for the time in my life when I’ll experience something so magical but I do know that it will happen☺️

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