Hello! Wishing everyone a good Sunday and a good week!
The dominant topic this past week has been how to save energy for me. Namely, how do I save my energy so I can be a better version of myself? I have been thinking about this longer but this week was the action time. What did I do? I cut some people off.
I looked at everyone in my life and thought whether this person is helping or improving me more than they take my energy for no reason. I cut two major influences in this way and it was not easy. One is a romantic interest, who was just doing too little for me to be involved in. Intentional or not, it looked like bread-crumbing. So, I deleted that contact because I realized, I was using more mental energy for that than I would love to. Then, maybe even a harder decision was a close friend of mine. She helped me a lot in the past and then I helped her a lot. She was a great resource for me in many ways. But somehow, I felt like if I didn’t put in the effort to be in contact with her, we would not have been so close. So, I tested this and did not contact her for a while. Surprise, she did not, until she needed me to take care of her kids. Then, she contacted me. So, I decided that I do not want this kind of dynamic in my life. This second one was much harder but I think it was necessary (for this time, at least).
After all of this, honestly, I feel a lot more joyful and happy. I feel like all my energy stays with me at all times. Maybe this is the biggest step I have taken for my self-care.
Have you done things like this? How did it feel? What other things do you do to save your energy?