I thought maybe talking about human connection is a good topic for today because why not.
We might at times feel like connecting with people is a waste of time. ‘Oh, if we meet, we will talk for an hour. I’d rather do this work’ or ‘I won’t call my mom. I will sleep.’ We might think of or say things like this. I think all of us have these moments.
But I learnt an important lesson from my recent experiences (which I kind of mentioned in my post last week). The lesson was this: The contacts you keep, they are there for you when you are not having the best time of your life. I had kept contact with a lot of my friends throughout the years (and they kept contact with me too). It did require a lot of time and effort, but it paid off. If it was not for my friends, I would have had a much worse time. But thanks to them, this time passed more easily than is usual and I am grateful.
Is this why we should keep friends? Just so that they can help us? No. This is just a good side benefit. The main reason is that we need friends because of our human nature. We need human connection. It is engrained in our basic make-up and we need to fulfil that. But there is no harm if this basic fulfilment brings in other benefits.
Seeing this happen, though, made me even more eager to keep my connections tighter. Now I want to make sure that I check on everyone in my life more regularly. I want to be there for them when they need more. In a sense, I want to return the favor that was done to me. This is also, I think, another benefit. Maybe when I keep my connections, my friends also want to keep their connections by example and this creates a chain. We can influence each other.
What do you think? Do you have a lot of friends? How is your connection with them? How have you benefited from your relationship with them? Let’s discuss friendship today.